posted March 27, 2003 03:41 AM              

I simply adore a Cancer who also has his Venus in Cancer. I am a Gemini female with Cancer rising. He has his Mercury in Gemini! We have some great connections!,

It is my experience that Cancer men don't usually make the first move romantically. I am very shy about asserting myself as well...but I really want to let him know I like him as more than a friend.

Any advice? Also, I am very curious about Cancer lovers...I imagine they are very attentive and sensual...I would love any feedback!

MM

posted March 27, 2003 04:36 AM              

I kind of got the idea he liked me but I wasn't too sure and I thought I gave him enough signals for him to know. In the end I got sick of waiting so see above

EEkkk he just caught me writing this and he's laughing his head off

I love my cancer man very much and we have been together for 5 years.

I just aked him what he'd prefer from a girl who liked him. He said

quote:

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Don't do anything rash and put it right on him, you just have to do something to get the ball rolling and if the dude has any nuts he will respond by *insert mumbling followed by 'I don't know'

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Ok, not very helpful thanx anyway darling....

I think they are not into phonecalls or letters so maybe you should just ask him over for dinner or something similar

As for attentive and sensual, oh yes, yes they are

posted March 27, 2003 06:12 AM              

However, I did date a Leo who had his Venus in Cancer and Mercury in Gemini and it took a little bit of reassurance for him to admit anything.

Check out the Best Lover threads for the 411 on Cancer men! I agree with RRR, they are attentive and sensual!

posted March 27, 2003 08:40 AM              

Right, Venus in Cancer is a beautiful placement, for sure in my case in relation to my Mars in Cancer it hits the sky high I can tell ya! But overall I think it is a swéét placement! And the Mercury in Gem./Sun in Gem. combo...I also have this with my love. Funny! A lovely combo, do yours and his make a conjunction? I don't know what I was going to write. Maybe I am rambling but hey...

I guess it all depends on the whole chart because as we can see there are a lot of different answers to your question in this thread. Cancers like to take the indirect way, never will they contact you directly. Always avoiding the core and slowly they get there! It is FUN! I am the same! Only the good old Aries can be annoyed by such behaviour, hehe.
It is like:" come on...tell me what you mean already, don't play around like that!!!!"
As for letters, for a Gem. Mercury I guess this will be a lot of fun! Is there any chance you can look him in the eyes? I mean search for some contact that way? Make him go weak in the knees? Or try something with emotions. Btw. is he a bit childish? I have found Cancer men always have something childlike. They like to play and act silly!
Why don't you invite him for diner after you have talked about the beautiful things in life?
Geez, I don't know! It is hard. I guess the opportunity will arise when the time is right! You will know!
Meanwhile, enjoy the adoration! Let us know, ok?

posted March 27, 2003 08:59 AM              

Sun Cancer direct
Moon Cancer direct
Mercury Leo direct
Venus Leo direct
Mars Virgo direct
Jupiter Cancer direct
Saturn Leo direct
Uranus Scorpio retrograde
Neptune Sa retrograde
Pluto Libra direct
True N Virgo retrograde

posted March 27, 2003 09:27 AM              

I just had to reply to this one too! My last relationship was with a Cancer man, and I too, am a Gemini. He had a Gem Moon, Venus and Jupiter, plus I've got Mars, Jupiter and Uranus in Cancer...so we had a wonderful connection. His Ascendant was Leo, and that combined with the Gem planets enabled him to make the first moves.

What I LOVED about him was his sense of humor and fun. He brought out the "little girl" in me and we "played" together beautifully. He would call me from work just to tell me a joke. We did a lot of talking, even had a psychic connection...communicating on several levels at once; it was eerie. We were both prolific readers and both loved to dance. ...And yes...he was a very good lover.

What I DIDN'T like about him was his disorganization (worse than me, and I can be pretty bad), his inattention to responsibility, and his instability. I have Venus in Taurus, so I need someone I can count on.

The thing that wrecked our relationship though, was him running to an old girlfriend the first time we had a serious disagreement. After my ex husband's infidelity and having my Moon in Scorpio...I have ZERO tolerance for that and ended it there and then. I grieved a long time afterwards.

MM, as for getting your Cancer man's interest, my best suggestion would be to stay open and friendly with him. Your Gem Sun with his Gem Mercury is ideal for that. Keep conversation light, but warm and friendly; allow him to feel "safe" to take things to the next level. My Cancer man approached me first, BUT I gave him the "green light" by smiling at him, and my friendly conversation both drew him out and drew him in...towards me! Sigh...I'd probably be with him today if he hadn't cheated... He DID have a "checkered" past, and I attribute that not so much to the Gem planets, as to the fact that he had no Earth in his chart at all to balance things. I don't know...

posted March 28, 2003 04:12 AM              

I am so excited to hear your stories and experiences. I am soooo happy because I get to see him very soon. I'll have to give you all some backgroud info-

But first, I don't have his exact birthtime, which so frustrates me!

He was born July 9, 1968 at Edwards Air Force Base, California.

I was born at 7:18am on June 9, 1977 in Washington DC.

We were both born on the 9th.

OK...this is the story....
I'll call my love interest D.
We met four years ago. He was roommates with my Aquarian ex-boyfriend for the first year my boyfriend and I were dating. I was with my Aqua man for 3 years- but it was a long distance relationship, so we only got to see each other once or twice a month on average. When I came to visit I would often go out on the town with my boyfriend and D. D and I always had fun together. In fact we would often end up talking at parties while my boyfriend was off entertaining the crowd. I was deeply in lust with my boyfriend and never thought of D romantically.

I sent D an invitation to my college graduation, and we struck up an email correspondence. After several mini-breakups my boyfriend and I finally called it quits when I discovered he was having relationships with other women. About a month after we broke up, D asked me to come to his house and give him 'decorating tips'. (How adorable). Anyhow I went over and we talked and talked and ended up at a cozy corner cafe having dinner. It was a lovely evening. Nothing romantic happened, as it was very soon after my breakup with Aqua. For personal reasons, I had to move 2300 miles away very shortly after our get together. Right before I left he invited me to a goodbye dinner. He thoroughly wined and dined me. But it was a bit awkward because my ex came up. It felt very platonic....

Then I moved.

Now, after 7 months of being away, I am going to be moving within two hours of him. We have kept an active correspondence the entire time I have been away...and we already have arranged to get together as soon as I get back!

Intially I felt guilty about pursuing a relationship with D, because he is friends with my ex (and they knew each other way before I came into the picture). But then I think- heck- Aqua was far from ideal in our relationship and he cheated on me!...so I shouldn't feel guilty. I have not had any communication with Aqua since we broke up last June.

So now D and I just flirt through email...and I have thought of him non-stop since I moved away from him. He is the smartest, funniest, kindest person I know. He has helped me with amazing advice and support so much these past months...but ALL through email...no phone calls.

I haven't dated...I've only thought of him...but I'm still not sure how he feels about me...I have a good idea he thinks I'm pretty nifty... I know he is not dating anyone right now.

So I sit here with about two weeks to go until I drive cross country to see him...and I am excited and nervous, and that's where it stands!!!

I am so tempted to just ask him if he thinks about me romantically...I was thinking that I may have to be like you RRR and just say 'Let's make out!' LOL. But- I don't know if I could muster the fourage to do it!

Only time will tell.

MM

posted March 28, 2003 05:04 AM              

In my opinion, if a guy writes you for all this time he ÍS interested in you....ROMANTICALLY!

Be prepared. Have you let anyone check your horoscope? Transits and such?
I am só excited for you, I can almost feel it over here!
Let us all know...please, please, please!

posted March 28, 2003 09:00 AM              

I agree with Mercy; it sounds like your Cancer guy already cares for you quite a lot!

His reticence to pursue things in a more romantic way could be for several reasons: 1) He may be wondering if you're still feeling vulnerable after your breakup with your ex and doesn't want to take advantage 2) He could be puzzling over any repercussions with his friend...your Aqua ex... if he should become romantically involved with you. My experience with Cancer men is that they are cautious, and yes, indirect...never proceeding in a straight line from point A to point B...just like a crab, lol.

When you see him I would suggest you make it known, albeit in a subtle way, that you are "so over" your ex...and open to new ideas. With the flirting that's already going on between the two of you, I'm sure you'll figure out a way to convey this! As for his friendship with your ex, I wouldn't "go there" unless he brings it up. Hopefully, if he senses you're okay with it, he'll take his que from you. It has been my experience that when a man really cares about a woman, he is not likely to allow anything or anyone stand in the way. Besides, it's like you said...your Aqua ex cheated...and (in my book anyway,) all bets are off.

posted March 29, 2003 05:14 AM              

Another Cancer here, living with another Cancer
I agree with you girls (hi, Twinlady , long time no "see"!, hi Mercy, glad to hear you're so happy , hi, RRR, wow, a Ram living with a "double" Cancer,c ongratulations!) about everything you said about Cancer men, they're are really wonderful and everything a girl could ask for once they feel SECURE & SAFE. So they need a lot of reassurance. The problem is just that, like Twinlady said, they tend to run away from problems and confrontations, so again I think the key here is to be patient with them and to make them feel secure and also needed. Cancerian men often need either a "mother" to take care of them or a "child" to take care for, depends on how much they're evolved. We often joke about that with my b/f - that we exchange these roles whenever one of us feels the need to be mothered, and we're both aware of that and we laugh about it, but it's nice to know that we can both turn to each other for emotional support and feel secure. My Cancer man often tells me that he needs to know that the woman he is (was ) after is totally crazy about him before he makes his move. He doesn't look shy at all, but he is insecure. Cancerian men usually need strong signals from women. I think in your case you have nothing to worry about, I think your Cancerian man has already long ago started this process of pursuing you, maybe even before you realised it yourself, and he's probably wondering the same thing: how can he approach you, will you turn him down, what is the best way to win your heart... He's just playing it safe like most Cancers do (if the thing they're after is important to them).

I wish you lots of luck but mostly

P.S. And yes, keep us posted!

posted March 29, 2003 05:41 PM              

And yes- he knows all about my astrology fetish, and my obsession for oils, herbs, rocks, etc. He loves to hear all about my pet rats, and my fondness for snakes.

At times when he writes, he drops very dramatic hints about thinking of me in a romantic light and I get soooo excited....

He'll start an email with My Dearest Miss X (insert my name where the X is)! When I informed him of one my recent misadventures trying to make friends here, he asked me why I should need go through such obstacles when I had him.

posted April 16, 2003 12:33 AM              

I can "feel" your excitement!
Have a wonderful time; I wish you much

You'll be in my thoughts!

posted May 23, 2003 10:43 PM              

And yes they run away from challenges. Pin him down, pin him down, coming from a cancer moon. He will be uncomfortable, but it's what he needs.

posted May 24, 2003 01:22 PM              

I wanted reassurance because I am insecure but he was not going to baby me. I was also afraid of being a mother for medical reasons. Still he had a huge influence on my life and forced me to make radical changes in the way I thought and worked. If it wasn't for him I wouldn't be where I am today, and I owe him an enormous debt. Every man after that was really jealous of him because I kept all his letters and cards. I loved him in a way I couldn't describe and it scared me that he could see through me and change my life forever. There was no objectivity in the relationship. (I don't mean to be insensitive here but I have to add that Cancer men are incredibly sexually attractive, and at that time I could not cope with my feelings)

Pinning down, I don't mean physically, I mean emotionally. Cancers need to know where you stand, how loyal you are and the best way to do that is demand loyalty in return. Cancers like to be depended on physically and emotionally, tell him your fears and concerns and actually act on his advice.

Let him know how he is affecting you, and how important he is in your life.
Dinner helps too, the most amorous a Cancer ever got with me was when I paid for dinner and told him he deserved it for how much he had given me through the years.
Cancers are sentimental so ask him about his childhood and pay attention to all the details. Tell him about yours.