posted October 15, 2005 10:10 AM              

When one person does all the work, and the other is drawing the other out, the assertive one gets insecure and defensive eventually.

I am not sure if she in this case, is terrified of her emotions or terrified of yours.

If you are assertive financially you always worry about losing money,
if you are assertive in another way, it's easy to worry about your reaction.Maybe this woman has a boundary and does not like to step beyond it, so if you mention certain words or get into areas of her life where she doesn't want to go she shuts you off immediately.

It's good to be self protective but one can always take it too far, or not far enough.

I just see this as a habit, or reaction, not a limitation unless you sense you are being pushed emotionally and unable to defend yourself.

When someone chats you up, it's usually approval or attention he or she is seeking,

what can we do but be careful with boundaries?
Natasha

posted October 15, 2005 06:10 PM              

Sometimes she won't even tell me when she's hurt adn I will see a cut or bruise on her while giving her a bath. She is the toughest child I've ever seen, but her cancer asc/moon is incredibly moody, emotive, emotional...and bitchy. I would say she is definitely emotive. But then again, I don't think the original poster was referring to 4 year olds LOL.

posted October 16, 2005 12:40 PM              

I have a Gem Stellium as well (Sun, Merc, Mars, Venus), but my Moon is in Cancer. I am very emotive, but I articulate rather than cry, etc. There has always been the misconception that Gems are cold or unemotional and that simpy isn't true.

I am very private about my emotions. If I know you and trust you, then I put it out there. Most of the time, I prefer to work things out internally.