posted August 12, 2004 12:16 AM              

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Who was it I sang some of Fiona Apple's lyrics to? Or yeah, Purplezen... from the song "Shadowboxer"...

Just become a really good Shadowboxer, or fight your better instincts and ignore them completely. YOU be the queen. Boy queens can be delicious sometimes, but never forget your power. If you need to literally go buy some girl boxing gloves, try it. You'll see what I mean.

(and remember - his weakness is his overconfidence in himself - BE CAREFUL!!)

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posted August 12, 2004 01:21 AM              

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Whatever, leyla. Maybe I was wrong, but don't let yourself sink to the role of victim, okay? We all have our burdens to bear. It sounds like you've been strong enough to deal with yours so far. It didn't kill you the first time, it won't if it happens again. There are no sure bets; it's all faith, so take the leap, or don't. Trust again, or not. What do you want me to say? What do you want anyone to tell you? To do it? Not to do it? That's your choice. You might get hurt, you might not. Is the risk worth the potential reward? Think about this wonderful new man of yours. What if he turns out to be as good as he seems? Would you like that? Do you want that? Do you want it bad enough to risk a fall? It is *always* a risk, and to be completely honest, you're going to get hurt, and hurt *bad* more often than not, no matter how careful you are. I know that. And the more you want it, the better the love, the more it hurts when things go bad. But sometimes it's worth it, even with the pain. Is he worth it? Is he worth that risk? Your choice.

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posted August 12, 2004 01:35 AM              

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Alarik:

I'm not trying to decide anything. I'm not making any "choice."

What ever gave you the impression that I was coming to you, hat in hand, for advice?

I stated at the very beginning: I'm doing a "relationship autopsy." I'm about to enter into a new relationship and don't want to bring in any old baggage.

I want to get this put away and move on. Might as well look over his chart while I'm in the process.

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posted August 12, 2004 01:39 AM              

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"I ran into ONE real monster, and now I'm afraid to get involved with ANYONE.
Alone = Safe

Why this has all come up now, after so long: I've met someone I like a lot. He seems wonderful.

What if he changes personalities on me, like my ex did? What if it's all an act and a trap?

Now I'm thinking about getting involved all the old fears come up. I've been having nightmares about being back with my ex.

It's just so hard to trust again, after an experience like that. "

Did you or did you not say this?

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posted August 12, 2004 01:45 AM              

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I am getting involved. Not trying to decide. But thinking about it scares me. It's brought up the past, which I'm trying to sort out.

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posted August 12, 2004 01:46 AM              

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Whatever. I'm starting to get a little confused, perhaps. I'm not sure why, after six years, you think that examining the relationship again with people that know neither you nor your ex is suddenly going to help you shake off your issues of trust. So I assumed you were looking for people to tell you what to do. Or, give you encouragement or validation or whatever. I'll admit that maybe I completely misunderstand you.

But whether or not you were looking for advice like I thought you were, what I said is still what I think I should have said. You were hurt. It's entirely possible that you'll be hurt again. And no amount of pondering the matter will change that. You're afraid, and that's ok, evidently you've already decided that it's worth hte risk. The scars won't go away by talking about them, you've just got to let yourself be open to a positive experience. And I bet you are. So what's the deal? Where's the problem? You know what you're getting into, it seems, you know where you've been and where you're trying to go. What's left but to do it?

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posted August 12, 2004 01:49 AM              

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This is an astrology site and I wanted to go over his chart.

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posted August 12, 2004 01:50 AM              

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Okay. Pardon me

For my benefit, though, how exactly is that going to help you? Just so I know, because I'm baffled.

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posted August 12, 2004 01:54 AM              

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Btw, here's my intuitive chart analysis (because...I am nothing if not helpful ):

He's a jerk who treated you badly and he's not worth your mental or emotional effort and you should forgot about him and move on with your life.

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posted August 12, 2004 01:54 AM              

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"...Let's take one of the most confusing "cases" in modern history. Anne Heche. I'm not even considering her astrological placements here because I'm being very general about a complicated person.

She said when she was living a gay lifestyle, she was not attracted to men. And that when she got married to that guy, she was not attracted to women.

Well - if you believe any of the f'ing politically correct crapp they keep serving up society, you're simplemindedness has no way to wrap itself around all that. Not to mention, you cannot find anyone by the water dispenser or the coffee pot to have a conversation about this with, lest you find the memo about you being handed around behind your back..."

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posted August 12, 2004 01:56 AM              

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... and don't forget the whole Wizard of Oz scene ...

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posted August 12, 2004 01:58 AM              

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AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just notice the word "moderator" next to my User Name...

Has anyone else been loosing track of the days? Like when you wake up, you cannot remember what day it is? Or do I just need to adjust my meds again? (or not)...

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posted August 12, 2004 01:59 AM              

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I don't buy into much that's PC, but I must be just as simple as I would be, because I don't know where you're coming from either, astro junkie

Ahh, I've got moon square mercury today, no wonder.

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posted August 12, 2004 02:02 AM            

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*Quick!!!!!
Look over there!!!!
*points
Yes, over there....
What's that?
Oh.. it's just that darn distraction technique.
Yes, it is quite stunning and cool, huh?
Yep.
Hi, Your Mod-ership!!! My Libran Love, My super-dooper cool distractor.
You'll make a fine one, lassie
*chucks you one on the shoulder.

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posted August 12, 2004 02:06 AM              

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HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!

hee hee hee
ho ho ho

*rasberry*

*wipe spit off my screen*

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... it's better to light a candle than curse the darkness

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posted August 12, 2004 02:17 AM              

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Arlik: If I can figure out how to spot con artists, by their birth charts, it may help me avoid future ones.

At the least I'll *feel* more secure.

So far we've narrowed it down to double cancers and people with uranus in their first house.

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posted August 12, 2004 02:31 AM              

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Well, sorry to say it, but I'm telling you it just isn't that simple. You can't judge people by their chart; you show me a bad double cancer and I'll find you a good one, it just doesn't work that way. Everyone's got the possibility for bad tendencies in their chart, but no chart garauntees that personw ill succumb to them, you know? How about you find the chart of this new man of yours, and people can tell you what to look for, as far as *potential* problems. I think that might give you more real help.

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posted August 12, 2004 02:44 AM              

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OH! You mean "con artist" aspects? That's another story. There's plenty of those. Maybe even too many to really - I mean - if you want to be obessessive about it. But we can do that...

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posted August 12, 2004 02:54 AM              

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Alarik: I never said it would be 100%, but every little bit helps.

Anyway. Here's the new guy: (I'm already having serious doubts about him.)

Born in Peterborough, ENG (UK)
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Sun Aries
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Aries
Venus Aries
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Gemini
Saturn Leo
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
True Node Libra

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posted August 12, 2004 02:59 AM              

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"The new guy"

(???)

I was going to give you astrological indications possibly found in "con artists"... but... ummmm...

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posted August 12, 2004 03:02 AM            

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well... ew!!! I don't generally like when people put their anus in my first house either.
Or my second one.

Yeah.. there are idiots everywhere.. even where a good person used to be... they come and go. Literally.
But indulge her!!! If she wants to assess a chart.... so be it. We each heal in our own way... but yes, be aware that a$$es come in all forms.. even when the chart indicates other things.

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posted August 12, 2004 03:07 AM              

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No one ever said it was an exact science, but what's the point of astrology if not to go over peoples charts??? !!!

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posted August 12, 2004 03:12 AM            

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Indeed!
Agreed!
Let's all go out to an after hours club.
Lemme go get dressed......

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posted August 12, 2004 03:15 AM              

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Woo hoo! I'm with ya'!

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posted August 12, 2004 03:20 AM              

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Wait- somebody needs to bring a fake ID for Alarik.

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