posted April 20, 2016 04:50 PM            

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Originally posted by Seimei:
Well in the chart for this certainly we would look at parental relationships, being our first teachers, then sibling relationships as social integration or it's failure must be learned.Positve/negative aspects/YES/ but this is after all learned behavior/conditioning.
So surely all those signifiers as well as the 7th.
Two persons born the same day have parents
born on different dates and raised differently therefor making any attributions to chart configurations are tricky.
That said,, Saturn aspects,,Pluto aspects and Neptune aspects maybe, personal planets rx or in the 12th, and negative aspects to planets in and ruling the houses involved and negative aspects to rulers of the issues in question. Many factors could be involved in reflecting how/why an individual learned such behavior growing up.
Not cut and dry is my point!

a retro Mercury or Venus or both in natal

or beginning in the progressed chart at an early age in the 1rst/4th/7th/10th/or ruling the same and also poorly aspected(afflicted < old term) would support this so it may not be seen strongly in the natal but come one strong in formative years. In such cases Saturn as well as the moon are likely focal

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posted April 23, 2016 12:05 PM            

I've been struggling with social awkwardness and social anxiety my whole life! I started seeing a psychologist a couple of years ago and this really helped me a lot So it is possible to improve! I also have a really hard time relaxing, so I also started yoga class, meditation and reading a lot about how to become more self confident. This is all helping me and giving me the guiding tools to get a more relaxed life, without so much inner pressure.

The key is really to build up your self-confidence, start get to know yourself and remember to have a lot of alone time... I think social anxiety can happen to everyone in a periode of their life, and it takes some seriously hard work to get out of! Luckily virgo is also known as a hardworking sign, that seeks improvement and solve problems:P

And another important thing to remember is also that the mutable signs (virgo, pisces, sag, gemini) is known for being very curious, adaptive and flexible. They love to learn new stuff and can adapt to every social situations... I think the mutable signs also cares too much. They need to just learn how to relax and be themselves... not everyone has to love you

posted April 24, 2016 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I'm a virgo sun with pisces moon (square uranus, opposite mars and sun) mars in virgo was well... so I'm heavy mutable as well!

I've been struggling with social awkwardness and social anxiety my whole life! I started seeing a psychologist a couple of years ago and this really helped me a lot So it is possible to improve! I also have a really hard time relaxing, so I also started yoga class, meditation and reading a lot about how to become more self confident. This is all helping me and giving me the guiding tools to get a more relaxed life, without so much inner pressure.

The key is really to build up your self-confidence, start get to know yourself and remember to have a lot of alone time... I think social anxiety can happen to everyone in a periode of their life, and it takes some seriously hard work to get out of! Luckily virgo is also known as a hardworking sign, that seeks improvement and solve problems:P

And another important thing to remember is also that the mutable signs (virgo, pisces, sag, gemini) is known for being very curious, adaptive and flexible. They love to learn new stuff and can adapt to every social situations... I think the mutable signs also cares too much. They need to just learn how to relax and be themselves... not everyone has to love you

Just be true to yourself! (lol omg I'm such a preaching virgo right now)

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