posted July 27, 2005 04:35 AM              

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In my expereince, Leo hates to be ignored.Cancers are too
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they actually fear rejection !

u actually remind me of someone actually .
u know the kind of threads that u have satrted or are thinking of like , "what man want" have a lot of similarty with a sscorp woman who was here earlier .
if u see the old posts , u 'll feel the similarity .

posted July 27, 2005 05:38 AM              

Well a girl chasing me would be fine but then after sometime,it becomes like,hey girl get outta my way your always behind me...

It has to be a mix

You always treasure something more if you work hard for it tnd then get it.....no pain,no gain...

posted July 27, 2005 05:48 AM            

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Ya Sounded more like Scorp or Leo.I didn't even think about Aries.

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posted July 27, 2005 06:14 AM              

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Usually I can see thru the usuall mind games girls play,stupid....[QUOTE]

Just wondering have you dated or chased any Water sign because they would be playing lot more games and if you can understand that then well I think it's REALLY GREAT.The depth and emotions can be difficult.

nove731 :
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Lmao. My Mars is in the 5th House and my Chart Ruler (Mercury) is in the 8th.

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posted July 27, 2005 09:27 AM              

"Do you like girls chase you ?""

Very much so, plus its many bonus points for her if she has nerve like that. Not to many women do here in NY... In Florida was another story when I lived there...Got sorta carzy and scary.

""Do you prefer chasing somebody ?"

To a degree,, its fun sometimes. Dont think I actualy prefer it beyond initial introduction.

"Do you like when woman play mind games ,hard to get?"

If hard to get is being played beyond a light freindly game- no bonus points, at the most I will flip it around on her, then walk away out of contempt. Hard to get is an easy to see through game of silly ego, and shows me absolutly no interesting or good personality traits, just the things I dont like about peaple...Even shows me a potential for dishonesty with me, and her self.

As far as head games, in the bedroom I think their great, and would be bored wihtout them. Outside of the bedroom- better be carefull, Ill make sure she is very sorry before Im done with her.

posted July 27, 2005 09:56 AM              

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the guys who ive abhorred, i will abhorr them till i die. i dont care if they morph into nobel prize winners or god. I JUST DONT LIKE THEM AND THEY CAN GO TO HELL.

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That is the most hilarious way I've heard a thought like that put. I snorted my coffee when I read it! Thanks, SG! =)

Hmm... the answers to those questions for me:

It would take me a few dates (maybe 4 or 5) and a LOT of hanging out to decide whether I really wanted to be in a relationship with him. I've got to be sure he gets along with my friends, isn't jealous of my male friends and such... so yeah.
Marriage... ummm.... never!! (Unless there was like this mindaltering connection with him and I heard voices telling me that he was 'the one' or some such thing... even then, I think I would be more likely to check myself into a loony bin than say yes. I just don't like the idea of marriage.)

I like it when guys pursue me rather than the other way around. I usually end up embarassing myself because I like the chase more than the catch when I'm the one doing the chasing. So it all gets a little awkward at the end where it's like 'umm... ok, I've got you but you know what, I don't think I really want you anymore...' When guys do the chasing, hmm... actually, no it kind of IS like that even then.... I think I just have a short attention span, LOL! Anyway, if the guy does the chasing, all I have to do is sit and look pretty instead of pursuing him which is definitely a much more tedious job.

Sex... Once there's a connection. Don't know how long that might take to happen.. days, months, years, who knows! Whenever the shoe drops, I guess.

posted July 27, 2005 01:51 PM              

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So it all gets a little awkward at the end where it's like 'umm... ok, I've got you but you know what, I don't think I really want you anymore..

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women are allthe same everywhere . a friend of mine told me this when i was school , i am not sure of her sign though .
btw, whats yours?

posted July 28, 2005 01:20 AM              

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It would take me a few dates (maybe 4 or 5) and a LOT of hanging out to decide whether I really wanted to be in a relationship with him. I've got to be sure he gets along with my friends, isn't jealous of my male friends and such... so yeah.

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I just wonder what happens to guy when you are still going around with him and trying to know him.

I mean I also take sometime to know a person so sometimes guy thinks that I am interested and he gets a complete shock when I don't find him appropriate and refuse him.He
thinks I was playing games with him.
I would love to know how do you deal with that.

posted July 28, 2005 07:37 AM              

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I mean I also take sometime to know a person so sometimes guy thinks that I am interested and he gets a complete shock when I don't find him appropriate and refuse him.He
thinks I was playing games with him.
I would love to know how do you deal with that.

I don't know what do guys have to tell about this.

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: I SIMPLY HOLD A GRUDGE .

jokes apart and honestly its quite hard for me to handle b'cos i get attached with people very fast and i have a fear of rejection .
but its all temporary , i come out of the situation accept the reality . be pragamtic.

and i'll add one thing , if that girl was genuine ( as alchemist said , u get that feeling , more on that later!)no hard feelings on my side then , may be my respect for her might increase but if she was not , then she has created an arch foe for life .

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Freebird, I don't think one has to be rude or crude to be firm and decisive in saying no.

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ABSOLUTELY AGREE .
but most of the times what happens is , women in thier construed version of thier freedom , cross that fine line . always.

alchemist says she gets the idea if the guy is attracted , i bet almost every woman gets that idea . i just feel everyone should be firm but empathetic.
being rude isn't the only way out .

alchemist: i dont know if its your pisces moon but i identify with your diplomatic style .
infact a gemini told me once that the only (similarity and) point of jealousy among a cancer and gemini is the thier diplomacy .
i feel geminis are diplomats but cancer outperform them by being outspoken diplomats . may be thats why i identify with your empathetic ways .
even if it wasn't in the realms of diplomacy , i would have certainly supported your view .

posted July 28, 2005 09:53 AM              

What I meant was how I feel it while refusing ? I mean I would think that was very rude and cruel on my end.That's when I am also attracted but resisting him for some
pragmatic reason.While with the guy I would be like "I respect your felings",I am sorry " and so on.I would try to explain him all the reasons why relationship isn't possible.

My problem is empathy for others sometime.

posted July 28, 2005 10:50 AM              

Well, when I first go out with a guy (still in the 'feeling out' the person stage), it's very casual, not a lot of physical contact, just, you know, getting to know each other. Almost platonic (on my end, anyway). See, with me, it's a bit of a 'friends before lovers' sort of thing, so I have to know the guy as a friend before I can even think of him as a lover (in the actual sense, not just a physical one). I feel like I don't respect/trust the other person as much unless this friendship is established first (the difference between a boy toy and an actual relationship, I guess you could say). Maybe this is a bad thing, but I've found that that has been my mentality so far.
I get what you're saying about being cruel and rude freebird, and believe me, I worry about the same thing a lot! I think I just try to make it very clear that during the first stage (of hanging out and going on casual dates), it's very... you know... not serious and I'm still checking him out (in more ways than one, hehe =). Most guys don't have a problem with this in my experience. The ones that do... well, they never make it past that stage. I don't think they can say that I lead them on though, because it's not like I was all over them before that or anything. I think that if you know in your heart that you didn;t do anything to give them any untoward ideas, your conscience is pretty much clear. If they misunderstood, then to me, that's kind of their own fault, you know? I mean, I still feel bad about it if they feel hurt for any reason, but I refuse to feel guilty!

Hmm... LOL! I don't think I've ever actually written down my dating style before. It's actually a little embarassing!!

posted July 29, 2005 02:02 AM              

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I think you guys just got a complete wrong picture about being rude and cruel.I agree some can get but I don't.It's not a crime to love someone.

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now , u are confused!

alchemist

posted July 29, 2005 03:31 AM              

OK I am confused and in this perticular case lot more because he is good friend and don't wanna loose him.

First response was Emotional from Heart

I hated my decision but didn't say much bad to him except tried to make him understand
what I was thinking in nicest way. Still felt that I was rude because I was not only being bad to him but to myself.There was inner conflict.

I am not sure what he feels.He must have been disappointed.I am not sure whether he thinks it's rude.

Second response was Logical from Head

I made up my mind I needed to do that and it's good overall.

I Questioned myself dozen of questions,asked few advice and then reached a conclusion.Some people don't go through this but I do.

posted July 29, 2005 01:39 PM              

is libra your asc.?