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Topic: Fat Jokes? Why Didn’t My Aqua Friend Just Shut Up?
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ARIESPINK
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posted September 04, 2005 10:35 AM
 
Hi waternyph,Excuse the spelling mistakes, but as I have a Gemini rising, I tend to write very fast and do not read over. Hope you can make sense. IP: Logged |
DayDreamer
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posted September 04, 2005 01:44 PM
WN...why bother being Aquas friend at all. I hope you're not Aquas friend because you feel sorry for her, and because no one else was ever kind to her. Personally if I found out a friend of mine was only my friend because they felt sorry for me than I would be p!$$ed off. Agggghh I wish women werent so sensitive about their appearances. IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted September 04, 2005 03:29 PM
Thanks for the replies.Ariestiger, your posts are always lovely to read - thanks for the advice...and the compliment  Whiterabbit, I’m truly sorry to you and any Aquarian who read my harsh post…I get a little crazy when emotional. Piscean empathy is our own personal curse lol it *should* be good, but it isn’t. Oh and you weren’t butting in  and thanks for the nice thing you said.
“but is it having effect? And are you ok?”
Yes it is, and right now…no I’m not. “Don't you need a friend to be good to YOU?”
Well…she tries to be, but harms me without realising it. But I find it hard to talk about emotions with her…altho I will try - and we are back to being friends now. Cancerrg, she is an adult, and she knew exactly what she was doing. But yes, as a friend, I should have smacked her head. But this was between family members, not friends - so I didn’t know if it was my place. And I was SHOCKED, what would you have done? TMNF, what you said did help hun I’m trying to talk to the Leo, but can’t find her…just have to try harder I guess. Ariespink, I’m a Piscean.
You know, it’s funny what you said about forgetting…she does act like it didn’t happy. I don’t think she’s realised how badly hurt the Leo is. If I talk to her…I get a blank confused look - like “huh? you’re still thinking about that?” I seriously doubt the Leo will forget, but she might forgive.
And you’re post made perfect sense DD she’s the one attached to me. What am I supposed to do? Say “I don’t like you, stop following me”
I’m not forcing her to stay friends with me.
Hun I’m not friends with her because I feel bad for her - I’m remaining friends with her because I feel bad for her. If I ever left her, it’d be because she’s a bad person…not because I don’t like her. “I felt very sorry for her…which was why I became friends with her” this was when I was twelve - things have changed. “OK now I adore my Aquarian friend…she‘s more like a sister…” ------------------
aka Neptune’s Mermaid, NM, WN, Nurse Neptune, Waternixie, Nepsnympe and deputy #6 IP: Logged |
ARIESPINK
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posted September 04, 2005 04:58 PM
Hi Waternyphy,Thank you for the compliments. Delighted to be of assistance any time. You are most kind. IP: Logged |
ARIESPINK
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posted September 04, 2005 05:00 PM
WaterNymph,So sorry for spelling your name incorrectly, put it down to extreme tiredness and the fact that I write far too fast. Take care. IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted September 05, 2005 04:48 AM
You're way too sweet hun 
It's cool...I like Waternyphy, I’ll add it to my list, hope you don’t mind ------------------
aka Neptune’s Mermaid, NM, WN, Nurse Neptune, Waternixie, Nepsnympe and deputy #6 IP: Logged |
sweetlibra
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posted September 05, 2005 05:07 AM
I also think ur Aqua friend was paying back for some humiliation she suffered in the past.
May be the same fat joke from Leo cousin.
I [Aqua moon] also have heard the same sentence from a Leo friend in the past and planned the same humiliation back then. But somehow my Libra sun blocked it  IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted September 05, 2005 07:58 AM
As an Aqua, rather than get trapped in a cycle of revenge, I tell the person I REFUSE to associate with them unless they stop. But this is a cousin. Since this is "family" she can't very well avoid this person. God knows how deep these family rivalries go. You're most likely to be murdered by a relative, you know.
 My mother (Aries) had the same issue with her cousin. The cousin had shown up for my charm school graduation, and needed a ride home. My mother abandoned her across town when she needed a ride, then gloried her spiteful action in it for days.
 Twenty years before, my mother was a nerd, and the "cool" cousin didn't want to be seen with her in the car. This cousin had once refused her a ride home from high school when she was ill and throwing up.
 Had it been me I'd have given her the ride... reminding her allllll the waaay hooooome of how she left me sick at school. By the time I dropped her off she'd wish she'd have walked. IP: Logged |
Pink Angel
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posted September 05, 2005 01:56 PM
i hate it when people meet you like once in a year and then tell you if you've lost weight or put on weight..and hey im an aquarian too.. dont say bad things about us..it hurts :-(
i would never tell someone they've put on weight..unless its ALOT,and for their sake..
if thery looked really good before and theyre looking bad now, then i guess they should know..but not in front of everyone..IP: Logged |
DayDreamer
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posted September 05, 2005 08:59 PM
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DD she’s the one attached to me. What am I supposed to do? Say “I don’t like you, stop following me”
I’m not forcing her to stay friends with me.
Umm if that's the truth, then yeah tell her that! Sit down and tell her how you feel about how rude her behaviour is and not just about that one juvenile instance. Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel. She may not like it and get upset. But she will eventually try to see from your perspective. And if you really don't want to remain friends with her, tell her and dont make yourself available. She will find friends she is compatible with. She might even learn a lesson on social etiquette  quote:
Hun I’m not friends with her because I feel bad for her - I’m remaining friends with her because I feel bad for her. If I ever left her, it’d be because she’s a bad person…not because I don’t like her.
I guess there is a fine line between this. Don't feel sorry for her. She will move on, she is stronger than you think. I have been on both sides. I've had one of those friends who was "bad"...more like a blood or life sucker though. And I have been that "bad friend". Actually last January I had a bad argument with my sister in front of one of my "friends". She had no clue about the history between my sister and I. And after that fight she saw me as "bad" and made the decision not to speak to me (Though I still talk to and love my sister). And you know what, that's fine with me. She can stick to her judgements about me, we can both move on our separate ways. Perhaps that's the best thing for you and your Aqua "friend" And who knows...she may turn around, change and become a better person after some time IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted September 06, 2005 10:13 AM
My biggest flaw is that I’m sooooooooo judgmental. She knows that………….I’m starting to feel like the bad friend now.------------------
aka Neptune’s Mermaid, NM, WN, Nurse Neptune, Waternixie, Nepsnympe, Waternyphy and deputy #6 IP: Logged |
MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted September 06, 2005 10:31 AM
Then simply tell her what oyur problem has been, and ask her what was wrong with her.IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted September 06, 2005 11:07 AM
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Cancerrg, she is an adult, and she knew exactly what she was doing. But yes, as a friend, I should have smacked her head. But this was between family members, not friends - so I didn’t know if it was my place. And I was SHOCKED, what would you have done?
are u shocked at my response or at the situation that u got put into ?
if it was the situation , i feel i would have ben the same . and my response , evenm if it was between family , if i am very close to the person , i would have pointed her mistake .
well , thats a cancer persepective of realtions especially friendship .
and , well i am not passing any judgements , but in my view , u should have pointed her mistake . that would have been better.
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