posted November 13, 2005 04:09 AM              

incase ,u dont like the idea of being violent, confront him in front of people with whom he tries to maintain a good image (not the people that who believe him immensly)

and be ready for it to turn silly , with his libra/leo /scorp combine , words are bound to become nastiest .

posted November 13, 2005 04:20 AM              

The Libra guy I had a "friendhsip" with had similar placements....he had a very petty side to him. He had Venus in SCorp and Merc too...no offence to anyone out there (I have these too), but together they can make for a very powerful force in love....vindictive almost. If this guy isnt aware of himself, he could end up stinging himself more than you (his karma probably) !

If it makes you feel better, you could always try wriitng him a very strong letter and then burning it........this sends out your message on the astral plane....still very powerful without having any physical contact with him.

Good luck and mind yerself

love

Sue xxx

posted November 13, 2005 04:39 AM              

Personally, I WOULD write him a letter and tell him in no uncertain terms that things are not going to happen between you, and you think it is better that he found s/o else - so that at least you will have made some attempt at closure.

It will be difficult for him to take - as I - with Venus in Pisces - know - when a person is in love, it can be all-consuming, and last for a very long time. I've been in love with s/o for the best part of 2 years, but nothing has happened, or is ever going to happen, as he is already partnered up. So I have to just be friends with him, be friends with other men, do my best to improve my own life and earning power, hope that I will get over him gradually, and not view him too much through rose-tinted spectacles. Your friend (or rather ex-friend) needs to realize this. I take it he is young, so I suppose unrequited love is probably a bigger deal to him.

Good luck!

AT

posted November 13, 2005 05:09 AM              

Goto all the useless porn sites,sign up for the free porn in your mail thingy there....they are invariably spams,flood his friggin inbox,he'll never send another email from that E-mail account again...and hopefully,he'll catch a virus or two,and he'll be at work and when he checks his inbox in front of his boss....YOUR FIRED!!!! HAHAHA!!!

posted November 13, 2005 07:42 AM            

Lauren,

I don't think you should do anything at all.

Just ignore him.

The only thing he wants is you playing his mind games! You are no match for him in his low acts! Not all Scorpio Venus people are like that but I've met some that tried to do such things to me too.

They don't want to win you over with their good attitude, love, friendship etc they want to force into their games and bring you under their total control.

The worst thing for them is to be totally ignored.

My advice - ignore him, don't get involved into this $$it, don't waste your enery and emotions on this!

Moreover, I am sure you should tell your guy about this because he may be receiving *insert my gfs name* emails too!

posted November 13, 2005 12:40 PM              

and it's like he likes to play games with words, if I ask him a question and he is made he will spell out the words for me.

To get a reaction.

Lauren the guy wants you to get mad, so walk it off, try to think about something else, because you are right he is immature.

posted November 13, 2005 12:58 PM              

"Lively in spirit with a desire to make a statement and a definite distaste for being ignored."

posted November 13, 2005 09:45 PM              

You tried ignoring him and you are still ****** . Best to go with your instincts at all times with men and be a ***** . I just read Why Men Love Bitches and when I am mad I pretty much fit the type, except that I do not act polite, but I am to the point.

Men do not really Love Bitches, they respect them but it's better that way.

I just finished with an Aqua/Leo Moon and I had to confront him because dealing with him in a polite direct way did not work. He spent the entire week getting me to have dinner with him, and helping me decorate his home for a Halloween party, then never picked me up. I know he is the jealous type, and hated my new job, because the weekend before he drank a lot and said very nasty things.

SO, I decided a confrontation would work best rather than stewing. I called him up and asked him what was up? He was like, hey, nothing much, I said where are you? He said, I don't want to get into it..but. Then I said is it like that? He said yes, and Don't rub my nose in it! Yelling.

I said were you ever going to let me know what your problem was? Give me a direct answer because I deserve one, when did you decide to be such an ******* to me and stop caring? He said when I gave him attitude about my new job and new hours, and I said well you could have told me then, now we know don't we? And he started to explain but I said don't bother, you've hurt me enough. Then I hung up on him.

Very direct, very bitchy, and dramatic. Just what I needed to defuse the Leo Moon angry attitude. Now then he emailed me and one of the things he said was I needed to loosen up. This is coming from the most uptight man I have ever met. Since he was in essence saying I was a ***** , I was flattered, since if he was a woman, he would be the bitchiest female I have ever met.

My guess is that your friend is like my ex b/f- these men are fun, but when they are ****** , they will hang up, walk out, send letters, let you know Exactly how ****** they are and what your shortcomings are to the letter. And even enrage themselves even MORE by going on. Deep down there is a need to be emotionally engaged. There is no use playing cool if that's what he wants because it will never stop. It took me a while after reading your post to figure out whether your friend was cool and mean, or emotional and mean. But he's very emotional.

Once you know him, fight fire with fire.

Ignore, him or confront him, but make it final and firm-let him know you will walk out of his life Forever, if he doesn't behave, but if he behaves he may be able to be your friend.

Sounds like obedience training but that's the kind of boundary he wants.

Whether or not he will be your friend depends on his pride, but he won't retaliate, not to that.

Good Luck-I am a firm believer in fighting your enemy even if he is ignorant of hurting you, but you have to know him, to fight him. It's very difficult to tell if a man is the cool revengeful type that will take years to get to you, or the emotional type.

Personally I hate teasing, with a Cancer moon so when I dislike someone, an ex b/f, I am the cool vengeful type who can take years, lay in wait and say something nasty at the right time. The timing is everything. Or, I can throw a rock through a window-eventually it works better for me to become emotionally engaged and act immature right away, rather than try and take the high road.

Your friend would be perfect for the martial arts, if he has all that will to express himself, he could suck it in and act like a big man that way.

posted November 13, 2005 09:53 PM            

Absolutely ignore him. Leo Moon.. Mercury AND Venus in Scorpio.. Retrograde Jupiter in Aries... This man needs a serious reality check, but he needs to realize it on his own. No amount of yelling, badmouthing can possibly help the situation.

Deny him what he wants: attention from you.

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"I can resist anything but temptation." - Oscar Wilde

posted November 13, 2005 10:01 PM            

Not to make light of his behaviour by any means.

For you - try not to think on it, which is putting energy into it and giving his negative behaviour life. You already know what he's about. Next time you talk to him, either by email, phone or in person, act as though you don't know anything different has happened. Act yourself around him and go about things as you normally would. I wouldn't encourage anything with him, but drop suggestions about how well you and your boyfriend are doing, bring up future plans the two of you have. This will eat him up inside and let him know at the same time there is no future for this troublemaker with you. Then be nonchalant and cool as you saunter off.

I have a pain in the *** like this at work - the more I mind my own business and am happy, the more it drives her mad

posted November 14, 2005 10:40 AM              

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

posted November 14, 2005 11:09 AM              

19??? Really???
Wouldn't have guessed. You always sound so mature and aware of your own feelings as well as other people. You've got a very good start.

posted November 16, 2005 10:10 AM              

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I don't think I'll slap him but you're right about words becoming nasty..how'd you know? lol He hasn't *yet* with me..but a lot of times he called my bf names and tried to pass it of as a joke

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posted November 16, 2005 10:26 AM              

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The worst way to punish another human being is to deny that they exist

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GREAT! THANKS ! ( gives me an idea )

(lauren , do u think this will work with a cap , u being a cap moon ? )

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Men do not really Love Bitches, they respect them but it's better that way.

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THEY DONT RESPECT THEM , THEY ARE AFRAID OF THEM .
but , personally , i always feel how a man can act such with women .

posted November 23, 2005 08:36 AM              

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Leo wants attention and feeling as though they are ignored, would probably be worst for a Leo. Capricorn is the “old man” of the zodiac..they’re wayyy over the teenage (leo) attention seeking years lol.. so no I don’t think this would work. I think they'd see it as childish, ignore you back.. and forget about it quite fast.

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I spent some very interesting years being around Leo friends (ok, ex too). They're actually quite fascinating and creative to be around, and even their attention-seeking seems to happen in a really charming way. Ah, those years...

Ok, this guy is obviously hell-bent on not giving up with his little control-command-and-conquer game. In that last conversation he was basically saying just that, that he'll continue with his game no matter what.

Everyone is right in saying his behavior is fueled by you expressing concern for him and/or responding to his action in some way. Each time you respond, he gets encouraged and proceeds a step further.

Since he's getting to you through your cell, it'd just seem wise to either block calls coming from his number (if that's possible) or just ignore them as they do. If you do that for a while he'll lose the conviction that he's in control and from that the bold attitude as well.

I had something like this happen between a friend of mine and his ex. He just wouldn't leave it alone, even as months went by and everyone would tell him it's over. In the end he joined the air force and was shipped far away from Denver. Let's hope this guy isn't that persistent!

posted November 24, 2005 05:13 AM            

Hey lauren thanks . You flatter me, but I'm not really mature, for instance I am happy when I get to know that exams are over, and even though I don't like partying/drinking and stuff I'm a very stubborn person which is all my fault, thats what you get for being so patient, but I'm trying to change my ways and improve, need to be more flexible. And I'm definately not more mature than you, you're the kind of person I would ask advice from because you give brilliant advice and I'm so not eloquent as you.

Anyways about the guy, don't let him get to you, don't let him have power over you, don't let him affect you or irritate you, when he emails or says your boyfriend is cheating on you or whatever, just shrug and act like you're very bored. You can name his behaviour to temperary insanity. Anyways whenever he calls you and starts to talk, you can interrupt him and say something like 'yes yes I know you want to tell my boyfriend is an a**hole and he's cheating on me and since I already know what you want to talk about, whats the point of this conversation?, and we don't need to waste your friends credit for this so bye' and say this in a calm voice or if he's still insisting just groan and go like 'listen *whatever the crazy guy's name is* I've a brilliant idea, why don't we save some time and pretend that my boyfriends the best and is totally not cheating on me, ok? now please let me sleep, bye'. You can also be sarcastic but don't let him get you irritated. Thats calmness and it always works and you've a capricorn stellium so I bet you're a pro at that, so you just have to be yourself .

Sorry if my advice is kind of stupid, not really been in that kind of situation so I might be kind of wrong. Let me know how it goes. Oh and if he comes to your house (which I don't think he will) tell your roommate or your mom or whoever lives with you to tell him that you've gone out or if he's seen you then say that you've gone to a deep sleep and locked your bedroom, or if you live alone, just don't open the door, you could tell him that you're not going to open the door so he might as well stop but if he still continues you can act like you're totally oblivious to the doorbell ring and nicely watch your favorite movie or favorite tv program.