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Topic: Aquarius Men
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sue g
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posted November 29, 2005 03:17 PM
 
Oh dear....I think I better get me some of that Aqua moon....the blood running thro my veins is so red and warm and squigy.....and in the past I have been so soft and accommodating........I always FELT so deeply and didnt want to hurt.....how do you do that "Nope" thing........?I sort of admire that.....but was never accomplished in the art of it.....oh well in the next life, I will know better......hopefully hey guys?  xxx IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 29, 2005 03:21 PM
Yep another Aqua mooner here with alot of other Aqua in me too. Hey Sue Sweetie.. IP: Logged |
globe trotter
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posted November 29, 2005 03:37 PM
Hey, no. We, Aqua mooners, may not appear needy at all, but we stick to our relationship even when things get way above a reasonable tolerance level. It's not neediness, it's not clinginess because we never place the relationship at the center of our lives. I guess ours is laziness or just plain ignorance. We can so perfectly detach ourselves from the drama that we don't feel like there is anything wrong in the relationship. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 29, 2005 03:39 PM
proxieme - The rest of us who don't have ice water flowing through our veins need a few pointers to help us do what you seem to do naturally.IP: Logged |
LILYGIRL
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posted November 29, 2005 03:55 PM
I really like what you said Proxieme; you too Mama Mia. Maybe it's generational; maybe it's being married for a long time (15 years) because as I said before --then real life intrudes on your game playing and all bets are off. They look silly in the light of reality. And I wonder if I am simply swimming against the tide of modern paperback self help books. I can say without hesitation, I was never very good at game playing, and I never appreciated them in any man I dated. It's amusing; it always seems to backfire. Pretend to be what you are not and you will ultimately defeat yourself. The other partner will wake up and say, who the hell are you and where's the person I thought I fell for or knew?I don't think that has a whit to do with ice water running through one's veins, more to do with thought, ethics and a little courage. See, if you if you are truly authentic, you are going to take chances without manipulation. You are going to put your heart out there, And yes, guess what? It's not always going to go your way. That's life. You are going to get hurt, and your heart broken once in a while. With any luck less often then need be. But hey it's call getting back up on your bike and peddling again, sometimes alone, sometimes with a companion who's a better match. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 29, 2005 04:04 PM
Yep Lilygirl so true. Always be real. I always show who I am never a painted picture. Sometimes it maybe bad for me but in the end I always land on my feet. You can be phony and play games with me but I promise you in the end you will be sorry it is just the way it works..And if I have to play all these games to match you get you interested in me its not natural and cool cause I only want the natural stuff from jump... IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 29, 2005 07:23 PM
Would you dissuade someone from taking a "How to win friends" class or a "How to succeed at the office" class because they're "Not being their true self?"Even if that "true self" keeps getting walked on by people and passed over for promotion after promotion? Some people are socially retarded and need to learn how to function in the world. I know nobody taught me. My mother was a terrible role-model. She was on the begging end of four marriages. She didn't respect herself, so how could they respect her? Some men are just @ssh*les no matter what you do. But most of them only take advantage because women *let* them take advantage. You teach people how to treat you. She could have really benefited from what I know. Or maybe she would have just said she would rather be her "true self." Note: If your "true self" gets victimized over and over.... maybe it's time to change your true self. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 29, 2005 08:12 PM
Lelafaye: Basically sweetheart what ever works for you then that is what you do. I did not grow up like you so I don't feel the way you do. If playing games get you want you want then by all means do it. What we are just saying is that everyone does not have to play the game. I won't play the game I will just keep it moving...Peace to you.. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 30, 2005 03:27 AM
Is it really playing a game, or is it drawing a firm line on how you expect to be treated? My southern mother believed women should be submissive to men, and was horrofied by the way I spoke to my boyfriends. (shocked voice) "I can't believe the things you say to these guys on the phone!" "Yes, mother, that's why the boys are always ringing this phone off the hook." IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 30, 2005 09:43 AM
I guess it can be done both ways, Bc I do not play the game and I am real and keep it real boys ring my phone off the hook also..And again if you just so happen to catch my attention deeply and you mess up with your game playing you will be so sorry in the end happens all the time.. IP: Logged |
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