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Topic: Aquarius Men
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CancerGrly19
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posted November 21, 2005 01:56 AM
 
So this aquarian guy and I are friends...and I had a crush on him before we had even met, I saw him around and thought he was cute. But just recently about a month ago we started hanging out together. Well I started developing actual feelings for him, we like all the same things and in general I think he is a great guy. Me actually developing feelings is hard itself because I hate feeling attached and confined, which is something we both share. Anyway his friend is like you should tell him how you feel...I had been flirting with him and saying things like (half way joking...half way serious) "I think your hot." They both thought I was kidding. Well tonight I decide to finally get over my feelings I would just tell him...I did not expect him to return them, but to at least be like well your really cool...but I don't want a girlfriend. When I told him he shrugged his shoulders, and then begin to fiddle with his cloths on the ground. I feel stupid...and worse not even good enough to get an excuse out of...or at least for him to say, "I'm flattered." I thought he would be a little nicer about this. I thought that there would be some sort of an attraction...he remembers the first time (which was in like September) we met...details and all (I have no idea when we met). Is this normal for aquarius guys and is it normal to remember details like this. I feel not offended...but just slightly upset that I did not at least get a "I like you like a friend talk." I kinda feel that maybe I should not even talk to him, if I'm not at all worth giving an excuse to...why should I talk to him. I have experience with aqua guys the my high school love of my life was born on the same day and year as him. We also had issues...on my part. Any advise on aqua guys are needed.
My Placements:
Asc: Cancer
Sun: Cancer 1st
Moon: Cap 7th
Mer: Leo 2nd
Ven: Tau 11th
Mars: Can 1st
Jup: Aqu 8th
Uran: Sag 6th
Nep: Cap 6th
Plu: Sco 5th
Sat: Sco 5thHis Placements:
Asc: don't know the actual time...but he seems like a Pisces rising or at least a Nep in 1st.
Sun: Aqu
Moon: Sag
Mer: Aqu
Ven: Aries
Mars: Aries
Jup: Aqu
Uran: Sag
Nep: Cap
Plu: Sco
Sat: Sco
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sue g
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posted November 21, 2005 04:56 AM
Perhaps he is......shy......The Aquarian men I have known ( been married to one) behind their loud and boisterous exterior, are innately sensitive and often shy of women......what a delicious but infuriatingly frustrating combination.....mmmm....... I wish you much luck in pursuit of your uranian friend.....you will never be bored.....xxx IP: Logged |
MercurialMisfit
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posted November 21, 2005 01:38 PM
I've been dating an Aquarian for six years now...I knew he loved me the day he met me and it took him four years say the words I LOVE YOU.It takes them time to warm up. There is a good chance it is a mutual attraction, he was probably just uncomfortable that you actually uttered the words "I'm attracted to you". Aqua's seem to have a hard time with such openness about about a subject like FEELINGS. Talking about their emotions is so foreign to many of them! They treat it like a taboo subject! IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted November 21, 2005 02:13 PM
Isnt that why they can be so alluring.....they are very challenging arent they? Elusive, alluring, compelling, eccentric, unpredictable, intelligent........what more could a girl want.....  xxx IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted November 21, 2005 05:20 PM
Yes, I can add my five penn'orth to this as well, I was married to an Aqua for 7 years, he DID actually tell me he loved me within a month of our beginning to date but seemed to be alternately loving and aloof throughout our marriage (I think I brought out the warmth in him - he had a thing for Aries women...Reese Witherspoon, Sarah Michelle Gellar etc.  ) When I used to snuggle up to him, he treated it as an encumbrance...when I finally left him, he was crying (I wasn't).Like Sue says...you will never be bored, though if it's predictability you want, you may be disappointed.  AT IP: Logged |
taurean_scorpion
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posted November 21, 2005 05:55 PM
Aqua guys have a thing w/ girls being a bit overweight..., they always comment how you became fat or you look a bit thinner today...
doesn't really help w/ my self-esteen, these aqua males...it would be better if they didn't comment on my weight at all. they're extremely independent, and want independence in a relationship as well...they aren't the most warmest people I should say...can be attractive; that is just my opinion though. IP: Logged |
zoso
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posted November 21, 2005 08:48 PM
An Aqua I've been crushing on for years now brought up the very first thing I had ever said to him this past summer...3 years after I met him. I had totally forgotten what I mentioned, but he remembered (of course, it was about him so maybe that's why he logged it into memory).IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted November 22, 2005 08:50 PM
Then there is no way I am going to attract an Aqua right now as I like a little extra weight on me, looks good on a Taurus.The last Aqua man I dated was a little on the heavy side himself but he did like thin, athletic women. Natasha
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CancerGrly19
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posted November 24, 2005 03:36 PM
So we talked before I left for thanksgiving break...we clarified that him shrugging his shoulders was not to dismiss my feelings which he did not want to do. He said that he did not want to hurt me and that he did not return the feelings. I explained to him that I was hurt not by him not liking me but by his action. I told him that when he had said hi to me that morning it ****** me off because he was acting like nothing happned. He basically did not want to hurt my feelings. But He apparently had no idea that I liked him. Which I thought was very interesting. My feelings for him are actually stronger because I know he is a standup type of guy. I am not quite sure how to act around him, I want to still be his friend but in the back of my mind I can't but feel my insecurity about myself sink in. I know he likes my company and being around me, but to me its like he enjoyes me to the point of friendship but is not attracted to me physically or enough to take it to another level. I even found myself thinking if I were prettier, thinner, or whatever then he would like me. I guess I am going to have to try to get over him, as aqua's are fixed and so I doubt he will ever be romantically interested in me...but then part of me is like if we hang out enough he will get feelings for me. I don't know. The whole situation which is honestly not a big deal is not the norm for me...I typically am not attracted to guys who are friends after just starting to hang out with them (we have just started to become friends this month) or do I make it a big deal to want to be around them. Any info is great. ThanksIP: Logged |
CancerGrly19
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posted November 24, 2005 03:52 PM
So we talked before I left for thanksgiving break...we clarified that him shrugging his shoulders was not to dismiss my feelings which he did not want to do. He said that he did not want to hurt me and that he did not return the feelings. I explained to him that I was hurt not by him not liking me but by his action. I told him that when he had said hi to me that morning it ****** me off because he was acting like nothing happned. He basically did not want to hurt my feelings. But He apparently had no idea that I liked him. Which I thought was very interesting. My feelings for him are actually stronger because I know he is a standup type of guy. I am not quite sure how to act around him, I want to still be his friend but in the back of my mind I can't but feel my insecurity about myself sink in. I know he likes my company and being around me, but to me its like he enjoyes me to the point of friendship but is not attracted to me physically or enough to take it to another level. I even found myself thinking if I were prettier, thinner, or whatever then he would like me. I guess I am going to have to try to get over him, as aqua's are fixed and so I doubt he will ever be romantically interested in me...but then part of me is like if we hang out enough he will get feelings for me. I don't know. The whole situation which is honestly not a big deal is not the norm for me...I typically am not attracted to guys who are friends after just starting to hang out with them (we have just started to become friends this month) or do I make it a big deal to want to be around them. Any info is great. ThanksIP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
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posted November 24, 2005 11:32 PM
I'm an aqua, and I don't like serious talks. Neither do any aquas I know.I know the way he handled the situation wasn't the best, but what do you expect from us? LOL
He may be interested in you though, just make sure you give him SPACE and don't weigh him down with any emotions!! (not that you would, of course ) Trust me, he will be OUT THE DOOR. We aquas like friendly, unemotional, intellectual conversations. Now that he knows you like him, don't mention you do anymore, just be normal, and see what happens. Try not to flirt. Don't be afraid to act YOURSELF around him, and KEEP IT LIGHT! Just some words of advice darlin... ------------------
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LeylaLeFay
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posted November 26, 2005 02:48 AM
A man pursues a woman and he is "being romantic."
A woman pursues a man and she is "mentally unstable."Action: A man calls his girlfriend five times in one day just to say "I love you"
Result: she is delighted. Action: A woman calls her boyfriend five times in one day just to say "I love you."
Result: He thinks she is needy, clingy, and crazy. Action: A man is always leaving his girlfriend little notes and gifts
Result: she shows them off to her friends with pride. Action: A woman is always leaving her boyfriend little notes and gifts.
Result: He examines them with fear and uneasiness, and wonders if he has a stalker. (Really, you may as well have left him a dead rat.) Action: A man tells his girlfriend he wants to get serious and make a commitment.
Result: She leaps into his arms with joy Action: A woman tells her boyfriend she wants to get serious and make a commitment.
Result: He gives her the "back off" speech and wonders if he will have to join the French Foreign Legion to escape this "totally obsessive psycho-chick." -----------------------------------------------------
It's all about understanding guy "code." When they say they want a girl who is "Honest" what they really mean is "I don't want a liar who will sleep with my best friend behind my back." What they do not mean is: "I want a woman who will pour out her heart and soul across the table." A lot of men say they want intelligence. But when questioned as to exactly what they mean by "Intelligence," they said they want a women who is "Elusive" and "Keeps them guessing" and "Is a challenge." What they do not mean is: "I want a woman who will discuss politics and physics at length." IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted November 26, 2005 03:05 AM
Ha, that's so funny about the gifts it's true! I gave my Cancer a pumpkin pie and a bottle of wine tonight and he looked uneasy! Even Cancer men feel uneasy about this sudden show of dominance. You are saying, I own you! With this pie, or coffeemaker!Oh God and I gave an Aqarius an expresso machine last month. I was crazy. Do not bother worrying about Aquarius men going out the door, they will always come back if you have a problem or are in need of a friend. But they don't like to BE the one fixed-so act like he's fine and you are fine. If something breaks down in your life be sure to tell him, so he can help. Natasha
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LeylaLeFay
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posted November 26, 2005 03:10 AM
Cooking for a man is always a bad idea. He automatically thinks you are trying to show off what a good WIFE you will be!(Its the same if you talk about how good you are with children.) You might as well have said you are "setting the trap" for marriage. IP: Logged |
nannyfish
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posted November 26, 2005 04:20 AM
Girl looking to date Aqua man: The last thing I want right now is a relationship. I am having too much fun being single.Aqua Guy: Would you like to get a drink?
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Girl looking to date Aqua man: Witty banter about some obscure topic...light and airy conversation. Laughs and giggles.
Aqua Guy: How about dinner on Friday? (if you can get him to actually name a day...man you are on your way...)
__________________________________ Girl looking to date Aqua man: Sex is soooooo overrated. Really, sometimes I just like having a laugh and stimulating conversation. *twinkle in eye* Aqua Man: Would you like to come over to my place for a night cap....
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posted November 26, 2005 06:22 AM
I've known an Auarius man for over 2 years with an interesting chart. His Sun in the 6th. He has a stellum in Pisces-- Moon, Venus, Mercury, Saturn, Chiron. Virgo is Rising. He has 3 Grand Trines. But the Aquarius/Pisces/Virgo thing is unbelievable. There is allot of Karma involved between me and this man. Even with the Pisces stellum he is unable to talk about anything to do with emotion. He is Peter Pan, the Pied Piper, and an elusive goast, with sex writen all over him. And he fascinates me!IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 26, 2005 05:48 PM
I myself am an Aqua, which is what gives me this kind of insight into the innerworkings of the Aqua mind.(We're nutters.) IP: Logged |
ScrpnBliss
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posted November 26, 2005 07:41 PM
Haha! LeylaLeFay, from what book did you quote the "guy code" stuff? I'd like to pick it up, looks hilarious.
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LeylaLeFay
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posted November 26, 2005 08:54 PM
The "guy code" stuff is my own observation- thank for thinking it should be in a book.IP: Logged |
funkyaquarianpixie
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posted November 28, 2005 10:54 AM
Never waste your time on a man who isnt prepared to waste time on you!heheh.. one of my fave quotes about relationships. pixie IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted November 28, 2005 12:39 PM
Re: the translations: If you have to be distant to get a guy interested, he's not interested in you - he's interested in the chase.Regardless of sign. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted November 29, 2005 03:26 AM
Ever been embarrassed by appearing "too needy" in a relationship?Ever notice that the guy you're really interested in ignores you, despite the many "I'm available" signals you send him? Ever notice how that guy you aren't attracted to just won't go away? Ever agree to date that sweet nerd who worships the ground you walk on- only have him to ditch you the moment you gave in? IP: Logged |
nannyfish
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posted November 29, 2005 03:29 AM
Men suck..  :P IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted November 29, 2005 02:09 PM
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Ever been embarrassed by appearing "too needy" in a relationship?
Nope.
Maybe it's the Xerox Copier fluid running through my veins.
(Aqua Moon.)
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Ever notice that the guy you're really interested in ignores you, despite the many "I'm available" signals you send him?
Nope.
If I was interested in a guy, I asked him out.
If he said, "No," I knew that he wasn't interested. quote:
Ever notice how that guy you aren't attracted to just won't go away?
Nope, not really.
"I'm not remotely interested," usually works well. Otherwise, I just turn on my oblivious function and become friends with him. quote:
Ever agree to date that sweet nerd who worships the ground you walk on- only have him to ditch you the moment you gave in?
Nope.
I've seen it happen (from the vantage point of the friend of the sweet nerd), but that's usually because 5 days into the relationship he says something to the effect of, "Wow, so-and-so's really the most shallow, vacuous b*tch on the planet once you get to know her...if I have to hear one more thing about who broke up with who in Hollywood or in some TV show or why she likes "Shoe A" over "Shoe B", I'll cut my own ears off."
Or, "You know, I really don't like so-and-so - I guess I was caught up in the image of "her" and in getting ahold of it."Hey, I'm all for people who like to play games in relationships - if that's what floats someone's boat, bully for them - it's just not me.
If I were ever on the dating scene again, I'd be my honest, romantically oblivious self and wander around until I bump into someone who likes me for me. That's what happened w/ me and my husband: We met, we saw each other, really liked each other, were both honest about it (just search some of the "Fantabulous Day" threads way back in FFA), and it spiralled from there. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 29, 2005 03:05 PM
Prox: that is the thing with us Pisces we are always ourselves. I am always myself even when I know that the other person maybe playing games I remain myself. I have to keep it real...Being real outshines that mess all the time. Feeling you on all those qoutes too..IP: Logged |
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