posted March 13, 2006 04:57 PM            

No it doesn't actually, I didn't express myself properly. The attraction is still the same, as it is still Venus and Mars involved in the opposition aspect. The books just say that when it is woman's Mars and men's Venus, that it is perhaps the woman who is that bit more sexually agressive in the relationship, as she is the one with Mars (the principle of aggression and assertion).
Here I will copy something I've found on some astro discussions, here they are :
"A few key aspects/interactions that I've noticed in successful
*romantic* relationships among my family and friends are:
-a (preferably exact) opposition between mars and venus. Could be either
person's mars or venus. And I've continually noticed the opposition, not the
conj. or the trine. Search me as to why but it may be good for that special
chemical interaction that is so very essential esp. in the beginning of a
relationship. Remember Arroyo said in his book that ANY opposition is an
aspect of stimulation? Maybe that's part of it. END.
And another oppionion :
"....Yeah well, while it's true that most synastry is bound to include hard
aspects, I definitely think that "sexual chemistry" involves the working
of the more dynamic cross-aspects. ( and I think such aspects have to be
present between particular planets, either in or ruling specific
houses ).
While the easy cross-aspects may indicate a compatible and shared
perspective, which in turn leads to understanding, friendship, like
interests and so on, they don't really have the kind of erotic energy
that creates that all inclusive "It" factor.
Of all the dynamic cross aspects, I believe the opposition is the one
that generates the most sexual stimulus. The opposition involves two
planets that are looking at each other directly, and this polarity is
what feels like that all too familiar "pull" that anyone who has
experienced it knows only too well!" END.
My own experience of the opposition is that it is extremely strong, so strong to be almost unbearable...I myself have Stephen Arroyo's Book (Relationships and life cycles), and he calls oppositions "the aspect of stimulation", and says that some oppositions are "over-stimulating". I do believe that he means Venus-Mars here.
Selena.

posted March 13, 2006 05:42 PM              

Here's an article I found:

The Passion Conjunction

When Venus and Mars match up in any relationship, there are sure to be fireworks. Physical intimacy is often the first and most natural things that brings potential soul mates into each other's lives. You look at your beloved for the very first time and your tummy jumps a little. Hmm...what was that? Before we find out what their favorite food is or what kind of movies they love watching, we romanticize being with them in our minds and hearts, drifting away on an imaginary ocean of dreamy passion.

Venus, symbolizing true love and Mars, signifying unending passion, are a perfect match. If anyone can romance Lady Venus, it's Sir Mars. And if any one can soften up the warrior planet of truth and fearlessness, it's the beautiful and feminine Lady Venus.

Are you a passionate match with your girlfriend or boyfriend? If your Venus and Mars are in the same sign, its a sure sign from the heavens that your relationship is blessed and will survive any storm with even a little effort. What a cosmic bonanza!

Women express the Venusian qualities of femininity and a demurely delicate grace with ease, while men best express Mars' gentlemanly chivalry and gallantry.

Note: A Venus and Mars conjunction is necessary for a good, long-term marriage. This rare Venus/Mars conjunction combination works best if Venus in the woman's astrological natal chart and Mars in the man's astrological natal chart are in the very same sign. If the Mars is in the woman's chart and the Venus is in the man's chart, the female (acting like masculine Mars) may try to dominate or control her husband too often, or the man (acting like demure and receptive Venus) might be unable to assert himself enough and may become too passive in his wife's presence. But this is not necessarily always the case.

posted March 13, 2006 05:56 PM              

This is what I found for that aspect:

Venus Sextile Mars:

posted March 14, 2006 04:08 PM              

In the composite chart (ASC midpoint method ) , Venus sextile Mar with less than 1 degree orb.

In the Davidson/time-space composite chart, Venus conjunct Mar with 4.5 degree orb.

Can you comment the strength of feeling?

Do you think Venus/Mar in synastry or composite chart is stronger?

posted March 16, 2006 08:03 PM              

Almost like heaven.

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

-I took a walk around the world to ease my troubled mind. I left my body lying somewhere in the sands of time. But I watched the world float to the dark side of the moon. I feel there's nothing I can do.

posted June 08, 2006 10:54 AM              

PixelPixie mentioned "tangible sparks" on page 1, in connection to a mars-venus conjunction and that just totally hit home! I have the double whammy mars-venus conjunction with this guy, and the orb is about 3 degrees on each conjunction. I have literally SEEN A SPARK on two occasions in looking over at him and meeting eyes! Once it was in the dark in the early morning hours driving in the car, and another time sitting next to each other again in a restaurant/bar.

posted June 08, 2006 02:18 PM            

Are you sure he is, ermm.., how to say this tactfully... he is...interested in women?

posted June 08, 2006 02:31 PM              

I don't agree WriteSomething, in this particular case anyway- We have a pluto square venus here, so any more hard aspects, as to mars-venus are unnecessary. There's plenty of sex-sex-sexual attraction brewing, with a sun-mars conjunction too.

posted June 08, 2006 02:55 PM              

His Mars in Gemini is not only opposite my Venus in Sagittarius, but also in opposition to my sun/mercury/uranus and Pluto. We flirt like crazy and I'm almost positive he's interested, but we have yet to get together(physically), and I think I may go insane if something doesn't happen soon.

posted June 08, 2006 03:08 PM            

everyone experiences these things differently.

I admit, most of my attractions were squares, then the oppositions.

But twice as many people can have squares with us, than the oppositions and conjunctions (say Venus in Leo will square both Mars in Scorpio and Mars in Taurus, but it will be opposite only Mars in Aquarius).

So, perhaps for this reason we meet more people that we are attracted to with squares than with oppositions (I am purely talking about statistical possibilities, purely numbers).
But I would agree that conjunction, square and opposition are way stronger then trines and sextiles to produce that magnetic attraction, the "chemistry".

Because hard aspects imply friction, and when there is friction, there are sparks, the desire to relieve ourselves of friction, which is done with the act of sex.

I was once very attracted to someone with conjunction in our synastry, but this attraction felt kind of easy, natural, effortless.

With the opposition and squares, it was more urgent, sparky, "mad" and magnetic.

I simply find the opposition insanely attractive (I only experienced his Mars, my Venus, exact, less than 1 degree).

So, both were perhaps equally attractive, but the feel of them was different, that's all.