posted February 25, 2006 01:00 PM              

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...how about if I told you that in my parents' case, my mother's Venus conjuncts my father's South Node, while his Jupiter conjuncts her South Node, and there don't seem to be any North Nodal conjunctions between them. Yet, they have been married for thirty years. Since, in your theory, the South Nodal conjunctions would indicate they are holding each other back from achieving their life goals, would you seriously have advised them not to marry... I barely ever respond to other people's posts...I...feel uncomfortable disclosing more intimate thoughts and feelings in a public forum...it doesn't seem fair to post only when I have questions of my own...

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I would never advise people not to marry, but, if they asked my opinion about their relatonship charts, I would have let them know my opinions about their nodal connections and left the rest up to them. Each person has to choose their own path to take in life.

As do you, as well. I understand your concerns about getting too personal in a public forum, which makes sense. However, if you don't ask questions about things you do not know, how can you learn? Everyone has their own path in life, and the more questions they ask of others, the more they can learn about what is right for them and those around them. I encourage you to keep asking questions and growing your astrological knowledge.

Nodally,

posted February 25, 2006 05:47 PM              

My theory being that when a Venus in Virgo person has such a keen sense of where people (including themselves) need improvement, they naturally feel as if everyone else has such exacting standards as well, leading to a feeling of discomfort under the gaze of others...not wanting to be scrutinized and judged for fear of their "flaws" being seen and magnified.

posted February 25, 2006 06:04 PM              

So that I won't keep putting it off too long again: Thanks for your response.
I will see about continuing to ask questions. Part of me feels that it might be better to "take a break" from taking in too much astrological information for a while, since my mind keeps revolving around those astrological issues that, despite making every effort to be radically honest with myself, I just can't seem to find myself in. I've had similar issues with the data of some friends/acquaintances. But I'm trying to keep an open mind. Maybe I'll be wiser after my Saturn return, though I already have an idea what it is mainly going to be about (given that it happens to coincide with important exams, and most likely the finalization of my official studies, as well).

posted February 26, 2006 12:19 AM              

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Anyone have thoughts on Jupiter square Saturn contributing to social phobias? I think that aspect produces low self esteem which might be a factor for folks with social/performance anxiety.

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My thoughts are Jupiter (expansion, wisdom) square (energy needs to be combined with) Saturn (duty, also restriction, structure) indicates a need to resolve the urge to be expansively wise with the urge to be careful and restrictive about what sort of "expansive" takes place. If this issue between expansion and contraction is not resolved the person can go back and forth: "up" one day and "down" the next, "wise" one day and "unknowing" the next, etc. The challenge is to expand in a structured way, so that expansion occurs in regular, steady progress.

This could indicate a social phobia if the person for some reason focused more on the Saturn "restrictive" part of the aspect...then they would be "down" more than they were "up" and may be depressed a lot of the time. However, if the person has Jupiter and Saturn equally focused on, the person's social image of themselves can change from week to week or day to day.

Expansively structured,

Tim

posted February 26, 2006 12:30 AM              

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I will see about continuing to ask questions. Part of me feels that it might be better to "take a break" from taking in too much astrological information for a while, since my mind keeps revolving around those astrological issues that, despite making every effort to be radically honest with myself, I just can't seem to find myself in. I've had similar issues with the data of some friends/acquaintances. But I'm trying to keep an open mind.

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By all means take a break if you feel you are becoming "over-astrologized". And, of course, in doing charts of those closest to us we may see aspects which we would rather NOT see, or which we don't know how to understand, since these charts are not our own experiences, but those of someone else.

As you have probably heard many times, start with your own chart, and work to understand that. If it doesn't make sense to you after awhile, let it go, and return to it later. You can keep "dipping" into your chart from time to time, perhaps looking at a transit or two when life seems particularly challenging, just to see if anything is going on. And, over the years, maybe you will develop a greater interest and understanding in astrology. But don't force this new understanding...it will come in its own time!

Suggesting,