posted February 16, 2006 06:58 PM              

I've never had a close relationship with an aries in my life....up until this year. Now I seem to be magnetically drawn to them, for better or worse. (probably for worse, lol)

So anyone, anyone?

posted February 17, 2006 01:08 AM              

Since August, I've been involved with two different aries. Both of then intrigued me from the second I saw them. I'm no longer in touch with one of them, but I seethe other one every week, and we now have a powerful (and somewhat unusual) friendship.

It's interesting because I wouldn't have pegged them as Aries after first meeting.

They both posess a very quiet, almost "humble" confidence. Not arrogance, which is perhaps what I would have expected.

Also, they both have an incredible....calmness. I don't know quite how to describe it. Both men seem like they would be great in any kind of crisis situation.

Both seemed to enjoy lecturing me about various subjects. They played an almost father-like role in my life...(both were significantly older than me).

...Always seemed very sure of themselves...very "capable." Both are athletic, tall, strong, and have sharp, logical minds. They speak slowly and carefully, and always make direct eye contact.

Both men are very generous but at the same time....almost hopelessly self-absorbed. Yet oddly, it never really bothered me with either of them. I guess they get away with a lot because of their charm.

And finally....both seem to be tremendously commitment-phobic. Perhaps I just wasn't the right girl for them, but I still feel fairly strongly that they could easily end up alone, in spite of many girls willing, if not dying, to give their hearts to them.

posted February 17, 2006 09:56 AM            

I'm not a female and have never been in a relationship with an Aries, but I can share my experience of Aries on a different level, I'm not sure if this will help any.

I know quite a few Aries, my little sister and brother, both Aries. But I'll share my experience of my best friend, hes Aries sun, and has quite a few other prominent Aries in his chart, and I know him very well.

He's a very passionate guy, wears his heart on his sleeve. When he talks, there is a slight 'edge' to his voice, almost as if he is taking great effort to restrain some of that boundless energy and expression inside of him, but you can always hear it breaking through in his tone. Some people can listen to this 'edge' and misinterpret it as aggression, and as you know... when you become aggressive with an Aries, they generally become quite fiery back! But this 'edge' isn't aggression, its the flow of emotion riding on his every word. And it can be quite a refreshing and wondrous thing, because you can literally hear him talking from his heart. It can be a mistake that many make when they confuse 'exposure' with 'aggression'. His heart is fully exposed when he speaks, he holds nothing back, and for this reason, hes impeccably honest.

As a friend, he is loyal, dedicated, caring and enduring. Sure, he can speak from 'his own world' quite often, without possessing the ability to look for 'someone elses world', so sometimes he need s agentle reminder that he should try to put himself in the shoes of others before judging them too harshly. And he listens to this advice just like an eager child - it doesnt mean he will never make this mistake again, he easily reverts back to his 'own world view', but each time you let the gentle wind of mutual reciprocation breeze against him, it becomes ever so more ingrained into him. He can only appear so selfish because hes so passionate, and sometimes he expects others to possess the same passion - when they do not, this confuses him slightly.

I've seen him in a couple of relatively long relationships and hes such a romantic. He sees a girl as the magic of his life, and from what I have observed, he is a very intimate guy. He believes in soulmates, he believes in the poetry of life, but where as another more articulate sign would wave the wand of poetry over his girl, my best friend shows his own poetic passion in his actions of dedication and devotion. When hes with a girl, his eyes never wander, his labido never strays, his mind is rarely ever thinking of anything else except what he can do for his girl this evening.

As a person, he can rise to many arguments if he feels injustice has been done. He can often feel like others have injustified him, yet he has more difficulty seeing the injustices he has done to others. But let this not fool you, his Aries passion is so inner focused, that if he has argued with a dear one, then you can bet he wont be just thinking about the situation from pure a pure selfish situation - he is also a swirling cauldron og all YOUR feelings too, they dance around inside of him, and so he can empathise very well - if you let him and dont place blame - blame will only reverse his empathy into aggression again.

posted February 17, 2006 02:38 PM            

Sun/Moon Conjunction in romantic terms is Soul Mate synastry, so it's no wonder you get him so well.

Aries is ruled by Mars, the God of War, though, so it's not surprising that a lot of us find their edge to sound to be aggressive. I have run into Aries men trying to explain away their more arrogant tendencies, but it's hard to deal with their impatience in putting themselves and their ideas forward. Full exposure as you said may be a good way of putting it. As a secretive 8th house Cap Sun, the idea of undisciplined speech is more than a little disconcerting.

I agree that they are loyal, dedicated, caring, and enduring.

They do speak from 'their own world' the majority of the time, and I've witnessed just how far away from reality they can go. It's pretty shocking. My roommate conveyed a story to me once concerning two of our mutual friends. Later I found out the real story from both of those Earth Sun friends. The Aries portrayed the situation completely wrong to me, excluding in particular the part about how he threatened this Taurus friend of ours. My roommate probably has a severely afflicted chart, though, and I don't think all Aries are like him. Gotta keep that imagination in check, though with Aries.

I can see how they would be good for times of emotional stress, but in a physical tragedy where practicality matters I'm not so sure.

You do seem to have a great grasp of them, and how they work, though. I don't think I've ever seen Aries explained with so much empathy and understanding.

posted February 17, 2006 02:51 PM              

The first is childish, prone to temper outbursts, enormously self-absorbed, and wants to bed as many women as possible without taking any responsibility, yet manages to blow off women with a sheepish boyishness, so ultimately a girl can't totally hate him.

posted February 18, 2006 05:59 AM            

haha The stroy about your roommate reminds me of one of my friends - hes a great guy but wow he sure knows how to weave a tale! Exaggeration is his middle name! In your roommates case, it might have something to do with any Air placements in his chart, Aquarians and Gems are good story tellers (my friend is Aqua), you could liken it to the dispersing nature of the wind - expansive and all pervading - sometimes they find it hard to 'narrow' a stoy down to its essentials.

You know, you made me think a lot when you said this;

"I can see how they would be good for times of emotional stress, but in a physical tragedy where practicality matters I'm not so sure."

I think your absolutely right - My Aries mate is excellent/strong when he has to help others through times of stress, hes like a rock. But he's a little more vulnerable when he is the centre of that adversity, he becomes less focsed and more scattered. But the really great thing is he wears his emotions like a fiery cloak around his shoulders - so they hide very little. I dont know.. for me personally, I really admire this type of openness.

posted February 20, 2006 03:49 PM            

I have, in recent years, tried very, very hard to work at making friends with Aries men and understand where they are coming from since I don't like to have generalizations of people based on their birthdates ingrained in my head.

Since then I have discovered that perhaps those Aries with whom I have had conflict (after conflict after conflict) are perhaps hiding their insecurities with their bravado. And maybe we have a problem getting along because I tend to be rather blunt myself (not in an unkind way) and I think that sometimes two blunts don't make a right?? LOL.
Also, I think a couple of the dudes I know have some serious anger issues so I definitely don't hold that against all Aries!

So I continue to try and understand the Aries man and I recognize that one (meaning me!) must behave in a certain way around them to optimize peace and a lack of conflict.
So sometimes I just hold my tongue and I pick my battles. Maybe I will never really 'get' Aries men, but, gee willikers, at least I'm trying!

Peace!

Love xo