posted May 31, 2006 05:00 AM              

Behave yerself now....

I dont like bad boys, but I like boys that can put me in my place when I am pushing too far and boys that can tease me when I think I have them sussed and ones that can make me laugh....you know a bit of in them !!!

I would never stand for any guy who treated me badly, its just that I wouldnt want them to be toooo predictable and tooo sure of me, and me them...

Does this mean I like men who are a little bit bad or not?

Thanks

posted May 31, 2006 05:19 AM              

EXACTLY!

I DONT LIKE BAD BOYS!
Ive always like gentlemen....a good edge is always nice...knows when to be nice, and aggressive...

I just seem to attract the screwed up ones, too independent, workaholics, or out of reach.

posted May 31, 2006 05:21 AM              

Romance is just a part of that excitement.

I have to confess, shhh, between you and me I am being a bit provocative, because I am interested in getting the opinions of the ladies on the board. Having a beligerant Mother and no sisters means I never learned this properly.

Shhhh x

posted May 31, 2006 05:35 AM              

I think I need a chat with you on a few things. You can set me straight.

Is that OK, darling?

posted May 31, 2006 08:12 AM              

And if I can help you, would love to....no problem....

posted May 31, 2006 08:23 AM              

How do I ask Randall?

posted May 31, 2006 12:25 PM              

I've never fallen for bad boys either. Like shop22, I've always liked gentlemen. The guy who's so nice, he thinks he'll never have a girlfriend (I've heard so many nice guys say that... and I'm like "what're you talking about?!"). A guy who knows how to treat a lady and is polite all the time. Now, I wouldn't expect chocolates and roses everyday or anything like that. It'd be nice to get the occassional notice that he's thinking about me though, even just a little note or something. He holds the door for me when we go inside a building, no need to open the car door though (I feel that's asking too much...). A cuddley fellow, who's just too adorable to resist (I go for the cute guys rather than the "hot" or "sexy" types). There is a little conflict in my dreams of the perfect guy though. He'd have to be aggressive enough to approach me first, and initiate things that I may be uncomfortable with and push enough to convince me of certain things (especially things like going on a first date, because I get so nervous about things like that) but not too pushy because I'm so easily upset. He has to be soft, considerate and understanding ... especially when I get overly-emotional, even for no apparent reason. I don't like being teased much, I usually take it the wrong way and get my feelings hurt.
That's just one opinion though. I'm so quixotic about things, I've already set myself up for eternal disappointment I'm sure.

posted May 31, 2006 12:37 PM              

Go into Oober Galaxy and press link for Randall and it will take you to his email address....

Good luck !

posted May 31, 2006 12:45 PM              

You sound like my ex.

posted May 31, 2006 01:38 PM              

You are entirely too hard on yourself. I've read some of your others posts and it seems that you are a man of many crosses to bear. But given that, you seem to have a perfect blend of poetic expression and thoughfulness that most men lack or are afraid to express. This is definately a good thing.

I find that being a fish is a blessing and a curse. And like you, I too am a scorpio rising, although I don't fit the bill as much as you seem to. Life is very difficult to navigate when you seem to be swimming constantly, capsized by emotions...until we realize that those emotions are our saving grace.

It all comes down to being able to accept those things that you are and those things that you are not. It saddens me to see the angst that you display where your emotions are concerned and yet how wonderfully you express them. We fish, by nature, are doomed to live a life of emotional strife, I think. Until we are capable of accepting and really seeing that the things we share with others, the things that we want so badly to give away are things we fail to see in ourselves as gifts. A lot of our energy is focused into sharing, giving, relating, and being lost in another, when in all reality finding a way to turn the energy inward would reap more benefits for us.

You truly are a unique person, and from what I have gathered from your posts, have had to face your own emotions on a very deep, trancendental level. Keep searching. Keep digging. But most of all, never give up hope.

Someone mentioned on a previous post that some sort of energy therapy/healing would be a great outlet for your deep emotions. I definately agree.. Being a massage therapist and very much interested in holistic healing modalities, it has definately proven to be an outlet for me. Nothing has proven more useful and more liberating than finding the ability to heal my own wounds. Accepting that I have control over who I am, regardless of how others react, and really begining to understand the depth at which my own emotions enrich my life. Sharing this experience and understanding with those around me has been a blessing. I love myself more, so I ultimately love others more.

I don't know..maybe I am way off the mark being that I don't know you very well. But it seems that you have been blessed with the insight of a pisces for a reason. You're not alone. Just remeber that everything is connected.

Spellbound

posted June 01, 2006 06:31 AM              

No darling. It was actually a compliment, I may have fallen out with that ex, but there were some things I loved about her, and you reminded me of those things.

Spellbound - Thank you, I'm touched. I'm going through a period of facing insecurities as I have found a way to dissolve them that works every time. That means right now every day I am releasing another fear. What this also means is I am sounding off a lot because they are being released, and my perspective on things changes rapidly. Hence, my posts may seem both intense and erratic as of late. Its a wonderful period of growth but really really taxing on the soul.

I could do with a cuddle.... I might have a lovely Leo with a Cancer Moon who'll be willing to give me one soon as well if I'm lucky.

p.s - there is a lot of self-depreciating humour in the way I write as well, Sue picks up on this. It may be mistaken for me being more solemn than I am sometimes - just to make things even more complicated!

posted June 01, 2006 10:18 AM              

13anshee, I always thought a real gentleman always was curtious to everyone else as well as ladies. When I think of a gentleman, I think of the days when women wore long, gorgeous dresses and men always wore suit-type clothing, like 1800s kind of thing. Back then men were curtious to eachother, and just overall polite. That's what I think of when I think of a gentleman.

posted June 01, 2006 12:23 PM              

Swerve, you wanted the opinions of females on here....and I'm all woman (hahaha....)

I am a romantic but in a dramatic, intense and passionate way rather than all dreamy. My venus is in scorpio in the 5th house so that might explain it. I want undying love to be declared, someone who'll die for me (or at least profess to do so!!).....not asking much am I????

Anyway this girl likes drama and passion....soppy poetry doesn't do it for me personally but a down and dirty one does.....hehehehe....I know Sue G might understand!

posted June 01, 2006 12:58 PM              

He's not quite the drama fan I am but he calls me his Queen. And so he should!

posted June 01, 2006 01:00 PM              

Could do with some of that myself. Once I sort myself out I'll actively seek it out.

posted June 01, 2006 01:16 PM              

Sue G does understand, especially with my Scorp Venus in 7th house....

Gotta have that intense and steamy passion and with a touch of drama too...

Heathcliffe type character comes to mind....dark and brooding and very Plutonian...

My best friend says "all women need to be adored, to be lusted after".....

But of course not many get this in the long term do they....

Perhaps the only way to sustain this,,is to have one or two other men on the go....

Whats a very passionate girl supposed to do....what our mothers did....shut up and put up?....or live on the edge a little....or surpress the need (very dangerous, inevitably leading to anger and illness)....

Dunno really.....???

posted June 01, 2006 01:56 PM              

I totally agree...Ive sun conj neptune, conj venus and jupiter ( all in 7th house Scorp) and a lot of the time I dont think people get me at all.....felt like an alien in the past....

Yes dreamy, definately....I can get off my head stoned on love...can you?

Oh well....at least I got a good nick name from it....."the Love woman".....hahahaha....

posted June 01, 2006 02:18 PM              

Not crazy lovegoblin....very sensible....at least then you would always have one in reserve....hehehe !!!

lovegoblin and lovewoman.....hehehehe......

We would be deadly together wouldnt we......!!!!!