posted January 26, 2007 10:38 AM            

There are so many bad things about this I don't know where to begin. Taurean men that cheat don't just have one night stands - usually. They typically carry on several relationships at once. This is more hurtful to all parties than if they just screwed around briefly with a lot of women. When I was dating my Taurus I was in the position that your man's Pisces girlfriend is in. I cannot begin to tell you how much that fu*king hurts the girl that was there first. I developed an ulcer and lost 30 lbs. Have you thought even once about this Pisces girls' feelings??? Do you honestly think that she doesn't love this guy just as much if not more than you do?

Also, have you stepped back and thought about the guy himself??? Obviously, he's a little messed up. Haven't you considered the fact that even if he did leave this girl for you, do you think he could be faithful to you? Infidelity is like a disease. You have to WANT to stop, and make an effort to work on it. Remember, Taurus men hate change and breaking patterns more than any other sign.

I apologize if I've come across harshly here, but I have absolutely NO tolerance for this type of behavior. I have NEVER had a problem walking away from a man that I found attractive the second I found out he was with someone else...girlfriend, wife, or otherwise.

posted January 26, 2007 11:03 AM            

I do understand the connection, I DO!

Been there with a Bull recently, same situation with the gf.

CC stated all of the humanistic and realistic aspects of this dilemma of yours quite nicely so I will not go there.

But I will reiterate~~~they are FIXED and stubborn and quite habitual.

Did it with you will do it to you...

If I were you I would leave it be for the Fish chick in support of my sister. I would send her all of the love and light that I could muster. I guarantee you she is already hurting and likely knows of his escapades, for I am a Fish chick as well...

When I let mine go, I told him I would not want this done to me....

He is a confused, fixed Bull, who probably likes the attention of multiple women and does what he needs to to keep his heard intact... and likely he will never change. Do you really want to be in the position of the Pisces???

Let the dude go~~~~

Blessings

posted January 26, 2007 12:13 PM              

I don't know why Taurus has such a bad reputation. it's a man thing, or a culture, or he was brought up that way first, I can't imagine why he would want to hurt his wife that way. Pisces people are very sensitive and yes they always know if something is wrong. It's demoralizing and hurtful and I can't disrepect anyone sensitive such as myself.

Maybe this Taurus man does not know he has emotions or believe in love, preferring money or power but even poeple in power love attention and adoration.

Adoration and wanting to be liked is not the same thing as loyalty which takes honesty.

It's too bad really, but yes do leave him alone and do not tempt this man anymore. He is obviously weak in his mind and body, let him heal somewhere else and do not take his calls-one day he'll work it out on his own. After all faithful love is the foundation of a family, of everything, without that there is nothing worth living for. (okay extreme I know). Still, people I know who live that way I are very happy for real, and achieve more in their lives than anyone else.

I do not believe there is a grey area here anymore. The more powerful people I meet, the more I see those who are bound by loyalty, and that includes physical loyalty. What could be simpler if you are not rich than being loyal to your wife or husband? Why be a playboy or playgirl? Its' pathetic and arrogant to assume others do not know. It eats away at other's respect for you and your own dignity. Why not make it easier on yourself and rise above the heartache.

Sometimes heartache can substitute for real love because then you feel something but real love is out there.

The pisces I am with struggled so much at the start with infidelity but neither of us have ever cheated on each other. And we have struggled with this in the past with others. i once lashed out at him and I was going out to be with another man, he was so hurt he told me was with another woman. We hurt so much we promised to never do that again and I trust that he won't-because he trusts me and is not angry at me anymore. Whether or not he respects me remains to be seen. But I won't let him play that card with me and vice versa, nor will I let us get bored.

It's a fine line but there is no choice but to get involved in it, going outside the marriage or relationship is numbing yourself to what's going on inside, and there is plenty to do, lots of love to make, it's waiting there to be appreciated. If I can't be faithful in this relationship, I can't be faithful in any relationship. Its' not him, it's my choice and it gives me happiness. When I believe that he does not want that, I get frustrated but he calls me so that's good and I bank on that for a while anyway.

When I feel he does not want to be with me anymore I will find someone else who is faithful to me and go on from there. There is no other way, this rule can't be broken. I make love instead of war with him because inside I want to rebel and fight but when I feel that, I remember the golden rule.

I must maintain him to keep him. Especially since I'm the one who wants him most of the time. Even if I am very unhappy one day a week, it's not enough to be punishing.

Natasha
Taurus 6th house Sun trine Pluto

posted January 27, 2007 01:21 PM              

I didnt mean to appear as some kind of families breaker....I do try to leave him, even ran away from him in Italy but he keeps coming back and I can't help it cause he is like the man I've always wanted. And I dont mean physically. Besides, the things we have been thru during this time are really weird (like he saving my life, for instance)
May be I should have also given a little background to the whole thing - Pieces girl and he had been together for 9 years, the last 5 living in different countries and seeing each other once in a blue moon.And this was a deliberate choice of his to leave the country they were being together for 4 years without her and live without her abroad. The reason he finally made the decision to move in back with her was because her family is rich...During the first 5 months of their marriage when they were living together, the first 2 were OK, the second 3 (when I was in Italy) led to them splitting up and her leaving the country. In a pervert way, it is like I have to be around for their marriage to work....
And I dont know what kind of love is that when you don't want to constantly be with the person you love...?

posted January 27, 2007 06:01 PM            

I like that, Natasha~~~

Thank you for restoring the positive energy of my past connection with Bull man....

posted January 29, 2007 09:47 AM              

"in the main yer guy is sort of being 'thrown about' ... " - HappyDragon, I think that sounds exactly like him! As is the thing with "marriage" for security.

OK, my data: born 16 December 1975, 2030hrs in Bulgaria

posted January 29, 2007 11:24 AM              

I started dating the Taurus on 11 November 2004

I also know that my south node is in his sun sign (don't know what that means though...)

Could you "translate" these for me please - how this affect us

"you both at the moment have a Chiron transit to your respective natal Venus'"

"by mid march that Chiron transit to venus will be gone ..
.. you are getting it via a 'square' aspect ..

transiting Neptune is also starting to square your scorpio north node..

and .. transiting Lillith is conjoining your natal Pluto placement while at the same time she is opposing his natal Venus placement .. ( Lillith transits last about 10 days or so ) ."

posted February 01, 2007 06:48 AM              

"Fated" is exactly how I feel...If it has anything to do with the transits on 11/11/2004...?

I'll do some further research and try to see what transits are in store for us (as I know him well enough to perdict how will he react to these, if I can interpret them myself correctly).