posted May 23, 2007 04:27 PM              

Proud to be.

posted May 24, 2007 12:25 AM            

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Would you Mercury in Scorp people say that when you love someone you say it right away and pour your hearts out?

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posted July 30, 2007 01:32 AM            

Do you ever DENY you feel anything even after the person has told you how they feel? Is that something that you might do if you don't trust the person emotionally. Also keep in mind that you maybe sleeping with the person.

posted July 30, 2007 02:52 AM            

Windbag answer : Two things. First, if I don't trust a person, I'm not going to open up and make myself vulnerable. Second, I think strategically and if I don't want to deal with the consequences of sharing my feelings, I'll keep them private. So, if I didn't trust someone, I could imagine myself not wanting to share my true feelings with him.

posted July 30, 2007 06:19 PM            

To make a long story short this guy doesn't trust girls AT ALL!!!

He is only 20, and when he was 19 his first love and the person he lost his virginity to cheated on him. She also got pregnant. She had lied to him and told him she was using birth control when she wasn't. I'm not sure if the baby was his, he had never addressed that issue with me. Anyway she ended up getting an abortion and didn't tell her parents, meanwhile he told his and helped her pay for the abortion and drove back to his home state to be there with her (the drive was 9 hours). After he and her ended she ended up dating the guy she cheated on him with (in fact they're still together).

All this happned in March of 2006. And I know for a fact even to this day he is STILL messed up over this.

He and I met in August of 2006 and when he and we had a no strings attached hook up relationship, although it was a strange relationship. He would periodically take breaks from me in order to quelch any feelings he had for me. I know for a fact that he was hesitant to even sleep with me (he said he wasn't ready for it). Which for some reason he REALLY wants to now.

Now he tells me I'm the only girl he thinks about that he misses me...and then he takes breaks again. And he contacted me out of the blue after (in February) telling me he never wanted to talk to me again.

We had a conversation where he told me he was kinda dating someone and that she was in SC (where I am) and that it's complicated with her. I asked him if it was me...and then he asked me if I wanted it to be me. Well I paused for a very long time, and then he said well I guess that means no. After that he said that he was thinking out loud and that he only wants no strings attached from me again. He also told me he doesn't do clingy emotional BS like telling me he misses me (this was over the phone) yet online he says he misses me.

Jane:

In this case would you maybe not trust my feelings...I've told him how I feel...but I've also admitted to being a bit flaky in relationships (I've actually admitted to wanting what I can't have and that I only like him because he doesn't like me back)...and I'm kinda flirty with other people. So would that change things.

He also has his venus in scorpio conjunct Pluto. He has claimed that he has no emotions or that he is over what happned with her etc…but I’m also a psychology major and I know for a fact that what happned to him is something that is going to effect him for many years.

Here are his placements:

December 1, 1986
Born Baltimore MD at 7:30 pm

posted July 31, 2007 12:12 AM            

GG20 - Your guy and I are both Sags with Merc in Sco. I found this description for that combination very accurate for me, so maybe it applies a lot to your guy also. I put in bold the parts that I thought most applied to your situation.

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If the Sun sign is Sagittarius:

Mercury is the open door. It guards a person’s conscious thoughts. It is our sense reactions. When the doorway is in a Water sign, the Fire ego has to come through this water sheath. If this Sagittarian Sun has enough drive, enough enthusiasm for a given ego satisfaction, it will come through this Scorpio doorway with much more depth, much more fixed determination. This combination forces the Sagittarian into a more singular determined direction. The Mercury in Scorpio mind will limit Sagittarian excesses, forcing a more stable pattern, and will give a tendency for the Sagittarius to get to the bottom of a pursuit.

The Sagittarian will still be variable, curious about all manner of things; but the Mercury in Scorpio will give it longer staying power on a given interest and be more inclined to penetrate into the full meaning of things. This is a Mercury that may not be as expressive as other Mercury positions. However, they will be very expressive when they make a full evaluation, and not until then. In other words, they eliminate all that they believe to be unnecessary in communication. They may not have as much obvious outward charm, but they have a kind of magnetism that is hard to resist. This Sagittarian shows how they feel or what they think by facial expressions, mannerisms and an enthusiastic sparkle to their eyes. The ego trend of the Sun needs the Mercury sign to express. When a Fire sign comes through a Water Mercury, not all enthusiasm and excitement will show. [When the opposite takes place, a Fire Mercury and a Water ego, much more enthusiasm than is actually the case may show.]

Mercury in Scorpio can easily recognize a phony, but the average Scorpio doesn’t always understand why he/she thinks something or someone is phony. When this Scorpio is coupled with the Sagittarian Sun, it gives easy understanding, with the ability to explain why this or that is phony. Others should be very honest with this type of Sagittarian, for honesty and the direct approach are the best. If you want someone who can easily spot phony insurance claims or any other fraudulent financial schemes, these are the people to do it. If you are dealing with these people, and you think you can get by with something or that you are more shrewd than they are, think again, for in the end these people will expose you and run rings around you.

Scorpio is known for certain secretive qualities; and Sagittarius is known for being outspoken and exceptionally honest. The coupling of these two signs indicates people who will know when to speak and when not to speak. Sagittarius all by itself does not know when and when not speak; they just blurt it out. However, with this influence to the Scorpio mind it makes all the difference. These people also have the talent of hypnotizing you into something they want you to do against your total acceptance. Those who would do this are the more un-evolved Sun Sagittarius/Mercury Scorpio.

The Sagittarian egos will have an abundance of knowledge at their disposal, but the Scorpio Mercury will not express it at all. The other person will always get the idea that these Sagittarians know more than they are saying. The secret ace in the hole for them is their sense of timing. Be patient; just wait, and in the end you will hear from these Sagittarians, perhaps not what you want to hear, but the truth. This is the arrow that goes straight to the target and right through it.

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My opinion: He's analyzing whether he thinks you're trustworthy and sincere. Until he's convinced you are, he won't be honest and open about his feelings. To gain his trust, you're going to have to be direct and honest, not just with him, but with yourself. Think about whether you really would want him if he were more available (you mentioned you liked that he didn't reciprocate) and whether you could be faithful. If you honestly believe the answer to both of those is "yes", then be honest and direct with him about those things. It's very likely that only then, once he senses your sincerity and that you want the same things he does, will he admit that he wants those things too. Of course, there's the chance that he doesn't want those things. All I know is that if he does, it's very unlikely that he'll show you that before he trusts you.