posted September 27, 2007 04:30 PM              

Yup we take long to move on. Eventually you will.

posted September 27, 2007 05:56 PM              

i have been off and on with my pisces for almost two years now, and he doesn't ever seem to want to finalize anything. being a cancer, i just latch on and ride with him.

every now and then he'll go a while without talking to me. but, i'm also his best friend so he can't go too long haha. offer your pisces man support, but when he swims away, you either have to wait til he comes back, or move on.

my venus is in gemini. the pisces and i banter back and forth all the time, but never really talk about the deeper elements of our strange relationship.

i guess if you have perseverance, and he's worth the time, i'd wait it out and see what happens. but if you're fed up and need to move on, kick your venus in taurus around a little and you'll find another fish in the sea =)

posted September 27, 2007 06:11 PM            

If you want rules in this, you need to set them out yourself.

The reason you don't know whether it's over or not is probably because he hasn't made it clear - nor will he.. He, more than likely, doesn't know himself.. Clarity and Neptune are a bit contradictory.

Anyways, you need to make things clear for yourself. Either you still want to be with him or not. If you definitely don't - then make it 'the end' from your side. If you definitely do, tell him and ask whether he wants what you *want* or not - he probably won't .. because like I said fire/water can be very different.

If you want to just be friends with him and stay in touch but nothing else.. then make *that* clear. Don’t flower it or sugar it up or say it in a round about way.. just be very very clear with him.. because he is usually confused enough as it is – with everything in his life in general..

posted September 28, 2007 07:52 AM              

Could it be that he's seeing someone else now?

Does he think that you would be better off without him? From what I know of pisces, they move on much faster when they believe that the other person is better off without them. They might even try to convince themselves that this is the case. Then they will just quash whatever they are feeling and go numb... or move on.

Just a thought.

posted September 28, 2007 03:09 PM              

This is the longest in a year I haven't heard from him

We spent almost a whole weekend together about a month ago and had a really wonderful time. He introduced me to one of his sisters and his aunt and we all went out and had a good time.

I had mentioned there was a concert I wanted to see but said no one wanted to go with me - he said he would and wanted to take me to a concert he wanted to see.

So a week later I asked him if we were still on , he said money was tight and he would keep me posted - haven't heard from him since.

If he contacts me again, I'm not sure what I'll do - to be honest, I do really like him, but I can't take this on again off again crap
It was a very casual relationship - I never pressed for anything but it's become disappointing since every time he asks me to do something lately he always cancels or doesn't call.

He needs me to build him a web site soon - so if and when he contacts me for that I have a good mind to say I'll keep him posted and leave it at that.

I feel a very strong and deep connection to him but I'm not sure why and I have a feeling if we truly got together and then broke up , it would just destroy me.

posted September 28, 2007 09:52 PM            

About 'causing damage romantically"

When you said you were quite serious about wanting time off whereas he was playing games. That doesn't surprise me. That's similar to the problem I had. He seemed to be under the impression I did certain things to hurt him or play games with him when I was very serious and my reasons were usually that I was hurt myself.. and needed to get out of the situation.

But he always took that the wrong way.

In my opinion, they cause damage romantically out of fear/paranoia and skepticism.. They don't believe in people. They don’t believe anyone is honest – possibly due to their own dishonesty (and the guilt thereof).. They also make up stories – often unintentionally - that are just not true or real. Usually these stories are a very negative take on things – that completely distorts the reality of what actually happened. Mine often didn't acknowledge his own wrong doings, so he genuinely thought I had no reason to be hurt.. and in fact - that I wasn't hurt at all.. and that I was pretending to be hurt - just to get to him.. or to make him feel bad.

I've seen this with water sign guys before - not only Pisces.. They're a bit too paranoid about getting screwed over and they don't acknowledge reality for what it is. Ironically, it's this paranoia in itself that stuffs things up in their relationships.

posted September 29, 2007 12:36 AM            

Yes, there was a lot of game playing. I was young and naďve and truly looked for the good in people, so really I didn’t know what the game was….hence the damage. Even still, these kinds of mind games often cause damage to anyone at any age. The stories, I would discover, always had a grain of truth to them. It was almost like he enjoyed telling them just to get a reaction out of me. Whenever I got angry, he got angrier…so it always seemed I was in the wrong.

I seem to attract the water signs….Scorpion after the Pisces…..now Cancer…

I never felt the Scorpion or the Cancer played games. In the Scorpion, I didn’t sense that kind of dishonesty, they’re just a lot more secretive but pretty intense (we fought a lot). In the Cancer; I feel they are just more protective and cautious of their feelings and would hold back until they feel it was safe. Maybe with Pisces, their game playing is their form of protection. I agree with you though, I don’t think they believe in people. Scorpio went cold when hurt; Cancer can get pretty nasty when hurt; Pisces never got cold or nasty. The Pisces is the one that caused the most damage though.