posted December 16, 2007 05:45 PM              

And, are they insincere 'games' - because they're disinterested and just 'messing around'?

posted December 16, 2007 06:11 PM              

I am not saying that these people are not sincere with their ways or that they are bad, but it all depends on how mature they are and if they know what they really want out of life.That's all.

I saw that he cancelled and I beleive he was true to you when he said he was sick, maybe he was not "dying" sick but he was sick enough to not want to get out of the house.
You should see if he follows up with another invite to go out, it shows that he has principals too because he called you ahead of time to let you know.

I might shoot myself in the foot for this one but I do beleive that a man in love , any sign will persue you to no end when you first meet him, but... This is why i am here too, to learn if there is something else out there why sometimes this doesn't happen.

My ex-husband was one that would not let go of me as soon as he saw me, asked me for a kid right away etc. asked me to marry him within a month. Now some say asking for a kid right away means insecurity (see soul unions topic on cancer men and pregancy)

The cancer boy I am in love with did the same thing as soon as he met me he was after me, everyday, asked me for a kid as well, right away... too bad he had a girlfriend also *rolls eyes*

I don't know but at this point in my life I want to make sure that the men I deal with really knows himself before he is asking or promising anything, with that said, it is hard to separate the emotions of being in love and wanting those very same things,(getting married and wanting a kid) when it comes to love at first sight.
As a Cancer moon I think I am pretty good at knowing right off the bat who the person is and can read into it, and I still have respect for the cancer boy I really like but I also think he is not fully in peace with who he is and what love really means to him.

Sorry... I am done talking.I will say this they are difficult , my taurus ex-husband was as easy as they come, this kind is not so much... makes it more appealing but painful too

posted December 16, 2007 06:19 PM              

When I hear those words, I think that I am going to be used for toying with because they don't know what they want and are very insecure; or for sex.

posted December 16, 2007 06:22 PM              

See, that is kind of what I'm expecting. I feel like when the 'one' comes along, this is what I'll experience. I feel like I should move on from a guy if he DOESN'T initially do this. This guy is not an example because I haven't even met him yet, but when you meet a guy and find yourself WONDERING what is going on (like I did with my Aqua), it almost seems pointless in killing yourself over it. Why should you have to?

posted December 16, 2007 06:24 PM              

I can't WAIT to get his birth info. That'll really help out a lot. Then we can compare

posted December 16, 2007 07:09 PM              

I usually have no problem asking someone fairly early on.

I make a joke out of it, "Would you mind if I analyzed you astrologically? Can I have your..."

posted December 16, 2007 07:55 PM              

Would you be able to joke around about it with him?

posted December 17, 2007 12:04 AM              

I know, I know - it will SOOO help! *laughs*

posted December 17, 2007 12:38 PM              

i am not saying -he lied this - i can never know that . but what i am saying is we have our ways to check other person's sincerity .
i am staright forward too . infact i am blunt but i am a bit less blunt in front of the woman that i like . i can't let her go .
and i am not possessive

he way around disasters like this is to keep the game going. Keep them guessing forever. A client told me that her Cancer Sun-Sign boyfriend had canceled several dates recently. “He says he had a hard day at work and he’s too tired to come over, and he’s doing it more and more”, she complained. I told her what to do. The next day, she called me to say that it worked. “The phone rang at 9 P.M. and I didn’t answer it”, she said. “Did it ring at Exactly 9 P. M.” I asked. “Yes”. Good. It was him. “Then it rang at 9:30, and I still didn’t answer it”. Exactly at 9:30? Yes. So predictable. “Then it rang at 10 P.M., I picked it up and said “Hello”. What did he say? “He said “where were you?’ No hello. Just ‘Where were you?’” He was over there in another half hour and spent the night. Like I say, Cancer can’t stand to loose anything.

posted December 17, 2007 08:46 PM              

I do believe we all have our own way of 'testing' (regardless of sign) each other to confirm one's interest and judge one's character.

posted December 21, 2007 09:01 AM            

Cancer sun/Cappy Moon/Aqua rising I know is VERY direct, sounds like your guy, very up front; what you see is what you get. He hates games, wants it 'tell it like it is' at all times. Which I appreciate.

But yeah..... MOOOOODY! I'm used to it, my brother is a Scorp sun/Aries moon/Sag rising, they are best friends. Nicest, sweetest guys in the world, but if they are set off at all... look out for those pinchers and that stinger!

The good thing about him though, is it's over pretty quickly, he has total control over it, and always learns something from every experience. He's a great listner, wonderful at figuring out emotional reactions to situations, very understanding. This is my first experience being close to a Cancer. Male or female... it's probably just a good thing he doesn't have a posessive bone in his body. I hear a lot of Cancers are like that... The Aqua rising helps.