posted January 08, 2008 10:19 AM            

so she says to me, "a guy has to be in love in order to want a relationship". Is this true though? and im not so sure falling in love is quick and easy. (or clear straight away)

posted January 08, 2008 03:57 PM            

He hasn't called or text to see if i'm alright. (I found out they all went out this past weekend, but they didnt call me. But it sounds like a last minute thing.)

But yes, im feeling frustrated about him. I want him to know that im upset with him. I feel like he hasn't respected me at all.

posted January 08, 2008 05:44 PM              

that would damage you more
than you already feel.

The universe is urging you to contemplate.
There's a gift here.

posted January 08, 2008 06:35 PM            

how about people dont sleep with other people unless they are officially dating and then all this can be solved.

posted January 08, 2008 07:28 PM            

I don't want to be blunt but this guy is not your friend. Maybe your definition of friend is looser than mine but..

If he was a real friend, you could *talk* to him. You could call him up and say "you ticked me off last weekend" or whenever.

If you can't be open with him and have a conversation, that is no friendship.

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so she says to me, "a guy has to be in love in order to want a relationship". Is this true though?

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This is true for anyone who is a genuine person and would enter a relationship for the right reasons.
There are plenty of men and women who enter relationships for the wrong reasons - money, social status - to have someone on their arm to show off, neediness, lack of self-esteem, fear of loneliness, fear of not having a consistent sex supply waiting at home, keeping their family happy etc..

posted January 09, 2008 03:33 AM              

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But standing out like a beacon is Mercury Square Neptune. Sums it up for me.

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posted January 19, 2008 09:01 AM            

okay it all came to a head last night.

Was at a house party that the guy turned up to. He ignored my greeting of "hi" and went out for a cigarette. There was lots of alcohol involved during the night and throughout when he did speak to me, it was say "yo ***** " as a joke but it really started to annoy me. Then we had a huge fight where he said i'm always there and in the way. So i yelled back but got upset later when he said he was on the phone to his girlfriend in london. Then i stupidly let myself get taken advantage of my two guys!(a kiss) I am such an idiot.

So me and this guy are so over, we've even lost any sense of friendship since he refuses to talk normally to me. He really hurt me last night, but i think behved badly as well. I even got asked to chill. I think me and him together it was becoming volatile. (Believe me, i am not normally aggressive)

But he's part of my friendship group and now i feel like because of this , i'll lose everyone.

posted January 19, 2008 03:53 PM              

transiting Uranus is aprox 1 degree prior to a conjunction with natal Sun
transiting Neptune .. 0.52 sextile natal Venus ..
transiting Neptune .. - 0.21 sextile natal Lillith
transiting Neptune .. - 0.48 square N.Node
transiting Lillith .. - 0.48 opposite N.Node
transiting N.Node .. - 0.08 square natal Saturn
transiting Saturn retrograding and starting to re-square natal Chiron

posted January 19, 2008 03:59 PM            

yes I have let him go...it had become so awful and volatile in our conversations with one another..underlying anger and tension. But am more concerned for consequences with my group of friends but am going away for two weeks so i think that will give some time for to blow over.

He was like two people, one minute so sweet then another so cold! ]

What do the transits mean? I'd be interested to know why i felt so aggressive and upset, i was yelling and was so mad and normally i handle myself with some more dignity. I feel like i let myself down.

posted January 19, 2008 04:04 PM            

26th November 1983
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Melbourne Australia

posted January 19, 2008 04:29 PM            

I understand you are in the same circle of friends, but I'd assume you are not tied to each others' hips.. so you don't *all* have to go out together *all* the time.

Call your friends up and go out with them when you like (or some of them). He doesn't have to be invited. You have no obligation to be tactful towards him after the way he behaved.

Basically DO what you want to do ..and what makes you feel happy and sparkling. If they are your true friends I'm sure they'll stick around.
Don't put yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable for the sake of it. If anyone ruined friend harmony in your group it was him - so people should be aware of that. This doesn't have to be a secret.. I'm sure he'd like everything to be secret since he looks better that way and considering his sun sign.. but that doesn't oblige you to keep the truth and reality of the situation - a secret from your other friends..

posted January 19, 2008 05:12 PM            

Wise words and honest too.

Yes, i am avoiding him. What's difficult for me is that the group loyalty will be towards him as its a group of lots of guys (and a few girls). They've known him longer. BUT yes, he wanted it to be a secret (i did initally too because he went out with one of my good friends (she has a bf now) two and half years ago and im worried she'll think ive betrayed her but i think he treated her not nicely too but they sorted it out over time.) So i feel like a traiter. This situation hasnt made me feel like a good person at all.

yeah, i have mars and venus in libra,i like harmony. I cant bear tension and game playing.

But, i can learn from my mistakes and be a grown up. I'll run for the hills next time and save myself and others the heartache.

posted January 19, 2008 09:56 PM              

in essence you've been dealing with transiting Saturn squaring your Sun .. ( and natal Uranus ) ..
t.Saturn is currently retrograde .. it's squared your Sun when it was in direct motion ..
now it's applying to do it again but in retrograde motion ..

t.Uranus is not far off from squaring your natal Mercury/Jupiter either ..
( about 2 degrees )

and also the N.Node at the moment is conjunct your natal Lillith and squaring up to your natal Chiron
( no idea what that might mean .. but it's bound to effect your moods one way or another .. )

that's a brief look at your transits without birthtime ..

posted January 20, 2008 04:24 AM            

I feel like communication is bad at the moment. I want to talk to my best friend about whats happened but she is the one he went out with two and half years ago. So im worried about her reaction.

posted January 20, 2008 04:36 AM              

But anyway, I think a lot of your distress is attributable to issues having to do with the Saturn square to your natal Sun—that's a pain. I went through that in late '06/early '07 and it just bit. Should get better (relatively soon).

I'm glad you were able to get away from Scary Guy and that you may have learned some valuable things from it. Good luck with '08.

posted January 20, 2008 05:14 AM            

My friend is currently on her year abroad at moment so has no clue of whats been happening. She knows i've been upset recently. I just dont want her to find out through gossip.

posted January 20, 2008 06:39 AM              

Love,

posted January 20, 2008 04:58 PM            

just an update. I told my friend (the one that went out with him two years ago) and she was good. She was understanding, a little bit annoyed perhaps, but she was ok.

I thought it best to tell her since i have a feeling that she will find out at some point whether it was 2 or 3 months down the line and that would be more hurtful. She also said she was glad i told her.
So im feeling relieved.