posted December 27, 2007 02:48 PM              

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Just a Cap/Sag side note: My father Sag Sun/Moon was married to my mother Cap Sun/Leo Moon for 49 years

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posted December 27, 2007 05:43 PM            

Yeah, we don't argue either. She keeps waiting for me to lose my cool, but it never happens. Sometimes she theorizes that I must be suppressing what I think. I'm not sure about that, though I do enjoy peace.

posted December 28, 2007 05:29 AM            

actually - I hate ppl who do that - play with feelings. pretend they're in love. I do hate it. it makes me feel un-safe - and I hate that feeling, I guess

posted December 28, 2007 07:31 AM            

Yes, yelling at him wasn't the best option. I learnt my lesson though, it's probably a good thing to calm down during an argument, my foot in mouth tends to crop up more when i'm upset and things come out all wrong!

But the cappie and I did make up. I called him and apologised for yelling and he said he was sorry too.

This argument happened a few days before he left for a year abroad in Mexico. When i said goodbye to him we had a deep and meaninful moment (you know where the world starts to spin and you forget there is anyone else around you?) and he kissed me goodbye. So i'm guessing he must have liked me a little.

I think him having a saggie moon and love for travel does help.

posted December 28, 2007 10:16 AM              

Also, I think you have to be someone a Capricorn can respect...someone who's going somewhere in life, and who has moral values like our own. That doesn't mean you have to be a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, but you have to have a good sense of self, to know what you want out of life.

I could never respect someone who was weak in the moral value department. I wrote a guy off who was great on paper - intelligent, great job, wealthy, made me laugh - because he told me how he took advantage of a disabled person and got a cartload of free stuff. It made my skin crawl.

I guess, ultimately, we just want to be loved and accepted for ourselves...just like everybody else. It's just that we have a hard time believing that YOU are gonna do that. And so we protect ourselves until we're sure we can trust you with our mushy insides. (And they are VERY mushy!)

Good luck!!!

P.S. You'll notice that I also have sun in Cap and venus in Aquarius, and I'm FAR from unseduceable! lol But I have to admit, one false move and you are co@k-blocked forever! lmao

posted December 28, 2007 12:35 PM            

I'm Cap rising, and I feel the same--I'm either into you, or I'm not. And a main thing I look for in a guy is a genuine, honest connection.

"But, we have to believe you are serious about us. Just the thought that we may give our heart to someone who is just messing around strikes fear into the very core of our beings! lol"

Does this mean that most Capricorn men would not be interested in a casual fling?

The Cap takes me out on Dates with a capital D that he plans, and seems to care about impressing me on them, and I have a great time and I feel VERY attracted to him on all levels, and he makes no physical move! We share an unusual sense of humor, and I've wondered if maybe he more wants to be friends. But he kind of let me know he thought I was beautiful, and the dates are very date-y. I would actually be more comfortable with more casual "hanging out."

posted December 28, 2007 02:09 PM            

I understand completely.

Purple Chick said it too...
"But, we have to believe you are serious about us. Just the thought that we may give our heart to someone who is just messing around strikes fear into the very core of our beings! lol"

yes yes yes

Lucia, your guy sounds fabulous. I personally think his behavior is a dream come true and an obvious sign that he is VERY interested. He takes it slow because he respects you and is willing to invest some time in getting to know you. And he told you that he thought you were beautiful?! Stop worrying and start enjoying every wonderful minute.

posted December 30, 2007 02:01 PM            

Oh well. I seem to have been having a run of bad luck that way. I guess I'll just be alone.

posted December 30, 2007 02:28 PM            

What I got from them was this: I think they really want someone with integrity and poise. Not someone who just looks good, but someone who has a good internal compass. However, the person also has to have a decent sense of humor. I jokingly have called a lot of the Capricorns I know Capricorn-y. Many of them would tell the CORNIEST jokes. However, they were usually so corny they were actually funny. lol.

posted December 30, 2007 06:01 PM            

I don't know about Cap guys (AG?) but as a girl with Cap influence I often feel like people throw responsibilities in my lap.. Emotional responsibilities are harder to deal with, since Cap (fatherly) is the opposite of Cancer (motherly).. Caps can 'father' you or give you practical advice.. but they wouldn't feel comfortable having to mother you.

posted December 30, 2007 06:47 PM            

"Lucia - I still think he's interested in you, but he might be freaking out a little and backing off temporarily. I'm just curious, if you don't mind...what did you say in your text?"

I think unfortunately that it's been too long. After I didn't hear from him for a week, I texted and said, "If you're around this weekend, call me if you want to go get dinner." And he just ignored the text. At the beginning, he called, texted and emailed a lot. I think he's trying to let me know he's not interested.

"Lucia, can you keep your cool about it? It may just be the old leave-'em-hangin' test to see if you're needy or not."

For my future reference if I ever date again--what does this test entail? Does the guy just not call, and if you don't call either, he deems you "not needy"?

CoralFrequency, I agree with you. Neediness is unpleasant, and so are tests! The Cap seems like a straight shooter to me, but then I don't know him that well.

posted December 30, 2007 07:29 PM            

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For my future reference if I ever date again--what does this test entail? Does the guy just not call, and if you don't call either, he deems you "not needy"?

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Like I said, it could be subconscious on a Capricorn's part. You can still call when he's absent. Just stay conscious of what kind of vibe you're putting out. You can express missing him without it sounding needy. Just be confident.