posted February 04, 2008 11:00 AM              

This is my story: This man came into my life when I was 14 y/o and we struck up a conversation. There was an instant and undeniable connection between us. You may say that we were awfully young to know what love was but it was definately there. And from that day our friendship/relationship began. We grew up together and throughout the years we leaned on one another for support, advice, and even physical comfort. For the past 25 years we have been in each other's lives and counting. We use to be neighbors and then I moved out of state. Prior to me leaving, he asked me to stay and even wanted to move in with me. I was 18 and was so scared to make that commitment that I turned him down. But instead of sharing my fear, I kept it to myself and left the state. We frequently kept in touch and saw each other up to three times a year. He went to the Navy and got engaged. That hurt like hell but I was willing to let him go because I knew that we were meant to be. I then got married and knew that it was a mistake and it really hurt him. And also because he broke off his engagement after I got married. He was always afraid of the depth of his love for me and tried to deny it. I eventually worked up the courage to say those three little words and risk losing him and got rejected verbally but his eyes told a different story. And last year he couldn't deny it any longer and we have been on this journey since October. This love has endured and is even stronger than we both could have ever imagined. Our plan is to finally get married, have children, and grow old together. It is not an easy relationship, but we continue to work and share our feelings and emotions in order to understand each other. It is evident that he and I approach life differently and I have alot to learn about his moods but I want to understand.

You are right on the money in regards to the relationship that exists between Gemini and Cancer. I am a very sensitive person and do have a hard time expressing my emotions. We do have fun together and laugh alot! We are able to communicate without speaking and share the same interests. The most important is that we are comfortable with each other and can say and talk about anything. This man puts me through alot but to me he is definately worth it. All that I seek is to gain understanding and insight into the Cancer mind because I need all the help that I can get

posted February 04, 2008 11:31 AM              

You are correct, I am definately with a Cancer, and I am a GEMINI! We should both throw a party for this relationship match. I was never really into horoscopes or anything but figure it couldn't hurt to have insight in my opinion. There is too much negative stuff out there about our pairing. But it just goes to show that you can't believe everything that you read because the work has to be put in just like any other relationship! I respect other's opinions even if I don't agree but I do try to understand. Take what I can use and discard what I can't!

Gemini's and Cancer's approach life differently and I welcome the challenge that comes with this relationship. I think if more people focused on understanding their mates and actually hearing them that relationships would not be so easy to give up on.

Cancers do seem to be very emotional, sensitive and extremely moody and Geminis tend to be very cereabral, social, and tend to be flirts. Which I think is true about both of us. What I do disagree with is that Geminis cannot be homebodies and that we hate to be tied down.

I have always been faithful and committed to the man that I was in a relationship with! I treasure and honor my partner but Geminis are always accused of having two faces and wanting to have your cake and eat it to. Geminis may share the characteristics that are out there but maturity seems to never be an option for us Geminis. At some point we have to grow up in order to have a meaningful relationship. One built on trust and mutual respect.

Cancers also get a bad wrap, you guys are sometimes difficult to reach when you withdraw but the critics make it sound as if you are absolutely crippled. Geminis help Cancer come out and hopefully stay out of their shells. Patience and sensitivity are definately required and what you get in return is an absolute love that is not only beautiful but extremely powerful. The love that a Cancer has is unmatched to anything that I have ever experienced and could not imagine my life without it!

posted February 04, 2008 01:43 PM              

I can totally relate to your relationship because I have always felt as though I had always known my man from the moment that we met and felt as though I saw his soul. I wish that I could remember the exact age that I was when we met because my life did truly change from that moment on....I had someone who I knew would always be there for me for the rest of my life no matter what. Someone that I could be myself with and have a honest connection that was valued and respected. I felt the same thing that you did.

I have never been a materialistic person
and have always been sensitive to other people's feelings sometimes to my own detrement. Like Cancer, I care and want to make things happen for resolution so that we can continue to be one. I want my opinion to be heard and don't mind if someone disagrees but the importance is being heard. But yes, we can all be that way, but you learn what is important inn life and learn to pick your battles.
I pride myself on being open-minded and am always willing to see the other person's point of view and if the reasoning makes sense then changing my opinion or position is not a problem. I have it, too.

I am begining to understand that Cancer's emotions are overwhelming at times but so are Gemini's. We just think it to death and sometimes don't know how to let go and move on. For me personally, I too feel as though I care too much about others and am fustrated when they don't reciprocate the sentiment. I tend to think that people are very selfish and don't understand that people need people and that is just the way of the world.

posted February 04, 2008 01:55 PM              

There was definately a highly sexual attraction between us then and even more so now. And without a doubt an intense emotional connection from the beginning as well. I believe that sex plays an important role in relationships but the sex is just the icing on the cake. The sex is GREAT, tender, very expressive, and all consuming but I value the emotional connection above the sex.

posted February 04, 2008 02:01 PM              

I believe that if you have love, then there is always hope. Don't ever give up and fight for the outcome that you want. Always be kind and considerate and to treat others as you want to be treated. This world would be so much better if we all heeded those words. We are not different from one another but we must make a choice to stop being judgmental and commit to understanding those in our lives. Differences make life more interesting and we must reach outside of our comfort zone in order to experience the fullness of what life has to offer.

posted February 06, 2008 12:09 PM              

The issue that I have with my guy is that he is very insecure and I understand that the distance plays a major role in his insecurities. However, I try to make sure how much he means to me by sending him flowers, letters, messages, etc. I try to show my devotion and reassure him that he has my heart but it is never enough. He focuses on the negative and it drives me absolutely crazy! I don't know how many ways to say tell him how much he means to me. I feel as though we take three steps forward and ten steps back and it fustrates me.

We had a conversation on Monday night and he really hurt my feelings. He told me that he felt like I would be able to manipulate him. I asked him if my track record actually reflected that fact and he told me No but it is the way that he feels. He admitted to being scared and my feeling is that he is looking for any excuse to run out on me.

My fear is that we will get married and he will shut down on me emotionally. Emotional issues are so hard for me to deal with as they take me off balance but I am willing to face them as they come up. Another issue that he is dealing with is the depth of his love for me.

Yes, everyone fears rejection and not being good enough but how can you be so sure about someone yet focus your attention on things that have not even occured yet?

DainBramaged you have given me insight into the Cancer mind and I truly appreciate it! Hopefully, I will be able to call on you if other issues arise

posted February 11, 2008 11:59 AM              

He does love me but he keeps stressing to me that I do not understand exactly how deep the love goes. I know that he is insecure but the love is definately there. It can be seen all over his face, he can't hide what his eyes say. He has told me that he is scared that he will get hurt and admitted that I would definately be able to do it.

I have just planned a trip to go see him in a few weeks so I will have to let you know how it turns out.