posted January 27, 2008 04:50 PM            

After having a quick flick through the ephemeris I've noticed he has Mercury and Mars in Cancer as well as the Sun. That is a lot of sensitive, easily offended man.

We don't have a time of birth but the Moon's noon position is at the end of Gemini, Square Uranus. If he's not too far from noon we could have a little capriciousness in the character. But we don't know, well, I don't, maybe you have picked up on something like this?

Meanwhile you have Mercury Square Mars with an orb of 2*. Mercury is in fast-talking Gemini, Mars is in Sagittarius, a sign not best noted for its tact. It says what it thinks, straight as an arrow. Some people really like that, others find it a little harder to handle.

Just a couple of ideas there, the real way of finding out what is up is asking him.

posted January 27, 2008 10:33 PM            

yea perhaps your too fickle for him or something.. you have to talk to him and get to understand him.. read on about Cancer men. . your not the first gemini girl to be stumped by a cancer guy on this forum. This forum has practically become a sanctuary for all confused women looking for answers about the cancer male.. but it is really simple.. look within. In the smallest ways we are not much different from you women. except we still have male behavior which is where it gets confusing..

posted January 28, 2008 12:49 AM            

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Im usually partial to girls a bit older then me. which by the way. there was a question about males and dating older women on the forum a while ago and I said I would find the placement that fits.. and I was right all along but I just couldnt find the evidence.. but it is Venus-Saturn contacts.. for me its an opposition and my venus in the tenth house of saturn and cap.

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That's true. Venus-Saturn contacts do indicate an attraction to people who are older (or at least more mature). It's more socially acceptable for women. I never thought about what it would do in a man's chart though. Makes sense.

posted January 28, 2008 03:49 AM            

So I took another look, on his chart Mercury is Conjunct Mars. It's at 7 degrees orb, but that's enough to be felt. This is a mind working on over-drive but not with using the principles of logic, more intuition. Astrology Weekly suggests quick to take offence before getting all the facts:
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/astrological-aspects/mercury-conjunct-mars.php
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/learn-astrology/mercury-in-cancer.php

posted January 28, 2008 10:27 AM            

I'd say you probably quite unintentionally trod on his sensitive feelings. Or perhaps you gave him cause to worry. Perhaps you rejected him without meaning to (like saying you couldn't hang out one night when he asked you to), or teased him to roughly, or casually mentioned another man. There's a myriad of potential things you could do to hurt the tender heart of a Cancer man. Cancer's retreat into their shells when stung or afraid just like real crabs. Personally, I think it's bad to let Cancer's retreat. I know as a female crab, the longer I'm in my shell the more my worries grow. Males may be different.

But my general advice is for you to gently tell your man you've noticed he seems a bit distant. Reassure him of how important he is to you and ask if there's anything you did to make him sad or worried. If he chooses to respond, really listen to what he tells you - it will let him know you care.

I always feel that total honesty is best (could be my Sag ascendant). Don’t leave any room for doubts or guessing games. I think Cancer’s prefer to total disclosure to mystery - it leaves less room for our insecurities to grow.

Best of luck to you dear lady!

posted January 28, 2008 01:56 PM              

Do you mean as a Cancerian myself, I shouldn't date fellow Cancerians?

posted January 28, 2008 07:54 PM            

yes as in you shouldnt date another cancer. sry. its my advice

the Gemini Girl,(sry i cant remeber your sn)

ok so heres what you need to do.. you go surprise him at his house. you tell him everything that is on your mind and you tell him how much you love him and just preach that for a while. and then you f*ck him until his little pincers cant hold onto you no more and then you rest and in that time his pincers will heal and become stronger and then you will have the cancer guy latched onto you for good .. everyones happy, problems solved. and no matter what he says or does hes going to be attached to you strongly and love you even if it seems like he isnt.. if you want to go further then do something sweet and thoughtful for him .. maybe like have that same day flowers getting delivered to him and you can follow the delivery and when the flowers arive you can be right there and he takes them from the guy and he reads the little note on the flowers and it says something sweet and lastly it sais "turn around" and boom there you are to surprise him and then the talking and such I wonder where I get these Ideas..

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I don't want to be a product of my environment. I want my environment to be a product, of me.

-Jack Nicholson "The Departed"

Cancer Sun
Moon Libra
Ascendant Virgo

posted January 29, 2008 05:22 PM              

How do I figure out our charts with our birthdates?

posted February 02, 2008 11:56 PM            

Gemini being Cancer's 12th house - this is the worst relationship in which Cancer man will suffer deeply.

posted February 04, 2008 10:12 AM              

I have been enjoying this 25 year adventure and plan to for the rest of my life! I would ask that you not catergorize everyone to your experience but weigh out each situation on a case by case basis. We Gemini's are not all alike.

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These relationships never work. No matter how well all other planets are structured. Remember our Sun sign is 50% of who and what we are and what we do.
Gemini being Cancer's 12th house - this is the worst relationship in which Cancer man will suffer deeply.

Enjoy your Gemini adventure while you can. You will not get hurt.

posted February 04, 2008 10:29 AM            

You're with a Cancer, and you're a GEMINI!! ????? I think I might just throw a party for having just seen that fact. Ah, I'm a cancer, and happen to love gems, but get somewhat discouraged by all the negative stuff out there about a cancer and gem match (or even friendship, i guess!). Yay! I'm really happy to hear this, ok (you have no idea lol).