posted May 01, 2008 07:49 AM         

Well, I have known two friends, who have been going out with such psycho`s; each of them abusing them emotionally (not physically), and their threats of killing themselves,w as just the last drop of it.
HOwever, as far as I know, they are still well alive (hating my friends, though. lol).
You say, he is not violent, but he has been violating your emotions; that`s every bit real abuse and violence than kicking you imo.

But even if he takes his life, well, it`s his choice, and you are definitely NOT responsible for that. You are not responsible for ANY of his actions. Don`t let him brainwash you, so that you think you might be.
eVeryone is responsible for his own actions, so is he.

Gosh, this guy makes me really angry!

posted May 01, 2008 07:55 AM         

What DD said.

posted May 01, 2008 09:27 AM         

I am feeling much better now. I'm not seeing red anymore.

posted May 01, 2008 05:01 PM         

Don't worry about the fridge, a girl's gotta eat.

I think this guy is the lowest of the low.

He cheats on you several times. You finally muster the courage to break up with him. When you took that action you were telling yourself, him and the world that you are no longer allowing yourself to be disrespected.

Now, he uses your kindness, vulnerability and idealism against you to continue to get what he wants. He wants HIS ideal, regardless of what you want or how you feel.

...once again.

We all want to be nice and kind and project that out into the world. But I'd now like to introduce you to a good friend of mine named:

SATURN

Saturn has a reputation for being a bad guy because he feels cold, harsh and rough. But Saturn is THE MAN!!

Saturn is trust and truth. But when you p1ss him off, he becomes MAFIA-LIKE RESPECT! He becomes a SLEDGE HAMMER!

My advice is not to p1ss him off, as a matter of fact, you don't even have to p1ss him off in order for him to say, "Are you talkin' to me?" in his best Joe Pesci imitation.

Saturn wants to remind you that when the mafia speaks, they don't stutter and they don't repeat themselves. They NEED to be clear because one tiny mistake could mean the taking of many lives.

Saturn equals business, BOUNDARIES (which you ex-boyfriend is disrespecting by the yard), bones-back bone in this situation, teeth, and skin (for protection), rules, authority, discipline.

I think your boyfriend has earned your Saturn expression now. Saturn is "NO!"

He doesn't want to experience the boundaries of Saturn, none of us does, but it's necessary for our life, for our health. Children need to have boundaries, they need to hear no in order to stay safe.

You need to say "no" to him so you can be safe and have peace of mind. He needs to hear "no" and experience it in order to learn, because Saturn is a teacher.

Now, he can experience Saturn as a benevolent teacher or he can experience Saturn as the nun who hits him on the knuckles with a ruler. It appears he has made his choice and he will now experience Saturn as the mafia nun with a brick upside the head saying, "Which part of NO don't you understand?"

Saturn is time.

Unmoved, it's "Time" to set your "boundaries" in "stone" with him. You deserve mafia-like respect at all times. Now make it "concrete" for him. If he takes his life, which I doubt he will (because he's too selfish to give up his life) it has everything to do with his own baggage and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!!

Please take that in.

Now is the time to tell him and you now have permission to detach with an axe. He can't phone you or visit you or email you or write you a letter. He has lost all of those privileges that you extended to him as a friend with a kind soul. He selfishly used you kindness against you to continue to step on you, don't let that continue. You deserve better lovers and better friends.

To quote Tina Fey when she heard that people think that Hilary Clinton in a b1tch, she said: "B1tches get stuff done!!"

You now have permission to be the baaaadest Biaaaatch you can be.

...and I want a report.

Geocosmic Valentine

posted May 01, 2008 05:42 PM         

The last guy... a Leo... he is not dead but he was injured badly. I don't feel responsible for his stupidity, but this time around I am trying to turn down the Queen Biaatch in me. I never thought that the Leo would go through with it but he did. He has called me since, telling me about a bullet in his head and having one less finger; and although I am not responsible, and I don't lose sleep over it, I was a partial contributor to his actions. I was used as a reason to end a person's life.

The Leo cheated too.

I don't know what's wrong with them, but this one, th Pisces has been hinting, but he has not called and said, "I'm gonna kill myself..."

So, I am sort of biding my time, waiting for a sign. He won't handle my stern side well. So, i am trying a new strat that doesn't have people shooting themselves afterwards.

posted May 01, 2008 06:07 PM         

Sorry to hear about your watery troubles.... breaking up with a Pisces (from personal experience) is like trying to remove a clam off of a rock!

posted May 01, 2008 06:29 PM         

I feel terrible for you around that situation with the man who happens to be a Leo. His blaming your situation with him as the reason for trying to take his own life was abusive to you, also. And for some reason, the same "scenario" is back in the form of the current abuser.

It's easy for me to say all of this because I haven't been through it, but when it starts to give YOU ulcers and starts driving YOU insane, it's not worth the friendship. This is where it starts killing YOU. It's just plain old abuse again. The ultimate control over you. It's cruel to the extreme.

But I have the feeling that you will handle it and it will work out in your favor.

I'm thinkin' about you and have a prayer sent out for you.

...and if you need me to "hold your gold" I'll be right there.

posted May 01, 2008 06:32 PM         

That cheered me up!

posted May 01, 2008 07:08 PM         

Sorry if there was an update on this one, but I got halfway thru the posts and I have to leave and I just wanted to say that.

posted May 01, 2008 07:46 PM         

One of the exs took that to heart and did something stupid, so with this one, I was trying to not repeat history by pushing someone over the edge again. Especially since this one has hinted that he would.

So, with this one I have been trying to be less harsh than I have been in the past.

posted May 01, 2008 08:38 PM         

quote:

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Peace treaty
Valid during many months:

The recognition of your own limitations can now enable you to achieve a natural authority which helps you to be more adept when dealing with others. This is particularly likely if you are in a wider sense occupied in a therapeutical or pedagogical role. Both with yourself and others you are intuitively able to strike a balance between sternness and sympathy, and this can be a great help if you are involved in counseling or educating others.

This is a very good time to deal with the mental or physical scars resulting from wounds inflicted by your parents or other figures of authority. Of particular relevance are situations in which you felt totally misunderstood or experienced a painful rejection which made you unable to forgive the person concerned. Be especially alert if these people suddenly reappear in your life, because this influence can help you to make conciliatory approaches to others.

During this time you will come to see your everyday structures and routine in a new light. You sense a growing urge to overcome old and particularly oppressive restrictions which limit your freedom to act. These may either be self-imposed or result from your sense of obligation to others. It is not so important to remove all your burdens and difficulties - on the contrary, your new understanding can help you to deal with your personal and social responsibilities and obligations in a new and more positive way.

Chiron Trine Saturn,
activity period from beginning of April 2008 until beginning of December 2009

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