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posted September 07, 2008 05:03 PM         

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This is your eclipse fallout, affecting your 2nd house of self-worth and coming from your 8th house.

You have to find a way to deal with your self-worth and sexuality not being tied up by your looks anymore. That's your eclipse lesson and it's a hard one.

You have to now find someone who "fits" with you. Isn't this better than the idiocy of the teen years where everything was looks based? I didn't even think like that back then, wish I had, but I was always looking for a good fit and don't fall easily, but I digress. The dating rules change in the 30's, I know, because I'm in my 30's and single too. There are fewer men in the dating pool and a lot of them are, frankly, undateable. It's a bad situation, everyone is gun-shy. But, plenty of people our age find love - it's just harder to find people because there are fewer to choose from.

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posted September 07, 2008 06:22 PM         

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most guys interested in me are 10 years younger. I look young and they're surprised to learn my age.

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If this is just for fun and you're not planning on getting serious with these guys, why do you even tell them your age?

You don't really need to tell them anything other than the things you want them to know.

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posted September 07, 2008 08:44 PM         

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LadyNeptune, as a teen I was looking for someone who "fit" with me. That's how I ended up falling in love with my ex and staying with him for 14 years. And I picked guys before that who I felt I had a deep connection with. I actually think having lots and lots of men want to spend time with me and get to know me HELPED me find a guy who "fit" instead of making it harder. That way I knew there were many, many options and I knew I was going for what I wanted most, not settling. Believe it or not, I have always been very selective and slow-to-fall too...it's only in the last year that I ever decided to just have fun. I hope I don't keep hating the rules of 30something dating as much as I do now!

Yep, this is a tough, tough eclipse lesson. With my Leo ego + Cancer yen for emotional security, yikes!

Coral, I don't necessarily bring up my age, but I wouldn't want to hide it either. Even for a casual thing, I wouldn't want to feel like I was tricking some guy about my age, or anything about myself. I don't think I have anything to be ashamed of.

I don't want something really serious now--I've been in a very committed relationship for more than a decade and I want some fun. I wish I'd felt this way as a teen when the options were better!! Oh well.

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