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Topic: Attracted but scared of each other?
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augentier
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From: KS
Registered: Nov 2007
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posted November 17, 2008 01:15 PM
 
I have found no hard Venus-Saturn aspects or anything what has been mentioned above for the guy I am talking about...We met in person (at work), we work together all the time, we've spent many hours together outside of work and can communicate but there is something holding us both back from taking anything further although we have both made it to clear that we like each other. It's like initiating the physical part is scary for some reason...and at work we have a hard time talking to each other, not sure why. We just give each other awkward looks and smiles.. ------------------
Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon Mercury:: Sagittarius
Venus::Scorpio
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Kick It
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From: Leeds
Registered: May 2008
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posted November 17, 2008 01:41 PM
Id take a look at the composite ASC, see what that is. Maybe an Aquarian type of relationship.IP: Logged |
scrappydog
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From: Houston, Texas
Registered: Aug 2008
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posted November 17, 2008 02:14 PM
An exact venus pluto square can cause this type of reaction. You can be intensely attracted yet it feels vaguely threatening, especially when you are all alone with that person at first. This negative feeling will fade over time, as more of the sexual passion comes out. Remember pluto aspects regenerate and renew themselves, but in transformed ways.IP: Logged |
Melynna
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From: buenos aires
Registered: Oct 2008
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posted November 17, 2008 03:36 PM
I'd also like to know that. I have the same issue with my "boyfriend", who I've been seen for six months.IP: Logged |
Lara
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From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted November 17, 2008 03:40 PM
Melynna, do you have birth details? Can you put up a composite chart pls?IP: Logged |
augentier
Knowflake Posts: 893
From: KS
Registered: Nov 2007
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posted November 17, 2008 03:42 PM
I've looked a little more at the synastry and we have Moon square Venus one way and Moon trine Venus the other way..the comfort is there but perhaps we do both feel emotionally threatened if things were to get intimate? His Pluto is also exact on my ASC so that might be part of the tension. I don't know much at all about the NN but his NN squares my Venus, sextile Mercury & Uranus. My NN squares his Sun and trine his Mars. ------------------
Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon Mercury:: Sagittarius
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CoralBird
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Registered: Jun 2007
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posted November 17, 2008 03:46 PM
I don’t know, this is going to sound a bit weird but I have this with my man and we’ve known each other for years and are well passed the stage of becoming intimate. There are still times when he just freezes, gets all awkward, makes me awkward, and then he bolts, without looking like he’s outright bolting (a slight exaggeration, but that’s the way it feels).
His Saturn square my Mercury, Pluto, trine my Venus, Moon
His Pluto opposition my Sun, Chiron, square my Asc
My Saturn square his Neptune, trine Jupiter, opposition Venus
My Pluto square his Saturn, trine his Moon
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Knowflake Posts: 4497
From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain
Registered: Aug 2006
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posted November 17, 2008 03:56 PM
Augentier - have you thought about checked the progressed charts? The Moon-Venus square is not a hard, hard aspect but it can lead to feelings of not feeling appreciated by the other, a sense of (emotional) disappointment. BM - nice visuals there except usually the knife can't get through. Mars is the one to leave the relationship. Always thought that these were great descriptions of the aspects.
http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/mars_saturn_aspects.html They really accurately describe what I have felt. I've been both Saturn and Mars in these aspects with people. ...and otherwise AG's advice is spot on  CoralBird - I think you hit the head of the nail. I have with my celebrity crush his Mars square my Saturn and his Saturn squares my ASC/Jupiter/Pluto/Moon. It feels terribly uncomfortable and similar to what you say as well as feelings of guilt, vulnerability, heaviness and unworthiness. Very strange.
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darkdreamer
Knowflake Posts: 3991
From: Germany
Registered: Aug 2006
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posted November 17, 2008 04:12 PM
23,"I have with my celebrity crush his Mars square my Saturn and his Saturn squares my ASC/Jupiter/Pluto/Moon. It feels terribly uncomfortable and similar to what you say as well as feelings of guilt, vulnerability, heaviness and unworthiness. Very strange"
Tell me about it! lol With my Celebrity-crush (which one you ask? One of the only two that really count) his Saturn widely conjuncts my Saturn (5) and widely opposes my Neptune (5), conjuncts my Karma, while my Saturn conjuncts his SN exactly and opposes his Jupiter and Destinn. Uncomfortable? Heaviness? There is a lot of heaviness involved, emotionally for me.
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Knowflake Posts: 4497
From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain
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posted November 17, 2008 04:14 PM
Yeah not easy stuff DD. IP: Logged |
darkdreamer
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From: Germany
Registered: Aug 2006
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posted November 17, 2008 04:26 PM
Nope, he`s the only person in the world I really feel "obliged" to whithout even knowing him for real. lol
But I just can`t shake that feeling of obligation and responsibility. It´`s weird.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 17, 2008 04:30 PM
I had this with my Aqua..Gosh we were not together I would crave the hell out of him, but when I would see him I would almost pass out..One day I was driving down this street and I thought this was him in this care the same kind of car he has and my heart dang near hit the floor, its always like that..He was the same way, he would be so nervous and scared he would not like that..You know Aqua's can't stand the emotion and intensity..Anyway my Saturn conjunct his moon and Venus and we had Venus conjunt NN going on as well.. IP: Logged |
darkdreamer
Knowflake Posts: 3991
From: Germany
Registered: Aug 2006
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posted November 17, 2008 04:51 PM
How funny, Mamma Mia, with my celebrity crush his Venus also conjuncts my NN, and his Saturn trines my Moon.I guess, it can get really complicated, if you have strong uncomfortable but sticking Saturn-contacts on the one hand and on the other hand there are really nice aspects like Sun-Moon, Sun-Venus or Venus-Moon or Venus-ASC or Venus - NN or Moon - NN for example. IP: Logged |
23
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From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain
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posted November 17, 2008 05:06 PM
You're right about the commitment and obligation with these aspects too DD IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 3274
From: London
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted November 17, 2008 05:17 PM
Oh gosh l totally know what you are saying Mama Mia - l thought l saw my guy on a bicycle on Friday and my heart just jumped out of my body.I wish l didn't feel like this though. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 17, 2008 05:20 PM
I said dang I am gone end up having a heart attack if this keeps going on... IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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From: CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted November 17, 2008 05:40 PM
I think some people are taking the astrology a little too far in this instance. This scenario is actually fairly common between Capricorn and Cancer suns. This has essentially been how all of my relationships with Cancers have started. There's kind of a long mating dance to it.IP: Logged |
Melynna
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From: buenos aires
Registered: Oct 2008
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posted November 17, 2008 06:34 PM
I'd love to Lara...the thing is that I don't know his birth time, and I don't want to ask him (see what I mean? He doesn't believe in all this). Will it still be useful without his exact birth time?IP: Logged |
LadyNeptune
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Registered: Dec 2007
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posted November 17, 2008 06:44 PM
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I think some people are taking the astrology a little too far in this instance. This scenario is actually fairly common between Capricorn and Cancer suns. This has essentially been how all of my relationships with Cancers have started. There's kind of a long mating dance to it.
Ours went on like this for 20 years. I think you're right if it's just beginning butterflies, but sometimes it lasts. We eventually discussed it...20 years later. Our signs aren't quincunx though.
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CoralBird
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posted November 17, 2008 09:03 PM
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Ours went on like this for 20 years.
I think you’re right if it’s just beginning butterflies, but sometimes it lasts. We eventually discussed it…20 years later.
Over 19 years for me. quote:
It feels terribly uncomfortable and similar to what you say as well as feelings of guilt, vulnerability, heaviness and unworthiness. Very strange.
Strange indeed. I remember him saying one time that the relationship felt too heavy with too much responsibility and obligation. I was so shocked because I am quite independent and pretty low maintenance. I think the only times that I felt this way was when I felt it building up in him….kind of like…what’s that word they use for husbands of pregnant wives that start experiencing all the symptoms of pregnancy? Empathy pains?
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LadyNeptune
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posted November 17, 2008 10:47 PM
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Over 19 years for me.
Really? I thought he and I were the only one's with this "weirdness!" It's nice to know I'm not alone.  IP: Logged |
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