posted October 20, 2002 02:25 PM         

Me: 1/10/66 12:43 pm Cleveland,TN
Him: 7/5/75 2:52 pm Camp Pendleton, CA

Here's some questions, and I'll try to keep them simple and short (but I do want to know alot.......ok everything!) I understand that there are time constraints. I may get a little wordy, (just venting mostly) but the questions are still pretty short and to the point.

1. Are we compatible enough to stick together? In Synastry, what are our strongest points and what are our weaknesses as a couple and how to make it better?

2.WHY,WHY,WHY do I always have this nagging feeling that I am being deceived or cheated on?!!!!! Even if all evidence proves that I am not. Is it me, is it him? Thanks in advance for your help.

Peace,
Deanna

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We don't see things as they are.......we see things as we are.

posted October 26, 2002 05:43 PM         

thanks in advance!
dee

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We don't see things as they are.......we see things as we are.

posted October 27, 2002 09:57 AM         

here is a cool Anaïs Nin site for you Deanna. The girl who runs it, Anja, is very cool...

http://stinfwww.informatik.uni-leipzig.de/~beckmann/nin.html

Also, I wouldn't worry too much about your new guy. A lot of it can be that you are just suspicious by nature, as you said, that you have a new baby, so you may feel more tied down, and thus subject to *anyone* cheating on you more than if you had no child, and also possibly that he is so much younger than you. Yet I would caution you, or anyone for that matter, against looking in someone's chart for something specifically negative, like a propensity to cheat. In other words, give dude a chance before you relegate him to All Men Are Dogs status. He is a Cancer, they are pretty faithful, I have heard Give him a real chance. And give him freedom, and just because you may feel a bit more tied down, be careful not to make him feel that way. Yet he might surprise you and want to be around a lot to help you with the baby, Cancers can be very nurturing. Just be careful when out and out looking for a cheating bone in his body based on his birthchart...astrology should not be used that way, and Auriel would concur, from what I know about her. You, she, and I are the same age. enjoy your new baby and new boyfriend! What is the tiny tot's name?

Oh, also see this thread, particularly the second page, where the girls talk about guys being around and showing enough interest and all that:

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000574.html

perhaps it will be insightful for you

posted October 27, 2002 12:55 PM         

Carlo,

Thanks for the advice Carlo. You are probably right. One tends to find exactly what they are looking for. It's that thinker/prover mechanism in our minds. If you think or believe something (really) you tend to eventually experience it or at least set out to prove that what you think is true.
By the way, me and my dude have been together for almost 4 years, both of my kids are his kids too so he better help out! He has always been loyal, or so he seems. I am one of those "good" girlfriends/wives that gives tons of freedom, I don't nag or get onto him when he doesnt help out, I tend to be very neutral and calm about most things but I think it's starting to bug him. He is very emotional and miserable with himself, typical whiney Cancer, and I think he gets upset with me because he thinks I dont understand why he feels so bad and have any usable answer's for him. I guess being laid back can be taken the wrong way. Thanks again. Gotta go tend to the baby.

posted October 28, 2002 01:20 AM         

Ahem...Deanna is older than Auriel.

posted October 28, 2002 12:55 PM         

Later,
Dee

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We don't see things as they are.......we see things as we are.

posted November 02, 2002 05:06 PM         

Peace,

Deanna

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We don't see things as they are.......we see things as we are.

posted November 04, 2002 11:42 PM         

i'm looking at your charts. i will get back to you in few days.

thanks for your patience and kind contributions to the website.

posted November 05, 2002 11:16 PM         

thanks for providing more context and narrowing down your questions, it is most helpful

the things that stood out to me are that his mars in taurus makes a conjunction with your ascendant. i think it's nice because it gets all that taurus energy you both have moving his saturn sits directly on your IC, and your sun, so there are probably energies of restriction and possibly criticism (which can be positive or negative, depends on how you two manifest things). saturn opposing sun typically results in tights bonds of loyalty to one another. your moon and saturn square his neptune, which sits in your 8th house. there may be diluted, confusing impressions, or simply confusion on the state of affairs of things shared. there could be issues on trying to communicate clearly your feelings without him becoming misunderstood by your intentions. his moon sits on your north node, an indication that his role, (partly), in your life has something to do with feelings, security, and personal possessions. as his moon is in taurus, and your north node in gemini is in the 2nd house---symbolically ruled by taurus. his uranus sits very closely to your descendant, indicating that there could be something unusual about this relationship with this man, or unpredictable events could occur within the two of you. adding to this is his pluto squaring your mercury, some intense circumstances will periodically occur.

posted November 07, 2002 12:48 PM         

his mars in taurus makes a conjunction with your ascendant. i think it's nice because it gets all that taurus energy you both have moving
WE ARE BOTH PRETTY LAZY, IS THAT WHAT TAURUS ENERGY IS?
his saturn sits directly on your IC, and your sun, so there are probably energies of restriction and possibly criticism (which can be positive or negative, depends on how you two manifest things).
WHAT IS IC, I KNOW WHERE IT IS BUT WHAT DOES IT MEAN? YES I FEEL HIS HEAVY SATURN SITTING ON MY SUN! HE IS VERY NEGATIVE AND IT BRINGS ME DOWN.
saturn opposing sun typically results in tights bonds of loyalty to one another.
YEP, WE ARE BOTH LOYAL I HAVE TROUBLE BEILIEVING THAT AT TIMES, NOT BECAUSE OF HIM BUT ITS JUST THE WAY I THINK AND FEAR SOMETIMES. HE DOES AS WELL.
your moon and saturn square his neptune, which sits in your 8th house. there may be diluted, confusing impressions, or simply confusion on the state of affairs of things shared.
I'D LIKE MORE DETAILS ON THIS, BECAUSE I DONT QUITE GET WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.
there could be issues on trying to communicate clearly your feelings without him becoming misunderstood by your intentions.
WOOOOO YEAAAAAHHH!
his moon sits on your north node, an indication that his role, (partly), in your life has something to do with feelings, security, and personal possessions. as his moon is in taurus, and your north node in gemini is in the 2nd house---symbolically ruled by taurus.
MAKES SENSE BUT I'D NEED MORE DETAIL TO UNDERSTAND AND AGREE.
his uranus sits very closely to your descendant, indicating that there could be something unusual about this relationship with this man, or unpredictable events could occur within the two of you.
MORE UNUSUAL THAN UNPREDICTABLE.
adding to this is his pluto squaring your mercury, some intense circumstances will periodically occur.
BOY DO THEY OCCUR, I'D LIKE TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THIS, BECAUSE THIS IS WHERE WE RUN INTO SOME PROBLEMS THAT GET TOO HARD TO HANDLE AT TIMES.

THANKS AGAIN, PEACE AND

DEE

posted November 07, 2002 02:34 PM         

thanks for the response.

i'll get back to you soon.

btw, just wondering if you knew that typing in all CAPS means shouting on the internet . . .

take care.

posted November 07, 2002 06:57 PM         

peace,

dee

posted November 11, 2002 01:49 AM         

"WE ARE BOTH PRETTY LAZY, IS THAT WHAT TAURUS ENERGY IS?"

no, taurus energy is not lazy, per se. it favors more pleasurable, slower pursuits in the pasture. taken to an extreme, it can lead to indolence and mental lax. mars energy is good to help keep things moving and shaking sometimes, and to help stimulate interest.

"WHAT IS IC, I KNOW WHERE IT IS BUT WHAT DOES IT MEAN?"

IC is Imum Coeli in Latin. it is the lowest point in the natal chart. a symbolism of the private self.

your moon and saturn square his neptune, which sits in your 8th house. there may be diluted, confusing impressions, or simply confusion on the state of affairs of things shared.
I'D LIKE MORE DETAILS ON THIS, BECAUSE I DONT QUITE GET WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.

it may possibly mean that the things shared between the two of you, for example, such as inheritances, insurance, legacies, securites, wills, taxes, marriage licenses are not well-defined and set in stone. with those squares, misunderstandings may occur with these issues, and others related to the 8th house.

"his moon sits on your north node, an indication that his role, (partly), in your life has something to do with feelings, security, and personal possessions. as his moon is in taurus, and your north node in gemini is in the 2nd house---symbolically ruled by taurus.
MAKES SENSE BUT I'D NEED MORE DETAIL TO UNDERSTAND AND AGREE."

in other words, there is something about basic values and possessions (money, furniture, house, appliances, etc. to name a few examples) in this relationship that takes on an emotional spin. his role in your life, lends an emphasis to this issue.

best,