posted November 17, 2002 01:21 PM         

Dear, I cannot help you , but I think that you should add the birth hour.
Just in case...

I'm sure that someone will help you with this question

posted November 17, 2002 03:11 PM         

I am February 11, 1981 11:30 pm Torrance, CALifornia, USA my name is Donna Carmen Herrera if you need that too

JOshua Allen Cohen December 1, 1981 6:25am in El Paso TX, USA

Any help would be great-anything! Thanks so much!

posted November 17, 2002 04:33 PM         

Try www.astro.com

Go to AstroClick Partner and check the information about your sinastry...
Follow the instructions,it's easy.
Maybe this can be a little help for now.

posted November 17, 2002 08:28 PM         

I can't offer you astrological advice, but you mentioning him being "abusive" is particularly disconcerting. That's an important issue, be it physically, mentally, emotionally, or verbally abusive-is this something you've really gotten over? (as I raise a skeptical eyebrow)Obviously, I have no idea what your situation is like, but I am often inclined to jump to conclusions, and jump on the offense when I hear the word "abuse". I don't want to pry, I just hope that this is a safe situation for you. You should always feel free to e-mail or chat.

posted November 18, 2002 09:33 AM         

I dunno about this 'safe, loving, mutually caring relationship' stuff Oxychick's talking about; I'm a guy; my advice is: kick his teeth out and tell him to stuff off. So sorry to be the unenlightened voice here, but I hate it when people don't make the effort to improve their lives, even when it's obvious what needs doing. There's a time for peaceful negotiation, just as there's a time to smash some heads. Three years you say... my astrological calculations tell me that good ole Mars is chomping at the bit...

Sometimes, we have to look at ourselves and say 'Oh, c'mon! No way I'm gonna be stuck in THAT.'

Be reasonable.

And while we are on the subject, are there any women out there who can explain exactly why they stay in these kinds of things.

posted November 18, 2002 10:54 AM         

the words that rang out in me when you wrote your message is, "it's not fair."

life is short. nobody on knows what will happen tomorrow. and it's so unfortunate that we ALL take things for granted. today is yesterday's tomorrow. everybody deserves to be happy and live life to it's fullest.

"all things stop at God." a wise scorpio once said to me this engimatic sentence.

the inner you knows the answer to your inquiry. listen to the quiet voice in you.

lastly, heart to heart---it is not fair to sacrifice your love, beauty, enchantment, kindness, and the pure essence of you to a soul who does understand the value of those qualities that can never be found outside the heart. these qualities that lie in the deep pools of a person's eyes, misunderstood by so many.

be fair to yourself miss fajita. i am almost certain your inner self is asking the same of you.

love to you

posted November 18, 2002 08:29 PM         

You said what I was thnking (but was trying to be careful about b/c I don;t know her situation). but i agree. NO ONE should deal with any form of abuse. Not ever.

As for a safe and loving relationship...is there any better kind? (that is if you're going to choose the relationship path) Abuse doesn't factor into love, in my humble opinion. But I was trying to speak as best I could without prying beyond what Fajita wants to tell.

But anyway...I appreciate your wordly advice sir. And I'm glad someone said it.

And Fajita...say that you're taking this into consideration-that you're not going to let yourself be hurt in such a way.

posted November 18, 2002 09:33 PM         

Well...I understand Fajita...
I had a wonderfull marriage for 10 years,then , with no reason and no motive ,my husband became a violent person.

To make a long story short...It took me 4 years to finished my marriage.
Why ?
Because you don't stop loving a person in minutes.

You believe that this person will change,he said that he will change ,that he regrets, that he will be again who he was... it is a lie ...today I know. This behavior is psychotic, only gets worse in the course of time. But only today I understand.

I cannot advise anyone, the only thing that I can say, is that today, 18 months after the end of my marriage, I have peace.

I wish you the best Fajita

Jakie
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posted November 18, 2002 09:34 PM         

I'm glad you liked the site

posted November 18, 2002 10:08 PM         

I just don;t think this is an issue to be passive about. I'm sorry if I led your thread astray, Fajita.

posted November 18, 2002 11:19 PM         

what if the abuse has stopped (phsyical) but I am still holding the pain of that for 3 years and resentment- trying hard not too.
Basically I left him in June as I couldn't take anymore, and since then he has not hurt me? So I keep trying to work on things between us and I am wondering if our other dynamics will ever be cohesive
I forgot to add that I moved back in.

posted November 19, 2002 06:08 AM         

E-mail me. (If you want.)

posted November 19, 2002 10:37 AM         

When I said that I understand Fajita,I was trying to say that I understand what she is feeling,'cause I was in that same situation.

I also wrote that :

quote:

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You believe that this person will change,he said that he will change ,that he regrets, that he will be again who he was... it is a lie ...today I know. This behavior is psychotic, only gets worse in the course of time. But only today I understand.

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Our life is like a picture hanging in a wall. When we are "outside" of this picture we can have a vision of the whole scenario,all can be visualized. But when we are "inside" of the picture,our vision is limited.

The outsider could visualize,but to feel,you have to be inside.

I hope that she have courage to let this man go away. NOBODY should keep a relation with abuse.

posted November 19, 2002 10:57 AM         

During four years my ex husband was abusive three times.
The scars are in my soul. And these are impossible of healing. I am a person completely independent financially, I have my friends, my children are at my side, my social life is quite intense and in spite of everything , I don't have courage of beginning a new relationship. I lost my innocence... and I think you understand what I am saying.

The body's pain doesn't mean anything close to the pain of the soul. The shame of having accepted to continue in an abusive relationship is indescribable. And you know about that.

You could be my daughter, for this reason, I hope you believe that the salvation of your relationship doesn't exist. I'm sorry to speak like that.
You will never find happiness with this man because he is sick.And you'll be sick too if you continue with him... I saw your picture at knowflake album, as you saw mine. You're a wonderfull girl with a pretty smile , you're inteligent, kind, sweet, young...so, why stay with him ?

Think about that,please
You don't deserve this...nobody does

posted November 19, 2002 11:41 AM         

i am looking at your chart. please feel free to ask questions.

*big hugs for you*

are you good in the arts? do you have artistic talents in something?

aphrodite

posted November 21, 2002 12:03 AM         

Aphrodite- you said it, I am going thru so much- personally and everything right now- I am remaining strong on the outside, but inside a little wavery :-)
I like to write- that is what I want to be, a writer, and yes, I think of that as an art. And I love to cook, and as you can see in my thing on the bottom, it's the only art that nourishes! hee hee those are the only arts I practice but I can appreciate all of them- all my senses love to be stimulated!

Jakie don't worry I know what you were saying and I thank you for sharing that personal information with me. Oxychick I appreciate all your sharing with me too!

I tend to struggle with not having self-destructive things in my life..I struggled with drugs very badly for many years, 14 yrs was my first time in rehab and when I was 19 I met the guy I am with now- and by the age of 20 and totally reduced my drug use (at his insistence.) So alot of areas of my life improved (went back to school, took care of my body, work, family) when the drug use was gone, but then had entered just other self destructive phases of my life like staying with someone abusive and controlling and being bulemic. I suppose a main reason I stayed with him was because I honestly didn't trust myself to not go back to drugs if he was not there to "scare" me from them, and I do know me and drugs are not a good situation. But he has not abused me anymore physcially which I am grateful for, yet, I never really stop flinching, you know what I mean?
I try to work and things and know he is human and I have many things I needed to change as well. Part of me wonders if we are opposites and meant to be together- in a karmic situation? or is that stupid. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to help me.
Please know if he hit me again I would leave, he knows that which is why he hasn't done it- let me tell when I moved out in June it shocked the hell out of him! He never thought I had it in me.

well thanks everyone,
love and light and a little more love
fajita

posted November 22, 2002 08:57 AM         

i asked about you about the arts because your venus in aquarius makes an exact conjunction with your south node, trined by your jupiter in libra in retrograde. this indicates a natural, fluid talent in the arts.

aphrodite

posted November 23, 2002 12:00 AM         

I tell you those stars, always right on! I just realized you were in in SF..cool!