posted November 10, 2003 01:54 PM         

What sign are you? My ex-hubby is a Virgo. They can be a challenge when it comes to getting them to try new things, but they are also mutable which means they are willing to try...WHEN they have all the facts and they think about it....analyze and then decide to do it.

If it's food you are talking about, try taking them to a place that has several things that you like and they like. That gives them a bit of safety. For example, I love Mexican food. I grew up on the stuff, lots of garlic, jalapeno's, avocados...you get the pic. Well, my ex grew up in New England...not to spicy that one. LOL

So, I cooked a few dishes that really upset his Virgo tummy. Too much garlic...so I went easy...worked it's way up to my level...all the while I talked about ALL the health benefits, etc.. Then we would go to Mexican food and he would ONLY get cheese or chicken enchiladas. Then I worked him up to fajitas, carne asada and carnitas.

Now, he LOVES Mexican food. He even buys the spicy salsa.

Traveling was the same way. Virgos can be total xenophobes, but in a sense they are right. They understand the problems that could happen with foreign travel. SO, work within the system. For our honeymoon we went to St. Thomas. It's an Island, but a USA commonwealth, so it still follows our laws..

posted November 11, 2003 02:43 AM         

pidaua thank you very much for your reply. fortunetly my virgo tries alot of new things when it comes to food or anything "regular".the problem is his life. he is so preoccupied with the consecuences of something he hasn't done yet.

posted November 11, 2003 06:29 PM         

Let me get back to you when I have more time to give you a more toughtful answer.

posted November 12, 2003 01:09 PM         

As far as Cappy ascendents not being able to find their path. I haven't seen that before. My dad is a Cappy with a Cappy ascendent and he has ALWAYS known what he wanted. He has been in law enforcement since I was born and will finally retire this December. LOL

posted November 13, 2003 09:04 PM         

They are known to be picky with high standards, they have strong convictions, they are a lot more sensitive than they care to show, they have difficulty trusting someone unless they respect the person, and they will usually put work above personal fulfillment.

posted November 14, 2003 01:13 AM         

for the emotional part he is really sensitive an not scared to show me.and i am very happy
about that.we have really good communication. about the high standard thing i am not too sure about that. he is extremely trustworthy.i would trust him with my life.moondust thanks alot for your input.

we have been together for 4yrs this jan.7 and we are also high school sweethearts. we are each others first loves. i am 20 and he is 22 i think he should take as much time as he wants to try new things and to figure out what makes him happy. i just can't see him disappointed in himself. he is very smart and a really hard worker.so i want to help him as best i can. he has always been there for me.he has always supported me in my ventures and i want to encourage him, as best i can.he is trying to find his labor of love.

posted December 09, 2003 08:14 PM         

He will tell you if you ask.
What sign is his Venus? What is yours? If it's Scorpio for him then food will do it, lots of wine and chocolate because I know a Virgo/Scorpio venus combo and he has very high standards except that I know his secret weakness. Hershey kisses and real kisses at the same time. The scorpio venus makes him cuddly.

The scorpio venus if you are lucky to encounter to this, warms up right away to any overtures of touch, or physical warmth, food, hugging.

If his Venus is in Virgo then I would say flowers, or a gift with some thought. Venus in Virgo loves small gifts, emails, calls, you could drop by and bring him a plant and dress up. venus in virgo likes an attractive outgoing mate, because the virgo is not that outgoing.

If he has Venus in Leo then stay at home and invite him over for dinner and a good movie on TV, and then give him a big kiss. If he doesn't know you are interested then he isn't breathing. Leo is warm but they need direct encouragement. Those fixed venuses are more serious though and are secretly looking for "the one". If you are not "the one" then leave right away.

What is your Venus? Capricorn? If it's Capricorn it will be very tough because earth signs do not always warm up to venus in an earth sign right away. He may see you as a friend. You will have to break out of your shell and be as direct as you know how to be without acting crazy. Just be as romantic as you know how to be as much as possible. Wear light perfume, have flowers around the house, wear silk lingerie, wear a robe while answering the door. Just get increasingly personal.

Ask about his family, ask if he likes to cook. Earth signs love to cook. Then instead of inviting him to cook for you one day, ask him try a delicious type of chocolate you just happened to have at that moment. Create intimate moments like that. Slap him on the back. Then touch his hand often. Then touch his knee. Hug him. Wave goodbye. Introduce him to your friends by name, instead of as a "friend". Tell everyone you are serious about him so that they treat him like he's special.

Send him gushy, gushy cards.
Christmas and Valentine's day are coming up. Notice. Thank him for everything, everytime he opens a door or does anything for you.

As in

THANK you, that was SO NICE of you!!!!!! Bat eyelashes here. Touch his arm..slowly, draw it back. SMILE with your whole body. Watch him all the time. say Really? That's wonderful, and Wow a lot. Compliment him on his great taste. Act like you are four years old and need him to explain everything to you very carefully. When he gets impatient tell him it's because you love his company so much, you want him to tell it to you, over, and over, and over again.

BATT eyelashes here and wiggle towards him.
SMILE.

I find water venuses get along great with earth suns, and vice versa. and air signs get along with fire venuses and vice versa. My first real love was a Gemini with Cancer Venus, and I am a Taurus with Venus in Aries. It taught me that combo does need much encouragement. It's not impossible with other combos but it takes more encouragement. The easy partnerships are the ones where you are both on fire for eachother right away with the slightest touch-BUT it still takes time to work it out.

I think you can work it out with an earth sign but they are tough to know and they do not trust easily. You will have to act like you have time and are not that desperate, but pushy is okay. Just as long as you are not in a hurry to go anywhere. Virgos like to be friends for life. Put him on your lists for everything and tell him he's "in".
Tell him you REALLY enjoy his company!

posted December 31, 2003 03:12 AM         

firstly, i adore anything that burns my mouth spice-wise, i insist on extra hot salsa @ mexican restaurants as well as an extra little bowl of jalepenos. secondly, i love to travel, backpack, explore and thirdly, i enjoy sex immensely and will try just about anything--animals and self mutilation are the exception.

all that being said, my emotional nature is sensitive and i will not just BE this way with anyone in terms of sex. im thinking eiai0107 is making the reference to sex. if so, just be patient. it is not easy 4 me to warm up to someone unless i feel 1000% sure i want them and the chemistry has to be absolutely perfect or i'll wilt very quickly.

posted January 01, 2004 05:16 AM         

T R U S T M E

.gloria

posted January 01, 2004 06:21 AM         

I don't know what else to say then... I guess I'm fired...