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posted May 28, 2004 03:54 PM         

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Hi Pixel,
Your husband's of the April-1974-born - right?
I was born on the 18th. Maybe I can offer a perspective from that point of view...

Interestingly, my Aqua mate comments on the fact that my concentration span in conversations is low - and that I smother him when I cuddle him!! (He's an Aqua with Venus in Capricorn - although his Moon in Leo, Scorpio Ascendant and Mars in Pisces temper that somewhat). I also feel that, whereas in many ways he has provided the right conditions for me to grow and develop and do interesting things, I am unable to do the same for him, and feel bad about that. Although in his case his situation is partly of his own making, and he knows it, he is still slightly resentful that on the surface at least, I seem to be "having all the fun". - Maybe you are feeling like you are the "supporter" rather than the "doer"???
Also, Aries, and particularly Aries Tigers, though irresistibly adorable at times, are also a LOT OF HARD WORK (think A.A.Milne's Tigger). Aries can't help being "me, me, me", they're just so excited about life and how they relate to it in general. Although they can get along alone OK, they do get on better with someone "looking after them" and taking care of all the boring, mundane things. Has this become the case for you - or are household duties equally shared? Do you have fun together? Do you have interesting conversations together?
Unfortunately spouses don't always understand our enthusiasm or need to involve ourselves in our interests. Scorpios need quiet time, introverted time, SPACE away from their kids, away from their spouse sometimes, just doing something for THEM. They need to meditate, reflect, pursue. Perhaps as an 8th House Sun, and with lots of Pisces, I can relate a little to that too. My DH resents the fact that I spend so much time painting and drawing, but the fact is, it's my JOB, I have deadlines to work to, and other jobs to do besides. My husband is (to a degree) financially supportive of me, which I am genuinely grateful for, but the artistic temperament, that specific way of thinking, he can't understand at all, and he can't understand why I NEED to do what I do, like it's my lifeblood. On the other hand - I can't understand his interest in horses and hunting. So it cuts both ways. I have needed to draw strength from WITHIN MYSELF to carry my artistic pursuits on, over several years, despite some objections and disapproval from family, who think I ought to get a "proper" job - and - what joy! they're bearing the most rich and delicious fruit...It's sheer determination that gets you there.
Work out exactly what you want, who you are...and the rest will follow suit. Trust that whatever decision you make will be the right one...
Have you tried Alison Day's Lotus Tarot website - if you haven't already? Her interpretations are excellent, uncannily accurate, and have helped me through a recently difficult time. However, I wouldn't be tempted to read for the same problem more than once. They also take a lot of energy...so perhaps don't attempt more than about 3 readings within a short time of one another...
Good luck!
AriesTiger

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posted May 28, 2004 05:30 PM         

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Ariestiger~
Thank you for your comments and bringing this back up to my attention.
Thank you for your perspective.. Oddly enough though, you, in describing yourself, seemed to be describing ME as opposed to my husband. During 'fun' times, outings and relaxed times, he and I are two peas in a pod.. we both love fun, and can have fun in a paper bag.
But I have an artistic temperment, I do less housework, though I like it tidy, I'd rather do other things....or I will do it in a whirlwind of activity. My husband has a super strong work ethic. ( I think due to the way he was raised, values.. plus, he is an only child, first house Capricorn Moon, fourth house Sun, Venus in the second house.....His MC smack dab in the middle of Libra~ Cardinal, like his Moon and Sun)
In fact, he is working late right now.
As far as equality, I think I have the better end of the stick, actually. He is working overtime tomorrow, so I am going out with a girlfriend tonight, while he stays home with our daughter (son's at his dad's for the weekend) as he gets up early anyway, so can't go out. He chooses to do this though. I like extra money, as does he, but I don't ask him to do it, it is natural for him to fill niches, he has an equally comprised chart with both Mutable and Cardinal signs.... no fixed.
I shouldn't complain.. but you know, I get disatisfied, but I think I am looking a gift horse in the mouth at times. But I really do believe no one will ever be good enough... simply because I am not good enough. I don't mean that in a totally negaive way, I am still evolving, but I always get the sense ( most particularily in this marriage) that I am just not measuring up in many ways... I overdo it in some very improtant ways.. but that doesn't make it equal. I am the most supportive partner ever, I am understanding, I 'allow' fallabilities, as I am certainly not perfect..... I make sure to keep the love relationship alive, which is quite important to so many men, and the one area many fall short in after children come... ( I am talking about sexuality...) But of course, those are things important to me, so naturally, I do them easily, as that is how I want to be loved back. So , selfish, really. Ahhh... I just know I identify more with the way you describe yourself ( with more emotional roller coaster concessions,) Than I see him in your descriptions. I wonder if it is my Leo ascendant, colouring me more than it should. Maybe his softer planets temper his impulsive nature more.
Thank you for your words.

PPFM~ Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner with this, it was alot of info to digest and I thank you so much for writing it all out.. I see it also helped Ariestiger. So two birds with one stone.
Then, it got a bit buried, and I am of the fast food generation after all....
Short memory and all.
How are things in your area of the world?

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posted September 21, 2005 02:24 PM         

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I love all this Synastry/Composite/ progressed stuff and I was wondering if someone knew what these things mean?

If the Numerology guy want to analyze that would be good too with his awesome Numerology Book.

9/23/1969 that's me
12/19/1975 that's him

The Synastry is great and very Karmic.

The Composite midpoint has this going on:
Sun Scorpio 14 degrees conjunct Juno and also conjunct his Natal Venus.

Venus conjunct pluto in the 2nd, conjunct my Natal Uranus.

True node 21 degrees Capricorn in the 5th.

Part of fortune 5 degrees Pisces in the 7th.

Moon in Taurus 6 degrees in the 9th. conjunct my Natal Saturn

Mercury 26 degrees Scorpio in the 4th house conjunct my natal Neptune exact.

Mars, Ceres, Eros, psych and Chiron in the 8th house with Chiron conjunct his natal Jupiter.

Jupiter in the 11th house conjunct his natal Moon in Cancer.

My Natal Venus conjunct the Ascendant.

In progression Charts we have in synch Moons his is 21 degrees Leo mine is 21 degrees Gemini. His Progressed Sun is Trine my Natal Sun and my Progressed Mars is conjunct his progressed sun. My Progressed Sun is conjunct is Uranus. His Progressed Venus is at 21 degrees Sagittarius conjuncting transiting Pluto. His prgressed in Aquarius 7 degrees Mercury is Trining my Natal Uranus, IC, Mercury and Jupiter. My progressed Moon is conjunct his Natal Mars in Gemini 21 degrees. My Prgressed Venus is conjunct my Natal Venus. My Progressed Mars is also conjunct the 7th house Cusp.

I think this is Significant but who knows the guy is running scared!

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Sun Virgo 29,Moon Aquarius 25,Cancer Ascendant 25

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posted September 21, 2005 08:23 PM         

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Oh geez!!!
You bumped THIS thread

Can you believe I have been doing this for THIS long?

It is time.
After I am IN a wedding this weekend, I think I will dissolve my own when I get home.
I feel oddly calm.

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posted September 22, 2005 01:24 AM         

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Oh $#%&! What a thread to bump. Lord!

So that's it, huh? You may feel calm, and he may be an Aries, but I'm sad for you.

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posted September 22, 2005 10:16 AM         

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You're sad for me?
Don't be. Be happy please. This has been a long time to feel the same way.
If I didn't take action, you could really be sorry for me.

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posted September 22, 2005 11:51 AM         

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I see what you're saying. It is a long time to deal with something that doesn't sit right in your soul.

I mourn relationships that don't work out, so it's not so much feeling sorry for you as it is feeling sad that something that had the potential to be something good didn't work. I'm a bit of a romantic.

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posted September 22, 2005 01:36 PM         

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But it HAS been good!
It was good for a long time, so in a way it is a success... But it has run its course I think.
I think some people come into your life for a reason, and you evolve and then the reasons aren't there anymore.
I have looked for them and I see them in moments.. but if I only lived my ife in moments I wouldn't have these needs that weren't being met.
I am romantic too. Possibly too romantic. Maybe that is my problem.
When you pare it all down and see the things that used to matter were true, but they don't apply anymore, it is romantic in a way to seek out things that do, rather than recycling the old stuff when it doesn't fit anymore.

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posted September 25, 2005 05:26 PM         

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Ack.
Spoke too soon.
Things are great this weekend.
I should stop going to extremes all the time, but you know, I work through it.
I love that damn man. He's a good one.

***********edit***********
Nope, I was right the first time.
But I didn't want to bump any more personal rants.
I do love that man, but not enough I guess to find out why I only want to leave.

********editing queen*********
I think he's worth fixing myself for. I want to leave because i am scared. But he is patient and loves me despite it all. And that is what I need in this life.
*sigh*
I have done him wrong, and I need to fix it now.

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