posted April 22, 2004 11:05 PM         

being a gemini i always look for fun and like social occasions but i never truly enjoy them... its like i'm always looking for a deeper stability in life. but gem just wants fun!

posted April 23, 2004 12:07 AM         

I was going to say, the part about taking time to know you can trust someone, is HUGE. When I noticed he was doing this, it didn't phase me a bit because my heart is so FULL of love, and I'm so open to him. I love him unconditionally, and in maybe other ways I show love, he's perhaps not used to anything quite like it from anyone.

Maybe because I knew him for over a year, while he was liking me he never knew how I really felt about him, although I remember way back when one night he sort of dug his heels in and dug into my head and somehow made me confess to him that I had no doubt of my attraction to him and how "too hot to handle" it would be. (I was dating Taurus at the time).

Then out of the blue, I sort of pop back into his life, and within a week, we discovered (or at least it was confirmed for ME), that the chemistry was out of this world.

That first special night I asked him for only two things. I said, "Just love me... just pure love - and listen to me..." and he agreed and he's showed his very conscious and quite successful effort.

And then just before we made love for the first time, I told him we must never stop trusting each other. And I guess that was deep too because there have been times when like you said, he's making sure he CAN trust me...

But in addition to this, he's been observing ME to see if I slip up & distrust him first. But he's the one who has had to struggle with it more. And it's not like he's doing outrageous stupid things to test me, he's just being himself and going about his life, and observing me to see if I fold as quickly as some women in his life have.

As for needing to be more in touch with your emotions because you can push them down, this has been quite obvious as well, however, we share this struggle in our respective Natal charts. We BOTH have the SAME T-Squares!! The House placements & Focal Point are different, but we both have the Cancer & Capricorn opp. In a T-Square, it's a CONSTANT struggle between the two energies.

And I think it's one of the reasons it may also work between us because while he has the Capricorn Moon, I have a Cancer Moon!! While he has a Mars & Jupiter in Cancer, I have Jupiter & Saturn in Capricorn. Interesting, huh?

Well... you can just talk all about you all you want. I'm more than happy and APPRECIATIVE of your sharing, and you can ask me anything you want.

Thanks!

posted April 23, 2004 01:16 AM         

no surprises that he liked u for a long time b4 anything happened. sounds like you have a very open and honest sort of communication so no doubt he loves that!

him watching you to see if you're gonna slip up and distrust him spoke volumes! oh my gosh how many times have i almost ruined things by being suspicious and sure that they're not gonna live up to the trust i wanna give them... thats amazing.

posted April 23, 2004 02:28 AM         

The little bit I've read about him astrologically placed a LOT of emphasize, and from more than one aspect in his chart, regarding work and how it can interfere with his happiness. So take what you know and multiply it by 100. That's him.

So... that's just ONE reason why chicks don't hang in there long enough. I mean, I've said before, he's the type of guy that when he opens his heart to you - you just want to marry him. He elicits a magical reaction from people based on his emotive nature. His Singleton Cappy Moon is also in his 1ST HOUSE.

So he's got all these girls dropping like flies cuz he makes them feel emotional... the more emotional they feel the whinier they get... the more he works, the whinier they get...

Well... if there's anything I hate it's a whiney guy. It's absolutely intolerable, like the sound of nails on chalkboard. Libra guy w/Cap Moon CAN be VERY whiney, but NOT always because he's weak. More because he's just expressing himself, how he feels at that moment, which is not a deal-breaker for me. (As long as I get the same courtesy).

So because of MY Natal, I've gone through many periods of overworking myself into a frenzy, so it's very easy for me to put myself in his shoes, again, especially because of these ironic Capricorn/Cancer dynamics we share.

Something else I read which has been like a mantra to me, previous life spent in poverty, and guilt in this lifetime causes him to end up in emotional proverty.

So...

What is my attempt to love him in this respect? NOT to make him work less. NOT to prove to him I'm the best thing in the whole world. NOT to try to sell him on some pop-psychology idea of "you have so much more potential, let me show you" - oh - that would be suicide...