posted May 23, 2006 10:14 PM            

Luvly girl, I do not think my response to you on my thread was out of line, in fact, in my response, I said as much.

You do not know me, so I would prefer if you'd reserve your judgement for when you do.

Just for clarity, I will repost yours/my comments from the pixelpixie thread here.

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luvly girl
Knowflake

Posts: 4
From: australia
Registered: May 2006
posted May 23, 2006 07:30 AM hi pixel pixie just wondering if you could tell me my soulmate dates, my bday is 20th sept 1971 born wollongong Australia. just in case you need to work out lat and longditude. hoping u can help x

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Mine Back.

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Luvlygirl.
Hmmmmmmmmm..... I will try not to jump on you here, but I do find it a tad presumptuous to hop on a thread with my name on it to grab attention about a thread that's long dead, that in fact, I didn't even start, and the starter of the thread changed his post to 'This is BS' when he saw that people were jumping all over it, asking for something.
I have not met you, you barely said a hello, and you ask me to do something for you that I have outright said to others I had stopped doing. If you'd read the thread, ( as you obviously had) I'd outlined reasons for not doing it anymore.. so the answer is the same here as it was there... even if it's whispered. If I turned others away, I will do the same for you, as it wouldn't be fair.
again; I have lent that book to my brother. I do not ccurently have it in my possession.
That said;
Hi. I do not know you, could you tell me when the best day would be to say No to preserve my sense of help at a neverending cost/versus impersonal kindness?
If you post a thread with a specific question, I'd be happy to help you if I know the answer, myself and others.....
But if you impose yourself on my personal boundaries after I have already talked about it ( that thread was my bloody undoing, but it served it's purpose at the time) then I won't likely respond with the kindness people are used to receiving from me.
It's like coming into my house with muddy boots on and offering carpet cleaning services for a cost.
I find it rude. Sorry if I am off base.
Anyway, happy trails, we'll start again somewhere else if you choose to continue posting here. Yet to be seen.
Good day!

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Then just to put it all in perspective, your post to me, on the last page, here

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pixel woke up to find ur nasty reply, there are ways of saying no and that was terrible. all u had to say was a polite "sorry luv no can do". I am new to this site.didnt realise the thread didnt come from u,sorry to have affended u. know wonder this world is upside down.what has happend to the peacefull people of this world the kind and gentle folk, sigh....

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Nasty? I wasn't nasty in the least. I am fed up with people asking me for things. Do you see how many pages this is?
I did say no, but then I clarified, because this keeps being bumped.
You asked me 'secretly' on a thread with my namesake on it. I found it presumptuous.
Now, if you'd have come into my thread and said
Hi! And introduced yourself and established a relationship of a sort, then perhaps this conversation would be unnecessary.
Do not claim I am rude, I am just honest.
I know my boundaries.

Now, like I had said before, (which you overlooked in order to call me 'nasty' and imply I am not a 'kind and gentle folk', which makes me laugh a lot, and I am sure others would agree.....as well as the over sixteen pages of help as evidenced right here, or the countless other strings where I have helped and welcomed and done my best to generally make everyone's day pleasant)

posted May 23, 2006 11:36 PM              

No wonder the world is the way it is!

Luvlygirl..you can email me at lotusheart10@yahoo.ca for a free reading..and no ridicule..

Love and Respect for ALL..

P.S. welcome..and don't let them keep you away..for there are many here..for the right purpose...

posted May 24, 2006 12:02 AM              

we are all brothers and sisters..each unique..like a snowflake knowflake..each and everyOne..

posted May 24, 2006 12:55 AM            

Will wonders never cease? A moderator clarifying that she will no longer do something that she only did from kindness, as a choice, in the first place?

Please, by all means, if you have this book, I'd love if, rather than complaining about MY disservice to this thread, you went ahead and took it upon yourself to write out those dates!
You'd be 'helping' which is after all, what you are here to do, right?

Oh... yeah.. it's not what you're here to do, you're bored, so you have decided to fan some flames that were best left as ashes.
Some peace and light to all?
Peace with a piece.
By all means, construct a new fan base. The old ones all know the truth by now.
Luckily, I am true to myself and I can choose my truth by fairness. I don't have to bend over backwards and not be heard if I choose not to do something any longer. Be happy that I did it, I was happy to, and I no longer am.
It is frustrating to have to explain that over and over again. No is not easy to say, but it is harder to say over and over, and it does not make me 'unkind' to say No.

*quickly forgetting this thread ever existed...

posted May 24, 2006 12:58 AM            

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The Peaceful and Gentle People of the World are wondering what has happened to the ability to read words that are right under your nose.....

Why do so many newbies here expect All the Answers to Life's Big Questions be handed to them on a silver platter with no effort or investment of their time??

(**Must be tMoon sq nUranus -- cranky this afternoon.....**)

Zala

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posted May 24, 2006 09:19 AM              

Lotus, if you believe we are all equal, than why would you assume the first opportunity to make yourself appear higher? (really think about it).

This isn't about dividing people or cliques, so please don't go there. Everyone has the right to defend themselves from misjudgement and to hope for the respect and consideration from others that they try so earnestly to give themselves.

posted May 24, 2006 10:32 AM              

Go check out GU.

Though admittedly I am not as patient as you are, Pix.

posted May 24, 2006 12:22 PM              

Sorry you were offended..perhaps I expect more out of people..especially moderators..this site is dedicated to Linda Goodman..show some respect...Please...

posted May 24, 2006 12:45 PM            

If you want me to point out the hypocracy of your words, I'd be happy to bump up all the threads where you 'talk the talk'.

Leave it alone.
I refuse to justify TO YOU anything to do with my character, and besides that, you are posting on a thread where I have written down information and helped countless people. All you have to do is scroll back a few pages to see this. I have decided not to do this anymore, and was tired of saying it repeatedly.
Bottom line.

If you want to attack, by all means. I will not be privy to it, however. When you judge, you show your true colours.
Go buzz around someone else, or preferably, noone.

posted May 24, 2006 01:11 PM              

it starts with ourSelves..and you PixelPixie are a representative of this Site to Linda Goodman..to undertake to do everything with Love and Compassion and Respect..

So, please show some..

posted May 24, 2006 01:17 PM            

There is definately a similar style in the thread I read, yet I do not think she and Lotus are the same person.

I do appreciate your words to her, Mirandee.

posted May 24, 2006 01:35 PM            

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then..why???are you being so nasty and defensive???

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She's being defensive because a few people are acting as though she HAS to do this for everyone. Moderators are here to make sure that things don't get too out of line, and to help when they can. Pixie is a moderator of the Lexigram forum, not this one, meaning that's where her mod responsibilities lie; she pitches in at the other forums only when the other mods are absent, when she has a bit of advice or a helpful link, or when her presence is requested during these verbal brawls (as with a big one in the astrology forum last year).

That's all I have to say, I won't be arguing back and forth. Have a good day, everyone.

posted May 24, 2006 02:15 PM            

Lotus just needed some feathers to fluff, I guess too many people have been getting along lately, so she had no one to preach to or any way to hold herself higher, so she latched onto this as her personal gavel banging opportunity.
Why else would she swoop in? I know the pattern.

But the basics are... perhaps I was out of line to say anything more than a 'Welcome' and "No I will not do this reading you requested." But I felt I had to explain, and it irked me ( and lacked in social graces) the way it was brought up. So , as is my way, I spoke about it.
I will not stop speaking about something that I feel for.... but I will also not be reticent to offer my help or services in other ways all the time.I need not justify, nor do I need to be reminded of manners, as that was my whole original point after all.
I know my own balance.

OKay, I appreciate that Teasel.

I stand behind my posts here. Hopefully that will give it a rest now.