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Topic: Breakup pain...
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zoso
Knowflake Posts: 43
From: Nevada
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted September 09, 2004 10:32 PM
 
Those damn Aquarians! I, too, am a Sag and today I got my heart broken by an Aqua man who I've been pining over for awhile. He did it in such a nice, considerate way--which I think is worse. I wouldn't hurt so bad if he made me mad, if he just told me off, but this very compassionate way of letting me know he isn't feeling it? Heartbreaking. Ouch. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted September 09, 2004 11:00 PM
Oh! Like that Fiona Apple lyric I've put in my posts?IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 62
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted September 10, 2004 10:38 AM
I know right those dang on Aquarians!!!! They definelty have their own way of doing things. And I do know just how they can let
u down real easy too. After that makes you want them more... Sorry to hear about your broken heart, do not not wish that on anyone.
I too have a Aqua Man and it was a rocky road at first, but things have started to come togehter now. So yes I know exactly how you ladies feel...IP: Logged |
JustAmanda
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posted September 16, 2004 10:01 PM
Coming out of the shadows to say that I also am a Sagittarius, Taurus rising, and was very involved with an Aquarius man who totally broke my heart. And he didn't really "do" anything...except drop off the face of the earth... he married someone else...but contacted me several times after the wedding, the day after to be exact for one of the times, and expressed his remorse for it..to this day I still don't know what to make of all that...and it still hurts me like crazy...and I allowed myself to fall head over heels in love with him, and he never once said he loved me...it was as if he played this game of "come here come here come here...no..go away go away go away" he would be so close to the breaking point with me, and then bam, seal up his heart and withdraw...drove me crazy. My heart still aches for that man though...there was just something about him... IP: Logged |
zoso
Knowflake Posts: 43
From: Nevada
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted September 18, 2004 08:42 PM
I know . . .it's killer. That's strange that he called after his wedding. Did he tell you he had remorse for getting married? What's with that? IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted September 19, 2004 12:39 AM
... That would be a total deal breaker for this Venus in Virgo! ...IP: Logged |
JustAmanda
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posted September 22, 2004 12:21 PM
Well...he contacted the day before the wedding and told me that he hated that I felt the need to disappear from his life...I was like WHAT? You have got to be kidding me! YOU ARE MARRYING SOMEONE ELSE! So, then he contacted me the day AFTER the wedding and said that he didn't know what he wanted, but he knew that he hated the thoughts of never hearing from me again...again...I was like WHAT? Are you CRAZY? Here's the deal with this wedding though...first off, his "wife" is bisexual, but never came out of the closet...he didn't know this at first about her...then, because I guess he feels he's a humanitarian of large proportions, and felt obligated, he married her, so that her mother who was dying of cancer, could actually see her daughter have a wedding and be physically able to participate in it...so, this is a loveless marriage, from his standpoint anyway... At any rate, it's a very confusing marriage and was very hurtful to me...I don't think I'll ever fully be over it...but I guess that's just life...it generally serves me a bunch of lemons... :/ IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 62
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted September 22, 2004 12:28 PM
Well I will say to this good riddens. Be happy that it turned out this way cause there is way to much drama going on with this
guy. Marriage is serious this is someone that you will spend the rest of your life with. Not to sound mean but okay her mom was dying from cancer so you make a mess of your life to try and perserve hers. I womder if her mom knew the circumstance and if so would she still give her, her blessing. She don't even like men all the way. This is a bit much. He has to work somethings out. I will say this and let it go. Blessings sometimes come in disguises... IP: Logged |
JustAmanda
Knowflake Posts: 370
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posted September 22, 2004 05:40 PM
Yes, you are right Mama...and unfortunately, I don't think he will ever reconcile this or himself...isn't that sad?IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted September 23, 2004 02:03 AM
Is his wife cute?IP: Logged |
JustAmanda
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posted September 23, 2004 07:07 AM
Astro...that is a strange question to ask the jilted lover isn't it? But for fair play, you be the judge...IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted September 23, 2004 12:31 PM
Amanda/Bernise :I love your hair red!  Looks beautiful  IP: Logged |
JustAmanda
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posted September 23, 2004 12:43 PM
Awww!!! Thank you Libra!! I had it red for about 3 months or so...and then I went back to blonde ha..I can't make up my mind about my hair color...the length has grown out alot too...it's past my shoulders a bit now. I need to take some new photos...IP: Logged |
Sunny Mavericks
Knowflake Posts: 53
From: CA, USA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 09, 2004 09:04 PM
Hey ladies,I'm so sorry to hear about all the pain that you guys have had with those damn "hate to love them" Aquarian men. They are sooo frustrating! I had one suck me in also and I'm still recovering and wondering what hit me because I am usually good at dodging this sort of thing. Hang in there and BlueTopaz, what's the situation like now? Do Aquas let their humanitarian side lock them into relationships sometimes? (thinking about Amanda's situation) My friend went out with someone much longer than he wanted to and I'm not sure why. He wasn't into her anymore romantically but I can't get any details out of his friend(driving me crazy- I'm a scorp who has to figure everything out). I wonder if it's just a thing that they do- they care about everyone so much that they sacrifice themselves? But that doesn't seem to go well with their trait of being freedom lovers. IP: Logged |
Rizzo
Knowflake Posts: 13
From: Albuquerque, NM USA
Registered: Mar 2004
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posted October 09, 2004 11:16 PM
JustAmanda, I take issue with the posting of a picture of the ex's new wife. I think it's a breach of her privacy; this is a public forum. You've posted that she is bisexual and that her husband is having difficulty with some aspects of their marriage. Fine, if it's kept anonymous, but this is a small world. I can see emailing her photo to your buddies, but... Furthermore, the identity of the woman can easily be ascertained by poking around the site you posted. And her husband, your ex, is right there as well. Deliberately outing someone and posting deeply personal information about them without their knowledge or permission is, in my book, unreasonable and objectionable. Lord knows I wouldn't want someone to do that to me. Good luck with your situation. It sounds difficult. IP: Logged |
may12tauruslady
Knowflake Posts: 17
From: los angeles, ca
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 10, 2004 04:15 AM
Blue Topaz, i'm a taurus woman with an aqua moon. I've been attracted to quite a few aqua men in my life. Quite a few. And one in particular, I was involved with for about 3 years. A long time for me. It was a situation of trying to conquer him. It was a triangle with another girl. I knew about her, but she didn't know about me.Anyway, he was a trip. He was so aloof, such an eccentric genius and just plain crazy! A filmmaker. This was in Atlanta too! So, aquarius men, they really DO go for that friendship thing, Some women may think that they are being flirted with, but to Mr. Aqua, they're just being inquisitive and totally innocent. A lot of them are insecure too. Well, mine was anyway. SOunds like your Aqua-man does want to be frriends with you. It all depends on you. If you want to cut it cold-turkey and move on, (that's what I had to do with mine) maybe you should seriously consider that. Especially if it hurts you. Maybe, give it a couple weeks and see how you feel then? It's amazing how a little time off can work wonders. Tell him NOT to contact you and see what happens! I'll be checking back... and check out my situation too on AIRES VENUS NEEDS TO BE MORE PATIENT IP: Logged |
ariestiger
Knowflake Posts: 234
From: UK
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted October 10, 2004 06:00 AM
Blue Topaz:
Regarding your soap in his cellar - I think, from what I know of Aquas (I'm married to one) he is trying to do what he thinks is the most PRACTICAL thing to do. Aquas are totally practical by nature and don't let their emotions get in the way, ever. Once you realize that, you're probably going to be able to deal with things better. Even if you break up, Aqua males don't see that as adversely affecting a continued friendship. Which seems very weird to the rest of us, since most people would probably want some sort of "grieving" period. But then - Aquas are not like the rest of us.
I have similar push-pull issues with my SO occasionally but I have learned to get off on "playing" him in a similar way. He hates it when I dote and tell him he's wonderful, handsome etc. but really pulls out all the stops when I'm just a little hard on him, or capricious. He seems to love the sparks it generates, the challenge (like a great many men, it seems???).
Good luck, and I really hope you can get through this OK.
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JustAmanda
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posted October 13, 2004 11:46 AM
Rizzo, thank you for pointing that out to me...honestly that NEVER crossed my mind...yes, it's a weird place we live in, this world...I'm sorry I posted that.
Oh, and to be honest again, I had forgotten that I had even posted! That why it's taken me a while to respond...I don't check boards daily...and the contact info that was listed further on their site is no longer correct...that site was developed 2 years ago..so at least that is ONE good thing...damn..I just never thought about all that...I wish I had of...oh that bothers me something fierce!!!!!!! AAAAAAAH~! IP: Logged |
Rizzo
Knowflake Posts: 13
From: Albuquerque, NM USA
Registered: Mar 2004
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posted October 14, 2004 09:52 PM
JA,That was most cool of you to acknowledge it and edit your post. May your good deed come back to you threefold. Cheers, honey! IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2190
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted October 14, 2004 10:45 PM
Thanks Rizzo, and Amanda-Buddha said, life is a sea of bitterness, when it gets to be too much, turn back towards shore. Natasha
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BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 81
From: Pacific Northwest
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted October 15, 2004 04:58 PM
Update on this, uh, 'break-up'...Well, ever since this "break-up" in late August, it seems that if more than 3 days go by, either one of us is dying to talk to or see the other. I can't explain our tie to one another. He doesn't have an exact birth time, being born in India (in 1959), they didn't record birth times, at least it's not documented on his birth certificate to get an exact birth time. Avi mentions that he seems to think he was born at night, though. I would love to get an exact birth time to find out his ascendant and get an accurate chart done. I know my moon is in Aquarius and his is in Gemini. It seems like the more freedom I have (yes, I'm a Sag) and my Aqua-man have, we just are really enjoying our time together even more. It's always really intense between the two of us, and like I mentioned, cannot be apart for more than a couple of days. Uncanny, but a wonderful feeling. He says "I love you" so often now, and when ending every phone call, leaving messages or emails...: ) IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 62
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 15, 2004 05:25 PM
Ok well that is good news. I guess that saying is true absent of the heart grows fonder. (something like that) I do know how that goes being involved with an Aquarius myself we kind of experience the same thing
with the distance. We may go a few days with out seeing each other,but that is all we can stand. And when we do get together it is very, very nice :-) So maybe that space is good. I am happy to hear that he is telling you that he loves you, cause you know they do not like to share their feeling like that. They maybe feeling it and just would kind of rather show you then tell you... IP: Logged |
may12tauruslady
Knowflake Posts: 17
From: los angeles, ca
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 17, 2004 11:08 PM
That IS good news... but also, remember to think about what YOU really want? Do you want him to be saying I Love You and you all are not together (the way you were before?) That's confusing to me.... I hope I'm not making it worse... You nkow how Aqua men are so FRIENDLY... maybe you could ask him to explain what he means by saying that? But not in a forceful way, just request him to communicate and to not be afraid. You all have already gone through the worst - what else could happen?IP: Logged |
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