posted October 25, 2004 05:52 PM         

I am married to a Leo/Virgo cusp sun, Libra moon, which in my opinion is a very high integrity, honest & loyal mix.

My hubby's venus is in Leo, which is opposite your lovers AQ venus, but still...maybe there is some insight into opposing signs on venus also. To give you an example, when I try to "guess that sign" I often come up with the opposing sign. The energy feels the same to me whether it be sun, moon, asc, etc.

Anyway, my husband pursued, wined, dined, wooed. Was the most attentive man I ever met, but of course, this freaked me out. I pushed him away to the point where my own aloofness somehow fueled his fire.

Interestingly, at the time we began seeing one another, he had 3 women obsessing over him, calling insessantly (i finally began answering his phone) but I unknowingly played it cool and he wanted me more. By the way, I abhor the notion of playing a game to get what you want.

sidebar--->Coincidentally, his ex wife was a pisces and was ultra wonderful, sweet, and retiring. When we became more intimate, he opened up to me and complained she allowed him to "steam roll her". My perception is that she was indifferent and had trouble asserting her own needs. Me on the other hand (much to my chagrin) am fairly preoccupied with self, emotional needs, ideas, self-interests in general. I value my alone time, etc. and nail him when he so much as looks at me the wrong way. I'm confrontive and never allow disrespect in any form from this man. In a word, I could be percieved as the "***** ".

posted October 26, 2004 02:54 PM         

I'm not an astrologer, there are others way more qualified to look into the details of his chart. I just thought I could relate my own experiences. But sure, post his info.

Why would you think he could be embarrased of you? Your age? I'm hoping this is not some image issue you have with yourself.

I'm going to be frank here. When you put out yearning energy, people pick up on it. I know this is difficult (as I have had my own yearning issues)..but the more you yearn for a person's attention, the less available they become.

Having so much Pisces in your chart, you probably have HIGH intuitive resources. Try to lean on those natural abilities when you doubt yourself. All the answers are there for you.

posted October 26, 2004 05:16 PM         

Ok well I will try and do some detective work into finding out his time of birth and will get back to you - one thing for definite though is that he is a very 'typical' Virgo! You say there are other ways to look into it though – what are they?

Regarding the image problems? I know I can be insecure at times however most of the time I am comfortable with who I am. My personal opinion is that it is perhaps his image problem - you see he is subconsciously 'obsessed' about the way people perceive him and the impression he gives out - and I think this is where the problem is. A friend of mine thinks his 'embarrassment' is more to do with the difference between our rankings at work and what ‘he thinks’ people will think of him for being with me (I am secretary and he is nearish the top of the business) rather than my age - I completely disagree though!

If I put myself in his shoes the 1st thing that comes to my mind is the age gap and if we asked him his ideal women and her age I guarantee you she would be 30+ - but hey you cant choose who you fall in love with and Im sure not many people have actually ended up with a carbon copy of their 'perfect mental' partner!

I totally totally agree about the yearning energy and I am definitely going to try and hold back from now on. Its time to act 'mysterious' and to make him chase ME and wonder what I’M doing and thinking (if he cares)! No more Miss Available Pixie-Rose!

To be honest lovely* my intuition is telling me that he feels the same as me and wants to be with me just as much as I do but is just scared as I am so not what he imagined to fall for. Also I think he may be with someone else? I just hope I am right about him feeling the same because so many people think I am mental for thinking this. I also hope I am wrong about him seeing someone else! However you say trust my intuition but what do I do with it now?

posted October 26, 2004 05:17 PM         

Ok well I will try and do some detective work into finding out his time of birth and will get back to you - one thing for definite though is that he is a very 'typical' Virgo! You say there are other ways to look into it though – what are they?

Regarding the image problems? I know I can be insecure at times however most of the time I am comfortable with who I am. My personal opinion is that it is perhaps his image problem - you see he is subconsciously 'obsessed' about the way people perceive him and the impression he gives out - and I think this is where the problem is. A friend of mine thinks his 'embarrassment' is more to do with the difference between our rankings at work and what ‘he thinks’ people will think of him for being with me (I am secretary and he is nearish the top of the business) rather than my age - I completely disagree though!

If I put myself in his shoes the 1st thing that comes to my mind is the age gap and if we asked him his ideal women and her age I guarantee you she would be 30+ - but hey you cant choose who you fall in love with and Im sure not many people have actually ended up with a carbon copy of their 'perfect mental' partner!

I totally totally agree about the yearning energy and I am definitely going to try and hold back from now on. Its time to act 'mysterious' and to make him chase ME and wonder what I’M doing and thinking (if he cares)! No more Miss Available Pixie-Rose!

To be honest lovely* my intuition is telling me that he feels the same as me and wants to be with me just as much as I do but is just scared as I am so not what he imagined to fall for. Also I think he may be with someone else? I just hope I am right about him feeling the same because so many people think I am mental for thinking this. I also hope I am wrong about him seeing someone else! However you say trust my intuition but what do I do with it now?

posted October 26, 2004 05:27 PM         

You can go back and edit your post when you do that. Just click ''edit'' on the post, make sure you put in your password, and delet it, then type in ''dbl post''. We've all done it, sweetie!!