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firelights
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From: india
Registered: Dec 2004

posted December 20, 2004 02:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for firelights     Edit/Delete Message
i notice this thing in myself...i'm so curious about the girlfriends of guys i’ve had crushes on and in case of the one guy i actually went arnd with,for his ex girlfriend.i;ve never been friends with any of them...tho in one case i did meet my then boyfriends ex for a brief time...and although expected behaviour patterns n the situation we found ourselves in did not allow me to form a friendship with her i felt a very strong bonding ....a fascination...almost a soulmate something with this girl...inspite of the fact that she is very different from the kind of person i am...and my our ideaologies wld definitely clash...

perhaps it is a need to know that person better...perhaps it springs from an unresolved past...
does it happen to everyone?Is the past always just the past for you or does it intrigue you?

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moonbaby
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From: uk
Registered: Oct 2004

posted December 20, 2004 04:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for moonbaby     Edit/Delete Message
hey firelights... i got the same thing, 'cept it was more like i was really intrigued in knowing his path all the way to me.

it just gave me more of an insight into what my lover of the time is like

for you to be attracted to your lover means you would share something in common with his ex-girls, so the fact that your fascination lasts longer could solely be because you find them fascinating...

...right?

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firelights
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From: india
Registered: Dec 2004

posted December 21, 2004 04:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for firelights     Edit/Delete Message
thanks for d reply moonbaby...
ya...wat u said makes sense...obviously we have to have something in common if we like d same guy...
but i guess in my case the fascination sprang more from the fact tht there was somethin in these girls i found missin in myself...like a certain reserve n control ,a boldness of manner which i wished i had more of n an ability to hold things together ...a dignified strength which i don want to have coz im quite comfortable with my noisy displays of anger lol...but somethin tht i admire in any case......
repressed aspects of my personality perhaps...but strange tht i shd find em in this other

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