posted February 27, 2005 09:59 AM         

Ha,ha...you are too funny!

OK-Maybe you need to look at your own aspects for the moment and figure out where and why you might has hesitation within relationships. That may give you some insight. The astrology section at http://groups.msn.com/HOROSCOPESCHAT/aspects.msnw is excellent. Look up your personal aspects and read through the material there-it is easy reading and very accurate I have found.

Because you are just learning, I really believe it is best to focus on your own understanding and personal aspects with regard to astrology. That way you will get a sense of connecting to what all this is about. THEN...venture into the synastry aspects.

Tell me something, what are you exactly looking for? Some aspect that says NO or YES? That won't happen of course! LOL! I wish it could be so easy!

Do you want permission to move on? A thumbs up if you stay? You have nice aspects together but you still must incorporate the 'reality' of the relationship between you two. What you feel etc....how you two work together...10 months is not really a lot of time if you are unsure in any way.

Maybe you need to just give it some time...for some reason, the one year mark is always telling to me...not sure why...so I would take some pressure off of yourself...do some research with regard to YOU and learn. I think you will feel a lot better after gaining this knowledge.

No worries...everything in it's own good time! You are right to question and decide to look for more answers! Go to it!

posted February 28, 2005 02:06 AM         

Girlfriend, I've been in a very similar situation, trying to decide whether or not to be with someone, so I have a few words of advice. YOu mentioned having more reasons to be with him, than not - I did a lot of this too, trying to think with my head, and it took me forever, because my heart felt exactly the opposite! One thing I can tell you from my own experience - going against your heart will cause so much heartache down the road. So, try to listen to your feelings, Qudsia. If you have a few quiet moments when you wake in the morning (first, don't forget to breathe! ), try sitting with your eyes closed, and ask yourself what you most consistently feel about him & your relationship. What would it feel like to be engaged to him? married to him? HOw does he make you feel when you look into his eyes & when you really connect with him? You'll have your answer there.

Now, for some astrology-related tips: try posting your synastry chart from astro.com; I usually do it by picking Extended Chart Selection, and then selecting Synastry chart. Under styles, i usually select the Astrodienst with asteroids for starters, and then throw in a few asteroids from the list (you can look at mine for ideas). Once you get that, try posting it here; it will make it easier to see the relationships between the charts.

I also came across this phunky link someone had, that actually calculates the aspects, and describes a few of them that you can listen to: [url] http://www.cosmic-imperative.com/data_entry_synastry.htm [/url] For the ones it doesn't go into, the table it provides, calculates them for you. Reading an introductory site will help you figure out what degrees are conjunctions, sextiles, trines, etc. That Bob Marks site that GemStar sent is a very good one for learning the basics; i've been using it too.

Then, check out the Relationship section in [url] http://www.astrology-numerology.com/astrology.html [/url] - this one describes the synastry aspects for the personal planets, as well as 'synastry planets in houses'.

Oh, and the lunar nodes can be important in determining past life connections and future links - check out [url] http://www.owlsdottir.com/astrology/nodes_and_synastry.htm [/url/ for an explanation.

If you want to know the importance of various aspects, the cafeastrology site [url] http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry.html [/url] shows you how to weight the compatibility factors.

That's about all i have for now... hope the astrology experts here can provide you with more help. Good luck with your decision, and do keep us posted!

posted March 12, 2005 11:45 AM         

That insecurity about what you feel for him, that hesitation could be triggered by his Moon squaring your Sun – You feel that there is something wrong about him... His emotions can’t reach the essence of what you are, there is a clash of natures and personalities... You may appear too bosy, thoughtless or arrogant, hurting his feelings or ignoring him. He may appear oversensitive to you.

What strikes me is the apparent trouble you get communicating with each other... Your Mercuries are squaring each other’s Chirons... That will produce mental blocks... Understanding each other verbally is tough for you two, it feels like you belong to two different worlds... Your Mercury also squares his Jupiter, making communication difficult. Maybe you need to work on that and make an effort to be on each other’s shoes sometimes...

Your Chiron opposes his Uranus: Stress and classes between you two are known (or will be) to friends and family...

Now, as Gemstar said, you have a strong and beneficial romantic link: Your Venus trines his Neptune... That shows a long term romance and union. I can’t see marriage anywhere... but I can’t also see serious signs of heartbreak or a broken relationship...

Another positive connection is your Chiron quinqunx his Pluto... That shows combined power and success, prosperous partnership, compelling and effective family ties...