posted March 05, 2005 06:32 AM         

funny thing about this Aquarian, is he told me one day,after we had met up in person, that I had hooked him, before he even saw me...and he couldn't understand why he was so drawn to me...

no man has ever ever said anything like that to me before in my life..maybe he was lying..I don't know..but my intuition told me that he was not lying...and he stuck around for 4 years...

posted March 14, 2005 11:39 AM         

To explain:

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OR men in general...I wonder...do men analyze and overanalyze relationships like women do?

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posted March 18, 2005 06:47 PM         

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They will pull a disappearing act on you forsure

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posted March 19, 2005 10:47 PM         

thats one crazy story!

have u seen ur mother after ? if you dont mind my asking, did u live with ur mother or father?

i think leos in general can also pull disappearing acts, once my leo mom had a fight with my scorp dad in the car, they were ready to kill each other i think, there was so much tension in the air, funny how married people can hate each other with so much intensity dont u think, anyhow, he stopped at a red, and she suddenly opened the door, slammed it shut, and got on a bus ready to leave nearby, we were all stunned,

we went home, my dad tried to follow the bus but to no avail, she came back home after like 6 days or so hahaha

she would run, most of the time taking us with her, away from my dad every so often, then they would have to reconcile due to cultural and economic factors.

one of my ex leo bf's also did the same thing--disappearing for a year, then showing up after a year and craving my attention and affection as if he REALLY needed it, but it made me think, if he really did need it why does he disappear so, wouldnt he miss me, but im sure he didnt, leos are the kind to stick to u if they really do want u, so i was convinced me was playin me like a fool and turned out he was!

posted March 21, 2005 03:07 AM         

and i am happy to hear that they are happy with your partners, you are very mature to accept it all, people dont tend to understand that what will happen will happen, no use fighting it, better to accept it, come to terms with it, and go on with your life.

my father married again and moved out of our lives, which i was grateful for, most people say well dont u miss having a father figure, well i would say no because having a horrible father figure is much worse than not having one. i think i am too independent and headstrong to really appreciate a dominating father, i think its better this way, i have enough battles to go through with my mother, although i dearly love her our opinions differ on everything unfortunately

posted March 21, 2005 06:38 AM         

I always got the "don't you miss having a father figure" question too. And no I didn't, partly because my grandpa was there and I saw him as a father figure but also because it's hard to miss someone who wasn't ever really there. I feel a bit bad saying this, there's nothing wrong with my dad. He's nice and everything, but maybe because he's an Aqua - he's a bit too aloof and impersonal.

Sorry to hear that about your dad, being a horrible father figure. We both have hard moon signs.. mine's Capricorn in the 8th, yours is Scorpio. Both those moons have hardships, specially in childhood, familly probs etc..

And lol I totally get you on the cardinal/independent women thing. Most of my chart is cardinal and mutable. My sun/moon, both cardinal.. What annoys me most is when people feel the need to assert themselves by putting me down. Like they feel threatened, without any conscious threats on my behalf - maybe it's a subliminal message I send out without realsing it that makes ppl feel I'm TOO confident (for a girl).

I've come to the conclusion though lol Cap moon.. that it's best to keep a low profile sometimes and not necessarly let ppl know what you've accomplished or are accomplishing or act overly confident - too many bad vibes. As an Aries - being kind of naive that way I've always expected ppl to be happy for me because I'd be happy for them, but a lot of times they got narky and jealous..

I hate ending things on a pessimistic note so.. Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, Your friends give you head and You're a fool lols I said this to a guy who was bugging me the other day - totally unrelated and totally silly but thought it was funny

posted March 21, 2005 10:56 AM         

I love my Aqua man to death, but oh, the mental gymnastics (I'm being nice here)

I've also read that Aqua men may have a string of women one right after the other and are faithful to each one while he is involved with each one...guess this can be true, but from what I've read on this topic (and the oh, so many others on Aquarius men lol), that isn't necessarily true in all cases...probably depends on the person though, you can't really generalize, not with any of the signs, really.

They're just hard to pin down unless they want to be pinned down.

They do need to be the one in pursuit and will woo you and woo you and woo you until they break your resolve, particularly if you're a challenge. They love mystery and always want to know what's on your mind (but will never, ever reveal what's truly on theirs)

posted March 21, 2005 07:05 PM         

Recently I landed like a 'dream internship' that a lot of Business / Marketing majors would kill for quite literally, but when I told everyone, except for my mom, no one was happy, everyone was like, oh ...how come you got an internship and I didnt??? or, yeah, you're good at coming off intelligent in interviews (COMING OFF AS INTELLIGENT? WTF IS THAT, esp for someone who has a 4 and IS intelligent ok, not being cocky, I know my faults, but this isnt one of them you know). Also when I date and things (which is against my culture, everyone has to let me know how fat i've gotten or how men will jus use women they can be with etc. to try to pull me down), I am convinced that women are jealous of other women that know who they are, know what they want, and know how to go out and get it. I can do these things and women in general have been the biggest obstacles in my path so far, including my Gem best friend who I used to think of as my gal pal but after this internship ordeal and her unenthusiastic reaction Im pretty sure I should distance myself from her too,

I am mainly mutable and fixed chart-wise but my venus is in aries, venus is the ruler of my chart, and that is in 7th house, so its very important there, I think it gives me a little combativeness and fiestiness

Well much love and let me know more of your thoughts Im intrigued

posted March 21, 2005 07:15 PM         

Anyway, still to this day I have to fight that twinge of jealousy whenever she surpasses me (although a by-product of our childhood--she looovves to shove her accomplishments in my face because I was so mean as a kid)

posted March 21, 2005 11:18 PM         

No one is totally detached, but I have learned the lesson of attachment already. Now is my time, as a Taurus to detach, and I can't do that with an Aqua like I thought. they are actually pretty intense and when they fall in love, it really means something. It can be destructive, passionate.

I am done with my Aqua chasing,
Thank God!

posted March 22, 2005 09:36 PM         

Yes, an Aqua is a good one to learn detachment from, but not the only one to learn this from. I still have a hard time with detachment with the Aqua guy in my life, it really depends on the situation, because I can blow hot and cold and be either very aloof and detached or right in the thick of it, stirring things up. In some ways, I am very much like this Aqua guy - and is that I have to be detached from certain family situations for my own sanity and just because I am more comfortable that way - I need my space, pure and simple.

A relationship with an Aqua is very intense and passionate - you should see how it is between the two of us - me with all my mouthy firey-ness and Merc in Scorpio cut-to-the-quick observations, my Aqua Moon (unpredictableness) and his Donald Duck irrascible temper and you've got a wild time. He does have that ability, though to stay calm (it's only on the surface though) and detached when I'm flying off the handle.

posted March 22, 2005 10:16 PM         

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Also when I date and things (which is against my culture, everyone has to let me know how fat I’ve gotten or how men will jus use women they can be with etc. to try to pull me down),

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Are you serious? As if they say that, that's plain mean. I'm sure you're beautiful just the way you are and if anyone tries to make you feel bad about your appearance they have issues of their own to deal with. Don't even give people like that the benefit of the doubt. I understand the culture part. But at the end of the day you should do what makes you happy because it's your life and nobody else's business.

Girls do have a habit to get bitchy. I wouldn't even mind if they were being straight forward and told me whatever they have to say to my face. But when it's behind my back and they're all nice, keeping up pretences when I'm around, that I can't stomach.

posted March 22, 2005 10:37 PM         

yes i think that being from my culture and being a woman and being autonomous, or wanting to be, is a triple whammy, it is so difficult, life is a constant battle, and every moment is worried worried, well here I am back to my Prufrock-stage of how to presume, thats really how life passes day by day! I have to actively detach myself from it to enjoy even a single second .. !

posted March 23, 2005 09:57 PM         

But she has come to respect me, and everyone in my family has come to accept that I am independent, as soon a I did.

I had to shove it down their throats practically one day, and talk back to one of my uncles. As long as I feel comfortable with it, they do too.

In every family there is one super Mom, and in every family, people want to see the opposite, if that's who you are, then don't worry, I am doing it and I am fine with it.

My family is Irish/French Catholic and very big on marriage and children. I am neither right now and still they talk to me. Before if I made one little mistake, they would cut me off, hurting me. Now I don't let it get to me ever, I talk back to the leader, my uncle and let him know, with love that I expect respect for who and what I am.
And I don't talk babies/husbands with him at all, I keep the track on career so he knows I do not want to give in.

I care, but I have learned to get angry once in a while and it hasn't hurt, even helped.