posted March 03, 2005 11:28 PM         

We can still enjoy each others company, but at the same time he has never really been completely open with me about his feelings, his goals, or even about what he plans to do for the day/week/month.

Now, I read Love Signs years ago....and I vaguely remember that although our match could work....it was not really compatible...am I remembering correctly....because right now, my wishy-washy-spilshy-splashy pisces dreamer is driving this solid-down-to-earthy capricorn batty!

posted March 04, 2005 11:50 PM         

You can get charts from [url] http://www.astro.com [/url], where you have to input yours & your partner's birthdates & times. Then, from the Free Horoscopes list, you can select the type of chart you want; if you pick Astroclick Partner, it shows you some of the basic synastry aspects between you and another person, if you click on each of the planets or aspects indicated by the red (clashes) & blue (indicators of harmony) lines. The composite chart shows what your relationship is like; maybe you could try this.

I usually pick Extended Chart Selection, and then select Synastry chart. Under styles, i choose 'Astrodienst with asteroids' for starters, and then pick a few asteroids from the list, since some of them seem to be used in synastry. That's how I got the ones I posted in that thread. See, easy as pie!

posted March 05, 2005 12:55 AM         

Maybe living by ones ideals is the way to go?

posted March 07, 2005 11:17 AM         

I looked at your chart and the first thing that struck me is the fact that you seem to be a person whos got their feet firmly on the ground.You seem like a tower of strength,protecting others never realy neeeding protection yourself(atleast thats what you close freinds think).Passionate,devoted,steady and ever so dependable.You don't like suprises nor do you like to work at something that doesn't show any tangible results.Its likely that your friendships are steady and influential on your peace of mind.You area very affectionate person,bound to attract people eho look for your strong reserve!

posted March 09, 2005 02:22 AM         

Love1974, have you tried talking to your guy, telling him how much it bothers you to be the one doing all the work? Maybe, ask him what he expects a relationship to be like, as in what he expects to put into it, and what he expects from you, and what the dealbreakers would be. Then, if you tell him your vision of a relationship, you two could talk it out until you reach an agreement on what you'll each work on? I don't know.. just a thought that popped in my head.

posted March 10, 2005 01:08 PM         

ONE of the reasons why I value our relationship...the ability to talk about what is really on our minds and hearts no matter how difficult or uncomfortable it may be and know that we still love and care for one another.

actuallly since i first posted we are doing a lot better....I am coming to realize that our main issue was that he was not willing to be flexible with how i am changing my role in our relationship...I want to have more independence as a person (I am 31 and I have been dependant on someone else my whole life) and not have to wait for someone else to be able to do something for me or get something for me. see, I was changing and not communicating my changing thoughts and goals, so he was like...WHAT IS GOING ON HERE.