posted June 03, 2005 03:28 AM         

I miss our conversations too, and I've grown to consider you a friend, so I don't want to lose touch. Oh and don't worry I will have no problem bumping this thread right back up if it gets lost, k. Whenever you have a Virgo emergency, I'll come to the rescue..or I'll relate to you, so you at least feel better about it, haha.

Thanks for your incite into our relationship. Yea I am sooo glad he has all that Cancer, especially for his Moon (that really helps). We would have no chance without it, seriously. But your so right, he isn't naturally very expressive with his emotions. I have to crack open his protective shell at times. And it can be quite laborous keeping my feelings alive while I remind myself he loves me and comforting him at the same time...you hit the nail on the head there.

Recently he seems to be more appreciative to have me. He's been saying more sweet nothings and giving me affection than ever, so I thrilled with that. I wonder if he's learned how a few compliments go a long way towards softening my disposition or if he's just decided he's lucky to be with me? Either way, its working. I felt really good when he left my house today because we had a romantic night together Right now, I'm just praying that it stays this way for a while and that he has miraculously learned to express his emotions overnight. I know I know, that would be quite naive, but whatever it is, I think he is learning to love deeper and be more affectionate the more he's with me.

Who knows maybe we'll eventually meet in the middle. He'll be more affectionate and I'll require less confirmation from him. But I don't want to change!!

So you gotta tell me about you and Mr. Virgo!! Whats your secret?! Tell me, tell me! But finish your papers first! I helping you discipline yourself, hehe. K sweets I'm gonna go to bed, I'm sooooo sleepy. Night night, talk to you soon!

posted June 07, 2005 06:06 PM         

Yeah... my secret. My guy and I started dating right after I ended a year long relationship with another guy. My current bf has this thing about cheating exes... every girlfriend he has ever had has cheated on him. I've never cheated on anyone.

Except... one night shortly after Mr. Virgo and I started dating, my ex came over. Things were nice with Mr. V, but my ex and I had this really passionate relationship and he wanted to get back together. I was torn for a while, but I decided to stick with Mr. V. One night the ex was over, talking to me, begging me for another chance and... well, things happened.

Not ALL the things, if you know what I mean, but a little bit. And that little bit was more than I knew I should have gotten into. I don't know why it happened. I'm not even like that.

Anyway, about five months later I told Mr. V what had happened. He was really sad about it, but said that he wasn't going to let it get to him.

Flash forward to today. (Well, not this particular day, but you know what I mean.) A few weeks ago Mr. V and I were talking about whether or not to continue this relationship and he basically told me that he just wasn't the type of person who opens up. I thought for a minute, then remembered that he used to be.

Aha! On a whim I asked him if it had anything to do with the situation with my ex. He's never mentioned it except to joke around about it. But it turns out that THIS was the reason for all of his... weirdness this whole time.

I was surprised to find out that something he's never really talked about had such an impact on him and our relationship. I had violated his trust in me and now he can't get it back. Until he does, he can't "feel" anything.

I'm sure this exact thing hasn't happened to you, but for what it's worth, I learned how vulnerable a Virgo's trust is.

So... we're still struggling with this. I don't know how much longer this will last. He says he knows it didn't mean anything. (I even told the ex I was opposed to what we were doing while we were doing it... DUH! Right? I made a stupid decision.) But he can't get over it.

I was just so shocked to learn that he's been carrying this around the whole time, it has rendered him incapable of accepting any love from me, yet he doesn't leave. I still don't understand it. I'm almost done trying.

I'm glad to hear things are looking better for the two of you. As for us, we are so weary of trying and not getting anywhere. It's ridiculous that I can't just walk away. It's so hard to walk away from something after you've put so much into it.

Sorry for being such a bummer in this post! I've been stalling on writing because I haven't had anything good to report. I'm hanging in there though. And, YAY! All my papers are done until fall!

Take care!

posted June 20, 2005 05:37 PM         

Things are going much better with my Virgo guy. We got together a few weeks ago to talk, and usually I'm the one doing all the talking. But this time, it was him, and I couldn't get a word in edgewise! The boy became insightful. He told me what I was feeling. I was just kind of stunned. Robot-Man understands! He really really does! I'm only kidding of course, but you know what I'm saying.

I hope things are well for you. I can't wait to hear from you!

Also, if you haven't seen the Yahoo thread in Free For All, some of us have posted our addy's. If you've got an account, let me know. Maybe we can chat sometime!

posted June 30, 2005 05:01 AM         

I know I haven't been in on in like...a month...wow has it really been that long! I haven't had a stable internet connection until just recently and I didn't do anything about it because I got busy with my new job at Arden B..have you heard of it? Its a really cute clothing store. Anyways I'm really sorry this took so long.

Aww I'm so glad you and your guy are feeling more connected to each other. Hahah well well what do you know, Mr. Virgo was actually paying attention, close attention at that to what was going on. I bet you were shocked to hear such inciteful things coming out of him! My Virgo has done that a few times to me too. Its so funny how when you least expect it, they're just so full of wisdom and thoughts about the relationship. Its like where in the world did that come from?!

Well I'm glad to hear that your Virgo truly does get you, that will hopefully keep you both feeling connected to each other. These Virgos are so full of surprises aren't they?! Well I'm off to bed now, I just wanted to check in with you to say I'm sorry for being lame and taking so long and I miss ya! Hope to talk to you soon, hun.. Byee

Monica

Marycarmen,

I'm really sorry this reply is like weeks late. I'm glad you felt you could come to me for advice. I will read over your post tom when I'm more awake and see if I can help ok...or have you already taken care of it...well good luck anyways, night.

posted July 09, 2005 10:50 PM         

Things are still going well... between school and work schedules. You know the deal!

We are feeling more connected overall, and things have been much better. Still not as close as I'd like, but hopefully that will come in time when things slow down a bit. Like when we graduate... *sigh*

I hope your summer is going well. I'm glad to hear things are also better for you and your Virgo sweetheart!

Drop me a line whenever you get around to it. I'll be here!