posted April 29, 2005 04:59 PM         

That or maybe the Venus Trine Pluto in our chart!

Whatever it is, I would really like to erase this relationship form BOTH our minds ... its not healthy for either his new girlfriend or my amazing Scorpio, who has been really understanding and tolerant but whose patience I dont want to test.

posted April 29, 2005 07:27 PM         

So, do that, just call them and get rid of the junk, he will try and hold on,

Away with materialism!

posted April 30, 2005 04:42 PM         

pidaua...I do save every ticket, wine cork, you name it...even christmas gift tags with their handwriting on it!!

posted May 03, 2005 05:20 AM         

The others i throw and never even remember and dont even want to.Why should one remember something thats painful. Memories should always be sweet.

posted May 03, 2005 04:21 PM         

You can only be responsible for your own feelings, you can't make your Sag stop feeling for you.

As far as Saggies and mementos, please don't be under the false impression that is anchors us to the people, it doesn't. Out of all the exes in that box (and there are at least 15 to 20) there have only been two that I had ever really missed and wanted to talk to again. The items are just for memory sake - they don't bond or make us want that person.

He is still talking to you because of one of two reasons 1) you are now a challenge 2) he misses you (not because of those items).

If you want him to stop interferring with your relationship with the scorp then you need to cut the tie.

posted May 03, 2005 04:45 PM         

Besides, I have a tendency to kinda let him walk all over my feelings without even letting him know - and that cant be healthy for either of us!

posted May 03, 2005 06:29 PM         

How are things? I would say that since you are the one that knows about the power of Venus - Pluto, then you'll have to be the one to let him know where you stand.

Saggies are known for popping in and out of people's lives. We will also talk about "Hey remember when we made out under the stars? Man you made my tummy flip". We may even flirt with;.."yeah and I'll bet it would flip again" But, keep in mind that we are philosophical by nature, sometimes saying exactly what we are "thinking" but not what we are "feeling".

I have a Saggie guy friend that tells me he is still waiting for me to marry him. He sends me letters and cards..little mementos..but I KNOW he is a big flirt lOL...and he really doesn't want to marry me.

posted May 06, 2005 11:48 PM         

The way I see it is I have moved on it my life; they are no longer a part of it. With me, when someone is out of my life, they are out of my life and there is no going back. I see it as pointless to hold onto something when it’s not there anymore.

For instance, my Capricorn friend holds onto every little thing that she can...every relationship she has ever been on...or any date she goes on. I mean, taking the napkins from the restaurant you just ate at with your date...then proceeding to write down the date and time is taking it way too far. Then after her and her boyfriend at the time breakup, she pulls out the stash of stuff she has collected and goes through everything, lamenting...torturing herself repeatedly -- wanting something back that she cannot have.

For some people mementos are a way of keeping the past alive and for others it’s an affirmation of their memories. In some cases (like my friend's), I think mementos can be damaging, because if you let them, they bind you to the past.

posted May 07, 2005 04:26 AM         

Congratulations, on your transition! It’s a wonderful feeling, isn’t it? I understand what you mean when you say you feel some of the old stuff has to go. It’s spring-cleaning season anyway, right...

You said you feel as though you are in a new stage, and if you feel the need to get rid of some things, then do as you see fit. Keep the things that bring you fond memories, and wing out anything that doesn’t resonate well with you. Out with the old, and in with the new... The new additions to your memento box that is.

Here’s an idea if you like doing crafty things... Maybe to signify this transition in your life, maybe you can get a new box, and decorate it with paint, beads, pictures, magazine or newspaper clippings...anything you can imagine -- go wild. This way, you have an updated memento box filled with positive things...

Then if you want, you can take the old box and throw the mementos that you want to discard, and you can take the box and throw it away, or heck, you could even bury it if you want...plant some flowers or plants over it -- tada. So, you’d still always have the mementos; they’d just be in a better place...

I have to confess, your original post made me go and rummage through my room...seeing if I did in fact have any mementos that I didn‘t know about. I did a search and destroy mission... The only thing I found was a big over-sized sweatshirt. It is soooo comfy. I don’t know if I’m going to throw it out...I’m a sucker for comfortable clothes.

Well, I guess it is a memento in an odd way...I stole it from an ex. Hmm...I wonder if that still counts? That’s the great thing about tall guys; I get to steal their sweatshirts. lol

posted May 07, 2005 03:27 PM         

It's also nice to remember - exes were a big part of your life at one time, and contributed in many ways to who we are now, so sometimes it's interesting to reflect on who were were at that time, how we've changed or grown, where we made mistakes that contributed to the demise of the relationship, or, if we remember the relationship with rose-colored glasses, it can help bring up the unhappy memories to remind us what we don't want in a relationship, bring us down to reality with how things really were, etc.