posted May 25, 2005 08:43 AM
Well, my bit on this topic is that you can meet s/o and feel (mutually), ohmigod, we share SO many interests it's scary.
Then you get to know each other better, and the arguments and criticisms start, because (so obviously) you are different people with different likes and dislikes, and a different approach. Yet because the expectations are so high, someone, somewhere is going to get hurt. I agree with a lot of what has been said on this thread, because I felt that I had "really" met my "soulmate", both when I met my husband and a friend I made recently - purely because they seemed to have a lot in common with me at a particular moment in time. It's a load of BS, quite frankly, and it can cause unnecessary pain. I think we should all learn not to expect too much!!!
I also agree with the statement that over-emotional bonds can get dangerous. Some of the stuff this friend has said (opinions-wise) has made me really quite angry, because it is the total opposite of what I believe, I feel they can't connect with what I am trying to say.
Now I have to hold back for a minute and think, why am I getting SO angry? Why am I allowing this to happen?
And now I have got to know them better - are they REALLY a "soulmate" at all?
The mind boggles.
As Natasha said on one of my threads, it is impossible to get everything you need from one person.
Take care everyone.
LOL
AriesTiger