posted April 30, 2005 07:07 PM         

I've always enjoyed your words of wisdom here at Lindaland, so I will take your advice to heart. I think you are absolutely right that under certain circumstances it is all too easy to let your guard down and find yourself, in the end, in a painful situation. I'm sorry to hear that you've gone through so much pain.

For this to have been an experience that has affected you so deeply certainly indicates that this was a soul union of some sort. I am glad that you have come to see it as a learning experience and that you have found the strength to move on, as painful as it was.

posted April 30, 2005 08:53 PM         

Please forgive me if this goes against what you and others (including Linda) believe, but I don't believe in the premise that God split us into two halves, male and female, because we were naughty eons ago, and it's our job or mission or something to go out and find our "Soul Mate".

I would like to copy in what Sylvia Browne says -- I recommended her book "The Other Side and Back" to you, hope you can pick it up soon and see what your healer/medium friend thinks of the ideas she puts forth.

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If you've seen me in lectures or on Montel, you might already know that this "soul mate" thing is a subject that really gets on my nerves. In fact, I'd like to track down and kick right in the shins the person who started the rumor that one of our main purposes in life is to find our soul mate.
It's not.
The odds against it are astronomical.
And even if they weren't, the soul mate we find in the course of this lifetime wouldn't necessarily be a lover or spouse at all. The closest thing I have to a soul mate on this earth is my granddaughter Angelia.
Many people look so disillusioned when I announce that the soul mate search is a myth, like I'm taking their favorite fairy tale away. I'm not, believe me. Giving up the idea that there is a soul mate for us somewhere and it's our job to find them can be downright liberating. Few things bring tears to my eyes more quickly than clients who stay in abusive relationships because they have confused the constant emotional intensity with their concept of what having a soul mate must be like. Even clients with perfectly nice marriages sadly tell me that their greatest failure was in never having found their soul mate. The term soul mate gets mistaken for everything from infatuation to lust to an excuse for stalking, obsession, and domestic violence.
Maybe it will help if we get straight what a true soul mate is.
We are created with spirits that have both male and female aspects. We live lifetimes as both genders, as a matter of fact. I have never met anyone who's always been male or always been female every time around.
We are also created with an "identical twin" spirit whose male and female aspects are essentially mirror aspects of our own. That twin spirit is our soul mate. Our soul mate is not the other half of us, any more than we are the other half of our soul mate. I don't consider myself half a person. Do you, really? I certainly don't think there's anything romantic about thinking we are all a bunch of halves walking around. If I'm not half a person, and you're not half a person, why on earth would any of us spend one minute, let alone a lifetime, looking for "another half" that doesn't exist and that none of us whole people would have any use for anyway?
On The Other Side we're probably closer to our soul mates than we are to any other spirit, but we're hardly joined at the hip. We and our soul mates happily pursue separate friendships, separate interests, separate work and studies, and above all, our own separate identities. With our soul mates we enjoy the most intimate love there is -- free, unconditional, liberated and liberating, with a mutual knowledge only true identical twin spirits can share.
Like all spirits on The Other Side, each of the soul mates can choose to be born on earth for another lifetime. They might only come here once or twice, like my Spirit guide Francine. They might feel the need to come again and again -- I'm on my fifty-fourth time around, and my last, I'm delighted to announce. But compared to eternity, even fifty-four lifetimes amount to about a minute and a half.
Which brings up an obvious question: What are the chances that you and your soul mate are ever going to show up on earth at the same time? Why would you feel the need to, since you are always together on The Other Side anyway, and this experience we call "life" is really nothing more than just a quick trip away from Home?
Not to mention the odds against the two of you being on earth in the same general age range, enough geographical proximity for you to run into each other somewhere along the way, and the right gender for the two of you to become a couple, which seems to be the top priority of the whole soul mate myth?
So please, give yourselves (and me) a break and stop looking for a soul mate who in all probability is having a great time on The Other Side right now, waiting for you to come Home. Don't set yourself up for all that pressure and disappointment. Don't cling to a bad relationship in the misguided belief that it is, after all, your soul mate and you belong together, even if you're miserable. Don't devalue a perfectly good relationship because you're missing that "soul mate feeling". Don't believe for one second that there's only one person on this whole planet you're "destined" to be with -- what a depressing thought that is! And I definitely don't want you to reach the later years of your life thinking you failed because you never found someone who wasn't even here but whom you'll be having a wonderful, effortless reunion with if you'll must be patient for a few more "minutes" until you're Home again.
What you will find as you move through this lifetime are any number of kindred souls -- spirits you have known in one or more past lives. I'm sure you have experienced the instant feeling of familiarity, either good or bad, that happens on meeting a kindred soul. Sometimes that instant familiarity is the springboard for yet another earthly experience together, as friends, as lovers and spouses, or family members.

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This book was incredibly empowering for me when I read it three years ago, and it changed my thinking and therefore my life.

I'm working on copying some of the synastry aspects from Relationship Signs for you sooz, so I'll sign off for now.

Love
'zala

posted May 02, 2005 01:44 AM         

V interesting opinions on soul mates in thisthread and others. Ide like to write down my side too.

I actually agree with Azalaksh.A soulmate is and looking at it logically, should be an individual with whom we share a beautiful and positive bond.Not something negative and deep and dark. Whenever there is pain involved in a relashionship, i feel it is indicative of a karmic bond frm which one has to learn. Whereas soulmate relashionships are SO rare and u have the same depth but nothing hurts, nothing pains and there is never any agony. Thats what it means dosent it when u say u have found a soulmate? And if he/she is a soulmate then why should they hurt ur soul? They should benefit it, make it richer, brighter....that is what i feel is a true soulmate. Any rlashionship with excess emotion is always dangerous and indicative of karmic connections.

Just my bit.

posted May 05, 2005 08:51 AM         

You're a strong woman. I know that pain makes you stronger. You're a fighter. Remember you're never alone. Life can be a whatever at Times, it's true! It would be nice if we could all, somehow cross over, somehow, through these computers of ours, and 'energise' somewhere nice where we can all sit down for drinks and chats! I would love to meet you all, there are so many nice people here. And we share quite a few things in common too. Oh well- nevermind- Time & Space are only illusions!

Azalaksh- I guess we'll never REALLY know the answer to that. We can only guess and go by our instincts, follow our hearts (as well as our heads).

posted May 08, 2005 03:12 PM         

Re: the Virgo-Scorpio separation thing: so now you are joined with your "other half", n'est-ce pas?!?

Hope all is going well, I'm still working on your synastry with hubby (copying interesting aspects from "Relationship Signs").

What new adventures are going on in your life? Any new seminars -- what about the next phase of the Soul Recall thing?

posted May 14, 2005 07:33 PM         

But I couldn’t help but notice one “error” ( well to me at least ) in what Sylvia Browne said.

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I'm on my fifty-fourth time around, and my last, I'm delighted to announce.

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posted May 14, 2005 09:19 PM         

She says that we can choose to come back as few or as many times as we want to SchoolRoom Earth. She doesn't say that there is some kind of graduation requirement as I think the Buddhists do (??). I don't think she was bragging that she was "enlightened enough" now so she doesn't "need" to come back. I think it's more a matter of "wanting" to come back rather than "needing" to come back.....

Pick up a copy of "The Other Side and Back" and see what you think.....