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Topic: #@*&!%$@ Why is it so freakin complicated and when do you quit?!
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 2119
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 22, 2005 10:41 PM
 
You are all angels...  It is a complicated thing, and I know I'm not alone. Here's to those of us who walk the path of "togetherness" in solitude at times, who feel lacking in the midst of "fulfillment," who seek answers to questions that elude us, and who dare to hope for miracles in the darkest hours of the night. To those who are driven by love to sometimes hurt the ones who love us the most, to those who prevent the plan from falling into place because in our hearts we seek a more perfect union, and, especially, to those who are on the other side of this fence, waiting patiently for the chips to fall. Peace, Love, and Clarity, friends. IP: Logged |
lioneye68
Knowflake Posts: 4577
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2003
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posted December 23, 2005 01:46 AM
I can so completely relate to this thread. I know that feeling of "something isn't connecting quite right" And you only notice it when it's lacking. You take it for granted when it's there because everything just feels RIGHT. If that lacking feeling always creeps up on you, you can only rationalize it away for so long, then you'll slowly start to become unstable and self-destructive, or you're going to start passive-aggressively sabataging the relationship. Even to your own chagrin. Your self esteem will suffer because of this. You're denying yourself of something that is very important to you - true bonding at a gut level. Eventually, if you're even slightly in touch with your higher self, you will destroy the relationship somehow. You'll do it subconsciously. And it's for the best. If you're truly in tune with your higher self, you'll just tell them how you feel, and leave. But you'll suffer the pain of disappointment, disillusion and pangs of deeply missing "what could have been". This has been a karmic relationship, which often means growth through pain. And a feeling of unfinished business. My ex, who I had this experience with was also a Virgo, with a Libra moon, Sag rising, and Venus & Mars conjunct in Cancer. He also had Uranus & Pluto conjunct his sun. I *think* his Libra moon was afraid of the soul touching experiences. Too deep for him. Too scary. Too "all or nothing". I don't know if that's it. Maybe he's just not ready to tap into that. It's all about the level of evolution one has reached. It's best to be with someone who is at a simular level of evolution as you. A little behind or a little ahead is ok, because you can pull each other along - but a large gap, it just means frustration and trouble for both parties. IP: Logged |
geminstone
Knowflake Posts: 571
From: Golden, CO
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted December 23, 2005 03:03 AM
...  .... well, Thanks Acoustic... ~ geminstone IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 3847
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted December 23, 2005 11:03 PM
Yes geministone that was great. It's true, it takes real work to state what you want in any relationship-sticking to that is the hardest part.
But that's so far ahead of the game.Natasha
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pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 2602
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted December 24, 2005 12:30 AM
Geminstone, Lioneye, wow, I'm breathtaken.
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crystelle
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: :)
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted December 27, 2005 11:31 PM
I'm so glad this post was brought back up...It was immedietely one of my favorite threads. I've truly enjoyed everyone's insight. Don't want to go too far into my brain right now, but just to add some small thing- Ultimately all relationships are - are mirrors of our own selves. That one is not easy to accept is it? I really love what geminstone said quote:
I also believe that, communication without the limits of ego, is all important...
reminds me of something I read that was chaneled from the Paladiens that speaks of how in the "old" model of relationships, we have all kept our "mirrors" slighly ascew, so that no one can really see themselves for what they truly are. I feel that it is becoming more important for us to be REAL if we want to go onto the next level of existence-- IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 2602
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted December 27, 2005 11:58 PM
Initially more real is more painful.. But once confronted, it can be understood.IP: Logged |
crystelle
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: :)
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted December 28, 2005 05:01 PM
so true. Evolving IS (usually) Painful- growing pains...we have to face our "demons" though and move through to the other side... as everything, it is a choice anyone interested in a "real" relationship- I highly recommend reading this ...
http://www.worldtrans.org/lyssa/112edit.html IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 2602
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted December 28, 2005 06:09 PM
I am reading it and I printed it off.. interesting to discuss this, and a lot of it makes sense.
My hubby isn't down with it, not open minded when he hears the word 'polyamorous' his possessive instincts come into play.
I was with it up until the end when I realized they were talking about different alien species, and I have no point of reference or a way to factor my own truth into it.IP: Logged |
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