posted June 07, 2005 11:03 AM         

Don't take this the wrong way, because the way my gut, subjective reaction works, I can imagine myself getting just as wound up.

I experienced the same thing with a Libran woman last year, she and her partner and I and my husband were all working together and she frequently passed comments on my dress sense/so-called "nerdy" interests such as "that's SO interesting" (delivered in a sarcastic tone). I actually pulled her up for that and said, are you being sarcastic? To which - embarrassed giggle!! This unfortunately spurred my husband on to turn to me and say "Ah, shut up, who wants to listen to you?" I actually believe he had a crush on her because he started mentioning foursomes, even in their presence, which I felt was inappropriate, and so often that I wondered whether it was a joke or not. I let him know that he could count me out on that one!!!

Eventually I panicked, and "engineered" things so that we wouldn't work with each other or see each other again - basically I sent the woman an email saying that if she was after my husband, she had better not be - and she and her partner think I'm a lunatic and hate me now, although they like my husband. I couldn't give a stuff, because now I feel much better about the situation!!!

When people are upsetting you that much you just have to let them go, there are no two ways about it.

Take care, and much love,

posted June 07, 2005 11:18 AM         

Aries, thanks for your story and wise words, good for your girl to give that bloody woman a piece of your mind, I admire your wonderful pioneering spirit, ever the warrior hey - is your hubbie the aquarian one, or am I mixing you up with another Aries woman. My first reaction to what he said to you was to grab him by the throat and deck him one (sorry if this offends), but I felt so annoyed that he talked to you this way - I hope he apologised to you.

As for my hubbie, he knows exactly what I feel, he thinks I am extreme (he is not wrong there), but at the same time he assures me of his love and loyalty to our marriage, and yeah I do believe him. I am gonna take your advice lovely ladies and detach myself from her - she is not good for me. I pulled out a tarot card about their friendship and the death card jumped out - mmmmm, the universe moves in mysterious ways hey?

posted June 07, 2005 02:09 PM         

Haven't been over in SU for awhile, so thanks for letting me know about this thread from over in the Astro forum.....

I don't have anything to add to what any of the bright and empathetic ladies ahead of me had to say, except for one thought:

Have you written a Letter to the Universe about her, like you did for Libra-Fella? I suggest the same procedure: write it/revise it for a week or so, then give it to the Universe (burn it). I remember how you said your "burden" felt much lighter after you did this with Libra-Fella.....

Sending hugs, love and healing white/purple/green light -- you will be stronger for this experience!

posted June 07, 2005 02:20 PM         

You're right, my husband is Mr. Aqua! And you know what? People NEVER mess with an Aries/8th House Sun w/out living to regret it. I can wait to get revenge - I have been known to wait years!!!

I have actually got a lot more of my own friends now, so we virtually never go out together to see people anymore, therefore he can't insult me in front of people. The relationship between him & myself is on an even keel at the moment, 'cept he still keeps harping on abt. having kids?! Now, I am planning a career change that may entail my relocating later on this year. He does not want to move!!!!!

As you can see, things could get interesting!!!......

posted June 07, 2005 02:32 PM         

Thanks for being understanding. Sometimes I can come across as blunt or cool (Cap rising). Glad I could help you to look at things a little differently. Just keep being the positive person you are and try to move away from her. And it will work out just fine.

posted June 09, 2005 02:18 PM         

Why do you think speaking about nails, hair and such like are the mark of the unevolved?

This is very much a recent topic of discussion I'm having with myself.
Is it not two sides of the same coin; you have the head and you have the tail but does it really define the coin?

This isn't directed at you..but within my circle of acquiantances, I have found that when I make a comment (I am very flippant. Listen to my words and take it or not. I dont drill), it is very often ignored.
Those very words would then be re-iterated to me, or if told by someone else ie, Papi, it is taken as gospel. I find this superficial.

posted June 09, 2005 02:31 PM         

i can totally understand how what your friend does can be emotionally nerve wracking for. oy!

my suggestion is to not wait/stall too long on whatever decision you decide on pursuing. do the deed (whatever it is, "you're not my friend!" or "i ain't hanging out with ya freaky ass no more and keep your fake curly nails off my man!" etc., etc.), do it well, stay confident and keep on beaming positive vibes. then use this experience to lean back and learn from because stuff like this happens in relationships all the friggin' time. blah. you'll be better prepared at least for the next time around (hopefully it doesn't happen too often because then you gotta step back & wonder about what is really going on and what's really wrong with the picture).

ciao bella!

posted June 09, 2005 05:08 PM         

Aphrodite, Hi and thanks for posting - like I said to Peaches, she isnt really a close friend, more of my mans. I am working on standing right back from her at the moment, she acted like a spoilt kid around me cos she doesnt have the understanding that I went thro a breakdown a few months ago after a house fire. I was honest enough to say to her that I needed to stand back, she obviously took offence, hence grabbing the stool away in the pub and moving it away from me (yes this is a woman who wil be 40 in a year or two NOT a teen)! I have had warnings from my inner self and others to know that I need to be careful - I find it very tiresome and it has caused friction between hubbie and I , thanks again xx

Hey Az, thanks a million for your letter suggestion, will do that soon hope youre well, speak to you soon girl xxx

Kiwi - aahhh thanks pet for your warm and wise words, always feel safe with Scorp women, kindred spirits xxx

posted June 11, 2005 11:22 PM         

Let me clarify.. stick to your principles. Stay strong.

posted June 25, 2005 11:33 PM         

What's the latest on The Sneaky One??

posted June 26, 2005 09:41 AM         

How are you girl, Firstly let me say sorry about not replying to your mail, I just seem to be having a problem getting around to it, so please dont think I am ignoring you! I also have funny things happening on it, stuff not coming thro and the like......one of the disadvantages of being a witch hey??

About the sneaky one, I didnt see her since the grabbing the stool episode, and dont want to either! I found it interesting that she has a pluto placing which indicates she is clingy with friends. Funnily enough my hubbie has a couple of friends with the same placing. I have warned him and he seems to understand. The other one is a guy, who keeps kissing him and telling him he loves him, usually whilst stoned or drunk - YUK!! I did readings and stuff around it and I wouldnt be surprised if she didnt realise what shes doing, the poor thing, it is very subtle, very unconscious, but the problem is Az, I see things that others may not. I talked to another one of my friends who is a psychic and she said she could see her "dissolving", so I suppose like others have said here on LL, dont feed it, and that is right, I have to leave it go, not worth it, and I know my man loves me and feel he wouldnt cheat, he is lovely, I am glad this stirred me up so much cos it proves how much I think of him!!!

So girl, how is your love life, and did you ever find out who that secret admirer was..........mmmmm......very interesting.

Speak soon - lots of love and hugs to you