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WaterNymph
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posted July 07, 2005 06:56 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That’s weird considering I have Venus and Mars conj in Aries.

I’m not attracted to most guys. Now don’t get me wrong…I am straight.
It’s just…unless a guy is REALLY attractive - it is impossible for me to be aroused.

I’m not being vain or picky - this is just the way I am…I can’t make my body do what it doesn’t want to do. And it’s really frustrating sometimes - because I can be attracted to someone mentally…but I never peruse it. It’s not hard to predict what’s gonna happen - I don’t think he’d be too pleased if…whenever I look at his body I think “ewww I’m not touching that”. But with guys like my exes my thoughts are more like “you’re too good looking to wear clothes”

It’s really hard…I get so frustrated because I have to go though long periods without someone - it feels as if I’m about to explode - I‘m not the patient kind. Living in England isn’t helping either…there are no attractive guys here. You have to look really hard, and they’re always taken. Maybe I should move in with my family in Sweden.

Is there something wrong with me? I mean, is this something I can fix?

Sun Pisces 9'2" 11th house
Moon Virgo 20'28" 6th house ( singleton )
Asc Aries
Venus Aries 6'32" 12th house
Mars Aries 2'27" 12th house
Jupiter Sag 8th house
Uranus Sag 8th house

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WaterNymph
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posted July 07, 2005 07:16 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can’t believe I started this thread I’m surprised my 12th houses aloud it this is because of all the Aries in my chart - I’m SO impulsive the three Sags didn’t help either

*edited to add

You know maybe this isn’t that bad. My Aries ex was incredibly vain. He would only date gorgeous girls - don’t know why he went out with me
Anyway, he totally obsessed over my looks, very annoying. He wouldn’t go outside with me unless I looked PERFECT!! I guess he disliked the casual look.

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SunChild
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posted July 07, 2005 08:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunChild     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't know what I could say to help you because I'm similar.

I've had very few lovers, and my last one has been long term.
I don't look at other men really...I know when I see a good looking man though, but that's as far as my thoughts go.
Then at home, well, you can say I'm not overly adventerous.

I don't think there's any thing wrong with you, I bet our root chakras are underactive, but anyway, I don't think focusing on that would help...
But I guess you should focus on finding things that get you interested, and curious, and then hope to find that in a man, then you might find them attractive in a different way like when they hold that essence of pleasure you are after.
Find out what gets you excited, and discover that part of yourself.

I don't know, does that sound wierd?

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Mama Mia
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posted July 07, 2005 09:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dang Water N. We are so much alike. I am not attracted to alot of guys either. I wish at times that I could like 2 and three guys at one time but it is just not happening. The killing part is I meet men all the time infact my girlfriends call me a man magnet well being a Pisces female you know how that goes. When I do like someone he has come with the thunder very interesting and different...And I get turned off real easy too.. AYou have to be almost perfect to ME in the beginning other wise I just disappear and that all.. It harsh on guys I know but that is how I am. I do not know if it is my Pisces sun doing that or my Aqua moon...

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maya-v
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posted July 07, 2005 11:54 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think it might be the opposite ... I think Fish woman are basically just so loving and in love with being in love that they fall in love with every guy and are just basically big flirts as the world terms it ... or they end up on the opposite end and become so guarded and choosy abt who they give their heart and their passion to because too many guys take advantage of their wonderfully perceptive and loving hearts!

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pixelpixie
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posted July 07, 2005 12:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
From my perspective though....
You might find it comforting that I would like to have some tempering.......
I veer too far on the side of finding 'everyone' attractive.
Not that I act on it, although I flirt a lot....
But I can generally, in a day, find a few who I am attracted to.
But when it comes to friendship and loving, I truly would rather be heard and valued and respected and loved, and I will devote my all.
No matter who is attractive.

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posted July 07, 2005 12:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
By the way, Venus trines my Ascendant.. and Conjuncts Neptune.
That might be a clue.
Plus Sun conjunct Mars and Uranus.

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Mama Mia
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posted July 07, 2005 12:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah I see that,but Pix your a Scorpio seems like you guys always see the beauty in ppl. I have a girlfriend that is a Scorp and she is a cop I was talking to her last night and she must have told me about atleast 5 other male cops that she thought was so goregous and this that and the other. I thought to myself wow...Out of 10 guys I meet I might find 2 appealing and may consider giving out my my number out or taking his..

Maya I think Pisces moon ppl are a tad bit different then Pisces sun. We are in love with love some of us but correct me if I am wrong the moon represents feelings and emotions right. So I think that Pisces moon ppl can be so much more extra and sesetive with their feelings and stuff towards the opposite sex. It does not matter how many times that I have had my heart broke I still keep room in my heart to love again most of us Pisces do...It jus takes me a long time to get there..Yes though I am EXTREMELY PICKY!!!!

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Mama Mia
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posted July 07, 2005 12:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh I have 2 good friends that have Pisces moons a guy and a girl and they tend to dang near be attracted to any body of the opposite sex they come in contact with. And they jump in there very impulsively...

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maya-v
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posted July 07, 2005 12:33 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ah the impulsiveness .. I guess for me it might be the Mars Venus conjunction in Aries in the eigth opposite Pluto ...

But its fun, especially the part where a "prospective oppurtunity" appears right when I need "one"

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est_1984_leo
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posted July 07, 2005 01:56 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mama Mia, it might be the Aqua moon. I too, have a Aqua moon and let me tell you..It takes a special man to really catch my eye. My Aqua moon really makes my relationships complicated also.

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Sun in Leo
Moon in Aquarius
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sunshine9
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posted July 07, 2005 03:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sunshine9     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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pidaua
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posted July 07, 2005 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LMAO.... It's not that you're frigid...it is just that your planets will not allow you to settle for less...

You can thank your Virgo moon for that

I have a Virgo rising conjunct Pluto, Saturn in Taurus in the 8th (I am a Sag with Venus in Sag and moon in Aries).

I CANNOT respond to someone I am not attracted to or that I lose interest in. I get physically repulsed. I won't bother making myself try because it just isn't worth it.

Don't be ashamed.. be proud LOL....

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steelrose
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posted July 07, 2005 04:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for steelrose     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, Pid... In my humble opinion it’s Virgo in there what makes you picky and difficult to arouse… Just a gut feeling…

I’m a Virgo Sun / Virgo Mercury… And I’m basically a purist… Guys have to work very hard to get my interest, VERY HARD… I just don’t find them attractive, and when I do 1) they are either indisputably GORGEOUS or 2) they have worked on it for longer that 2 years…

What it’s curious is even a trully good-looking man can provoke me that ‘Yuk, you are not touching me’ if they can’t arouse me with words… It’s really hard to get me aroused with words… (You see? Mercury in Virgo). I play very hard with my Virgo wit, it’s difficult to be up to my level… It’s serious torture… Honesty turns me on (a Virgoan Mercury again…).

Some men have rumoured that I may be frigid or even lesbian before because I appeared to be made of rock, completely inmune to their attacks. And believe me, I'M NOT!!! My ex and I used to laugh about it... How stupid and naive these men were... Because I go to the other extreme with my firey Leo Venus and Sagittarian Moon and Asc when the man has won the battle...

Virgo is about perfection and purity, it makes you picky, not necessarily prudish or frigid… It’s the maiden to be conquered… It warms up so slowly but it gets white hot… In the right conditions…

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AcousticGod
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posted July 07, 2005 11:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No mention of Libra in this quest for beauty? That's interesting. I think I'm attracted to a wide variety, but there are limits as I recently learned. I would ascribe my tendencies to my 7th house stellium. Who knows?

**gets out coat** Who's frigid?

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ariestiger
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posted July 08, 2005 07:21 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't worry! I have also been attracted to relatively few people, and have fallen for them HARD, and for a long time. In fact, I have only ever had ONE relationship (with my husband), and it can be affectionate, and passionate, but somehow a spark has always been missing. Even though my husband is extremely good-looking.
But now there is someone I feel genuinely passionate about and "turned on" by, and I am wondering whether this is the Real Thing...it seems completely natural...and the attraction has much more to do with personal qualities, for example his confidence.

Don't settle for an also-ran, even if everybody else except you seems to be "going out" with someone!

AriesTiger

(Virgo rising, Venus in Pisces)

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WaterNymph
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posted July 08, 2005 09:00 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You guys have no idea how much better I feel…I’m glad I’m not the only one…also thx pix I’m so happy I got this off my chest

And pidaua, what you said about not settling for less is very true…and yes I should be proud I’m gonna go now and scream at my friends who made me feel this way.
Ariestiger, totally agree about confidence…incredibly important. As long as he’s not arrogant - someone who’s secure with himself…always a turn on.

I suppose I should be patient…all good things come to those who wait - I’m off to take a cold shower

Interesting about the Virgo or Aqua influences tho.

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pidaua
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posted July 08, 2005 02:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Steel... Hmmm, you are really onto something there. I find that I may be initially attracted to a guy and then they say or do something that really puts me off. I used to wonder if I could ever find one that could sustain my mental and physical interest.

I also need that verbal banter (possibly from my chart ruler being Mercury and because I have Venus in Sagittarius). Without it I grow restless and eventually bored, no matter how handsome or intelligent the person may be. If they can't keep up the mystery or challenge along with great conversation, then I am left to go elsewhere for entertainment (and I am not talking sexually) Self-control has never been a problem for me, or sex for the sake of having sex ever been appealing.

Now I am with an awesome Bull that is not only intelligent (and most of the time conversational) he is also sexy as all hell. I now sometimes wonder if I am addicted to him LOL... We can't seem to get enough of each other and I have not felt a pang of boredom or repulsion. I mean, sure I get bored with certain things... routine.. LOL... but I think with his Jupiter in Aries conjuncting my Moon- along with some other electric aspects, we seem to get this moving along..

LOL... and if not, well, my Aries moon / Saggie temper usually gets a bit snappy (hee hee) and I'll get the fire started - what is it they say, the fire sign will create their own fireworks if things seem to routine and dull?


I have also been accused of being either an ice-princess or a lesbian. Normally, it is by insecure men that just can't accept the fact that I don't find their droll conversation and messy habits to be attractive in the least. Another HUGE turn off is a man that berates the waitstaff, valets...etc... in order to look important. Real power comes from knowing you have it, but not flaunting it unless you really have to.

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LostInStrangeWorld
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posted July 08, 2005 06:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
WaterNymph- pleased to meet you- pleased to meet another 'knowflake' in the UK.

Forgive me if I've missed anything- I haven't read this thread through as I haven't much Time left right now. I just felt I wanted to respond.

Most people don't realise that the biggest sex organ is the mind. Not the others! It's the mind that motivates that energy.

It's not what you're doing; it's who you're with and how you feel.
You need to be attracted to the person's soul, as well as physically. This creates a real chemistry.
You need to be able, or learn to be able, to trust each other. Trust is the greatest thing. Once you trust someone, your spirit will be free to open up, to learn to let yourS-elf go completely.
Once this is acchieved, its all in the mind. Creativity. Learning to fuse the carnal with the spiritual. Not being afraid of the carnal. A balance of yin and yang. Let it flow through you. It will expand your mind; feel electric.

I expect that what most of we women don't realise is how common this sexual problem, 'fridigity' really is. I use to feel the same way. I believed that reality could never equal fantasy. I felt really sad, ecause I yearned, in my dreams, for something much more powerful, deep and intimate- a real fusion between mind, body and soul. I didn't think this could ever be possible.
But I was proved wrong. For I was destined to meet someone who would change all this! Now I realise where I had been going wrong. I feel extremely fortunate; for what we are able to share physically is a rare thing. I feel sad that most people (women) don't get to experience this in a whole lifetime.

I'm not saying that every time with him is perfect! It's something we both create; it all depends on creative input.

This is so hard to put into words.

I think it all depends on the chemistry between you and the one you meet.

Maybe I'm just fortunate. Geminis aren't known for a firey sexuality. My Mars is in the eight house, but in virgo- the sign of the virgin(!). I have a mostly airy, earthy chart with a bit of water thrown in!

But my partner is a fire sign.....More significantly, his Mars is exactly conjunct my Venus. This aspect wouldn't normally last long, but both planets are moving backward (retrograde).
Apparently this means that we have something to learn, karmically speaking.

Linda said that the purpose of astrology was to empower us with the wisdom to rise above these forces, the forces which are the pattern of our soul-path reflected in the sky and made by both karma and the Uni-verse-al plan. This is what I feel.

Astrology similar to psychology. If we use it to understand ourS-elves, we no are no longer puppets to the enigmatic feelings within. We are aour own masters of ourS-elves.

LOve & Light

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Azalaksh
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posted July 08, 2005 08:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My Lovely Neptune's Mermaid, Nurse Neptune, Deputy #6 ~

This Pisces Mooner feels someone wonderful is out there ahead on the road for you. I don't know why, I just sense it in what you write. There is a man out there who will absolutely electrify you, and you will never again wonder about being "frigid". Just a split-second thought of him will set your nether regions throbbing and your entire body tingling! He's out there.....and I don't believe you should immediately hit the road searching, because I believe that when the time is right, you two will be brought together.

The waiting is the hardest part.....

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posted July 08, 2005 08:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree with LostInStrangeWorld. That awakening is something else. It can totally change a lot of what a person believes.

Unfortunately the thread was started because WaterNymph can't feel attracted to looks and bodies she doesn't like. Maybe as her chart progresses she will come to accepting the less beautiful bodies. Everyone looks bad eventually.

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Tranquil Poet
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posted July 08, 2005 11:34 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ummmmmmmmm...........Ok.


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posted July 09, 2005 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for steelrose     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oooooooohhh, Ariestiger, another Virgo influenced soul to confirm our theory!!! That ‘not being sure if it’s the real thing, that missing spark worry’ could be a Piscean Venus…

Hi Pid... Hmmm... That’s fascinating! We are similar in so many ways… You are a Sag with Virgo rising… I’m a Virgo with Sag rising… Firey Venus (your in Sag mine in Leo) and Moon (yours in Aries, mine in Sag). I also get bored so easily… Witty banter is a must!!! I wonder if it has to do with my Gemini Descendant… Routine kills me!!!

We are sensual and hot, highly intelligent and intellectual maidens with a hard armour, girl…

My UserName comes from what my ex used to call me… A steel rose… Beauty made out of hard and cold metal… I loved that description so much, it was so much me, that I adopted it for LL… The Ice Princess you talk about, the cold and unbreakable mask that boils inside… My dad used to say that I walk like Ava Gadner, with that cold self-suficient and distant outlook…

Yes, the ‘not settling for less’ is such a Virgo attitude! And the pretending they are powerful and important just sickens me… Strenght and power transpires out of a person without the need to show off or exaggerate… Modesty is another Virgo quality…

Yes, Lost!!! The mind is what really turns me on!!! I’ve heard before that is the most powerful erogenous area in women… So if a man can’t stimulate it, better forget about it…

It’s so interesting that most people drawn to this thread have strong Virgo influences…

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WaterNymph
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posted July 09, 2005 03:13 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Lost, lovely to meet another knowflake in the UK as well.

You know, I have always believed that about the mind. I once read in a magazine that a woman can get aroused by just thinking about something - that it starts off in the head.

“It's not what you're doing; it's who you're with and how you feel.
You need to be attracted to the person's soul, as well as physically. This creates a real chemistry.
You need to be able, or learn to be able, to trust each other. Trust is the greatest thing. Once you trust someone, your spirit will be free to open up, to learn to let yourS-elf go completely.
Once this is acchieved, its all in the mind. Creativity. Learning to fuse the carnal with the spiritual. Not being afraid of the carnal. A balance of yin and yang. Let it flow through you. It will expand your mind; feel electric.”

My goodness, you are so right. Those are probably the most beautiful words I’ve read on LL honestly.

It’s strange, I know I want something…but I don’t know what it is. I want someone to touch a part of me ( emotionally lol ), only I don’t know where that place is either
All I know is that I want it to be powerful and special…I don’t think that’s fantasy.

Thanks for a lovely and understanding reply - lots of love

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WaterNymph
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posted July 09, 2005 03:14 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
“Just a split-second thought of him will set your nether regions throbbing and your entire body tingling!”
Oh Az, You always know just what to say I feel much better now.
“I don't believe you should immediately hit the road searching” oh that’s very unlike me…I just let things happen, they turnout better that way...but you’re right, the hardest part is waiting *sigh* I’m not very patient…but it is a virtue…so I will.

Lots of love hun

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