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sthenri
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posted November 04, 2005 07:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Taurus here, full of doubts but leaning towards a commitment with ex a Libra/Gemini Moon/Venus in Virgo/Gemini Rising. I am committed to loving him, only living together is a challenge. How important is it that a couple sleep together to feel connected? That is in the same bed every night? When we were together we had the habit of separate bedrooms which stressed me out.

Mainly because he needed more room, and because of his snoring. He has promised to fix the snoring somehow, but is there a deeper issue? Do Taurus women just need to spend the night with someone?

I can't help but feel rejected by this attitude towards sleep space, but I have felt smothered too. At what point do you compromise/or stand firm on this issue?

Thanks Natasha
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lotusheartone
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posted November 04, 2005 07:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
Hi I'm A Taurus Sun, Ascending Libra
and sleeping in separate beds
would not do for me

For goodness sake,since I'm alone, i hug my pillow all night
if I had my man, i certainly would be holding him all night long

So, I don't know, can you live like that?

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Jazzebel
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posted November 04, 2005 08:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazzebel     Edit/Delete Message
I am a Gemini Moon/ Libra Venus and sleeping with another human being in one bed is a torture to me( I mean after the initail attraction/ curiousity of sleeping together had worn out). I do sleep in one bed with him but only because he is a Scorpio with Taurus Moon and he wants closeness. I guess that is the reason I now have trouble falling asleep, it takes me hours and hours. I love snuggling and cuddling a lot, but only before sleep. I recently started to sneak out to the other bedroom once he had fallen asleep, oh haaappy nights

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celticfyre
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posted November 04, 2005 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for celticfyre     Edit/Delete Message
If space is a problem ...get a bigger bed. I for one hate to sleep alone...but it is my fate right now but I do have the dog to cuddle with. That is one thing I love about my Cancer...I could sleep with him for eternity..I never fit so well with another person ....EVER!

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sthenri
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posted November 04, 2005 10:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks! we tried a huge custom king bed, he still tossed and turned and threw the blankets around. He does like to hold on, but it's not really a cuddle, more like a hard squeeze-then I got pushed away so he can sleep. And the tossing went on. At one point we slept in separate beds for a year-We talked, and then he started holding me like a pillow-intense squeezing where I couldn't move.

It's as if he doesn't like movement on my part. Also he loves fans, the noise helps him sleep and I hate them. It means cold air blowing on me while I have no blankets-he would pull them off. At night he was very selfish, but apologized during the day so I know he didn't remember.

His suggestion is that we move in together right away so we can practice sleeping together again-

I can do it, but the tossing thing has me clueless-

Thanks, it's amazing how different everyone is, it's no wonder some people have separate beds, but my grandparents always had one.

Does this seem like a silly romantic ideal?

I am trying to focus on the real stuff but how does one feel less rejected when earth signs normally are very touchy feely? I already have two cats but they don't help as they would claw me when he would start to toss. It's starting to sound more like a rowboat than a bed!

Natasha


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future_uncertain
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posted November 05, 2005 12:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
I think I'd feel rejected, too.

I wouldn't like it.

And of course it's one of those things that shouldn't make you feel rejected, but it happens anyway.

As far as whether or not you should stand firm...

I don't think it's a question of what either of you wants. It's more about what each of you needs. That makes compromise a lot harder.

Maybe you could try every other night??

(And bring an extra blankie to bed just for you!)

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Yin
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posted November 05, 2005 12:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message
I hate sharing my bed (Libra moon). Recently suggested to my hubby that we get 2 twin beds instead of the queen one we own. He(the cuddly, snuggly, I-need-to-touch-you-in-my-sleep Pisces) thinks that I'm crazy, of course.

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sue g
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posted November 05, 2005 12:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
And I hate sleeping without my partner......oh it is such bliss to feel another's arms around you in the middle of the night.....and to wake up to their face smiling at you.....I love that.....but i suppose it is whatever feels right for you........we are all different arent we?

I dont know how people cope without affection and sex, I am really into that side of life.....lots of Scorp and Taurus in the chart.........

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posted November 05, 2005 01:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
Hmmm. this is a tough one. My ex-husband was pretty much the only relationship I had where I could sleep through the night with someone (I would leave my ex-college bf in the early hours to get some sleep at my own place or urge him to leave when he stayed at mine LOL).

It took me a good 6 months to get used to having someone there and the sleep was horrible. He also snored.. so if I fell asleep before him, it was okay - vice versa and I would be up most the night unless I snuck out to the couch or other bedroom. It really hurt his feelings (Virgo Sun / Taurus rising - Venus / Mars in Leo)

The Taurus I was with was very much into cuddling and holding on throughout the night. BUT... I put off a ton of heat and he did as well. So if he snuggled to close I would just roast LOL... He also snored and drooled. If he feel asleep before me I would get an ear full of the loudest snoring on the planet and if his mouth was near my pillow... tons of drool.. EWWWWWWWWW

I started to sneak out and go to sleep on the couch with made him very upset. I would crawl out of bed (and over him since my side of the bed was against the wall and we had a sleigh bed) and he would grab my arm 'Where do you think you are going?"... It was easier when he worked nights and I worked days but I am sure our sleeping patterns didn't help the relationship (it was just another issue).

He took it extremely personally when I would squirm away from his cudding.. but he didn't understand that he was SMOTHERING me. I felt locked in bed, where I need to be free the most to dream.


The easiest person for me to sleep with was the Leo. He didn't snore and wasn't a "glob-on". We would cuddle before we slept, then end up pulling apart with only a foot touching the other foot or his hand placed on my back. It was great for the most part But I would try to sneak out of his place too...LOL..and would get that "ummmmm..where are ya going?" So how did he remedy the problem? He started staying at MY place more often LMAO...

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sthenri
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posted November 06, 2005 12:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks, if we are to be a couple, libra and I, I believe in compromise-if he gets his deviated septum fixed, then no more snoring-then extra blankets on my side would help. He is balking at the surgery but it's necessary. What frustrates me is the slow pace of compromise, his venus in virgo wants to live together, decide things together, or not do them at all. If I argue then nothing happens, or I am not listening to no. There is a lot of stubborness and negativity in him about change.

It's always there in all of us, but there are times when I will not be able to pull him forward-I have to insist on the no snoring and no tossing around rule-otherwise no living together, just living near each other. Maybe a duplex?

Natasha

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SecretGardenAgain
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posted November 07, 2005 03:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SecretGardenAgain     Edit/Delete Message
hey natasha i dont mean to rain on ur parade, im sure u have a connection with him , (libra/taurus) but with all that gemini and virgo in his chart it seems like another bad sequel coming in regards to all the really bad experiences uve had with first of all, air men (Gemini, Aqua, and now Libra), and secondly, particularly Gemini influences. it didnt work out with the Cancer?

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SecretGardenAgain
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posted November 07, 2005 04:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SecretGardenAgain     Edit/Delete Message
btw i dont think its important at ALL to sleep together to be close. sometimes you can miss a person like crazy and when u meet the joy is in their smile, their eyes, not in seeing them naked. sometimes the closest thing is someone taking a stand for you, holding you....

i have settled with the aries finally i think ( ok im horrible ) but in any case we are not sleeping together and i dont want to do that until i get married. he is the same way and although we have a huge passionate chemistry going on its decided. the moment i felt closest to him was when i was hella sick two weeks ago , fever, congestion flu and cough...i looked and felt horrible, and he would walk in my room, sit on my bed, change my blanket and sheets for me, bring me soup but never lie with me in bed because he respected that.

That takes a gentlemans heart

it depends on what you think the importance of the sleeping scheme is in a relationship

Love
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posted November 07, 2005 11:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 1scorp     Edit/Delete Message
I have a hard time sleeping with others.

If the Cappie is restless I usually go to the couch.

I generally get on my side and stay there.

Sometimes I feel smothered... so I move to the foot of the bed. That works well for me.

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lotusheartone
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posted November 07, 2005 12:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
Once we're asleep, don't we just sprawl out, or curl into a ball?

I like to cuddle as I fall asleep, but then, I claim my space, and I don't move, after that,
like a cat
hehe

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future_uncertain
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posted November 07, 2005 11:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Lotus, I think you're my napping soulmate! Cuddle, then move to opposite sides of the bed.

Bliss!

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lotusheartone
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posted November 07, 2005 11:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
hehe
snuggles back, then acts like a cat, purring of course
king size beds are good!

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ariestiger
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posted November 08, 2005 04:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariestiger     Edit/Delete Message
I'd like to say I was comfortable with both sleeping alone and apart - honestly, sleeping alone does not bother me. I DO need a lot of space, I usually sleep diagonally across my (double) bed.

The only guy I've slept (literally) with was my stbx-Aqua and he always used to manage to pull the duvet off me whilst rolling around in his sleep. He was also restless without knowing it. He also wanted the window open at night, I wanted it closed. I couldn't get to sleep with the window open because of the draught and the wind that used to come "wuthering" round our house. My body temperature was cold, his was hot - so there were arguments about what tog duvet we should have, and my needing an extra blanket. I used to get so cold I would wrap myself around him - which he actually didn't like because I really did get icy-cold. (I now have a warmer room.)

It was usually OK if I went to bed 1/2 an hour before him and was 1/2-asleep by the time he came to bed. If he went to bed before me I just couldn't get to sleep. Weird.

A question of practicality vs. romance, I think, Natasha.

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cancerrg
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posted November 08, 2005 09:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
......oh it is such bliss to feel another's arms around you in the middle of the night.....and to wake up to their face smiling at you.....I love that..

WOW ! i love it !
i love smiling faces .
the feeling in itself is heavenly , can't really imagine anything above it .

quote:
and he would walk in my room, sit on my bed, change my blanket and sheets for me, bring me soup but never lie with me in bed because he respected that.

i love the sentiment .
infact , i think its all the same , same as what sue said , sex is important but its real beauty comes out only when the emotions , love and respect come into the picture .
infact i feel , i need to respect the person before falling in love with them .
i love my friends and family and i sure respect them too. its very important .
i have always loved holding hands of my woman , so heavenly....... ( o yeah, initially , i was very sceptical to the whole idea she being a lot young to me )
and me the tradition bound cancer

coming back to original question , i would simply go by what sue said . nothing more to add . i love the feeling . i even need smiling faces to make my day thats why i love my mom !

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cancerrg
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posted November 08, 2005 09:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
hey, i just noticed , am i not the only male respondent here !

is this company of women open for all ?

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