posted January 13, 2006 12:52 PM            

You poor dear – I can so relate. I’m in a similar place. I have a man that is incredibly sweet to me, tells me he loves me, yet I’m still so afraid. I feel that if I let myself go I’ll be hurt like all the times before. It’s hard to want something so badly – it makes you desperately afraid of loosing it. I also worry that I’m too insecure for my man – he’s seven years older than I, incredibly good looking, and at peace with himself. I worry that there are women out there that are better for him, and I worry that he’ll see my insecurities and realize he’d rather be with someone else. Yet, despite all of the times I’ve worried myself into a tizzy, and been overly emotional with him, he’s still here. He keeps choosing to be with me even though I sometimes don’t understand why. In the past I’ve always been able to point to things I add to the relationship – security, guidance, maturity, etc. In this case I don’t feel like I have something material I can offer him. But you know what? Love is a gift – a gift freely given, not bought. All I can give Jerry is my love, and his love is a gift freely returned. It’s the same with you and your man, dear Shop.

I will give you the same advice I give myself every day – There is no safe bet in love. There is no sure shot. Love is a blind leap into the unknown. Your man told you he loved you because he DOES (a sag is always honest). He chooses to be with you because he WANTS to be with you (despite or even because of your insecurities). There is always a chance that his feeling will change in the future and he’ll leave and break your heart – there’s a chance he will cheat – but you know what? You stand the same chance with every man. If you allow yourself to pull back now you’ll be doing nothing but denying yourself a chance at real happiness. Right now you have something beautiful in front of you, dear Shop. So just close your eyes and leap. Open your arms and accept love freely given. Try not to worry about tomorrow.

posted January 14, 2006 01:10 PM            

Please read your post on Saggies and commitment and there is also one that I will post here by Dorkus - http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/007822.html

Basically- Saggies feel that there are MANY levels of love. I LOVE pizza.. I LOVE my cats.. I LOVE my family.... the word is the same, but the feeling is different.

I tell my good friends I love them, but when I feel that those of the opposite sex may take it wrong, I don't say those words.

Loving and being IN love are two different emotions as well. If you are in a relationship with this person and he looks you in the eye and says 'I love you so much.. or I love you honey".. He means it...

Also... look at his ACTIONS... Fire signs are action oriented. So when we love we SHOW that we love by doing little things and by spending time with that person.

Archers are normally busy and then we also like our quiet time alone. If he is making time for you and entertaining you.. well guess what... he is SHOWING you how he feels.

posted January 14, 2006 06:25 PM              

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you a-hole

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Like it.

Didn't mean any offence love. You just need a wake-up call that's all. Yes you are over-analysing it as you say. What else will wake you out of it - a wishy washy Piscean sentiment - i think not.
Live more by faith, and yes just be open with him about your insecurities, and that way you'll get the answers you want.

posted January 15, 2006 01:41 PM            

No one is ever at a point in their lives where they are ready to accept a broken heart or being broken into pieces. I have yet, in my 36 years, to find someone, even myself that said 'Wow... everything is fine and DANDY.. I think I could go for a heartbreak about now!!!"

LMAO.. I am being a bit sarcastic... when my ex-fiance and I broke up.. it set off a series of events. I had to still live in the same house with him for over a month, then I signed a lease, moved, got laid off... So there I was... or here I am, I guess you could say. ..LOL... No one wants that pain, but it happens...

I am not saying it will happen to you BUT you are increasing your chances the more you fret about things. He will pick up the insecurity and it will drive him away.

Live for what you have and enjoy it. If there are valid fears about the future, then maybe that is what you need to really address. Does he have some problems that will cause trauma in the future? What is it that is making you feel so insecure about the relationship?