posted February 16, 2006 10:47 AM         

I do not know you can really lose yourself in an Aqua guy, I did but I found myself again triple fold and it was worth the pain I went through losing him casue now I am 10x's better...

posted February 16, 2006 11:09 PM         

So, I decide we'll just be friends...but yet, he is still talking about me in a sexual way...all the while he is dating someone...and I actually know this girl! After he confides in me about this girl, I ask him what attracted him to me because I am NOTHING like the types of women he goes for...I mean, he admits that he loves her to me! Oddly, his girlfriend now resembles his recently divorced wife!!! Ok, his response to that question was "I don't know what you want me to tell you..."

*BLANK STARE*

posted February 17, 2006 12:43 AM         

Mine have been
Kinky
Open Minded
Scared of Confrontation
Careful with money
Very curious about others
Private to the point of deception
Addicted to certain routines
Crazy about Sag or Scorpios
Not interested in children

It's almost like being with a Scorp except that they change loyalties to the friend who provides more social activities.

The one good thing about Aquas that I have known is that they forget any fight you have within a reasonable amount of time and are forgiving as friends. Other people remember every slight and get emotional.

Again great therapists for other people.

posted February 18, 2006 01:37 PM         

there is nothing quite as Mystically Beautiful.

posted February 19, 2006 07:47 PM         

Do YOU think it could really work??

only you know for sure and you have to be real with yourself. That is what love and devotion is, devotion to the idea. Can he do that?

If not then find someone else who can give you the best of him and more.

But why chance a divorce?? It's so painful and messy.

posted February 19, 2006 10:57 PM         

"If the Aquarian man can give the Sagittarian woman...".

Especially so, if there are respective Scorpio/Piscean influences in their natals. (and some men are so Uranian influenced they may as well be Aquarians...this isn't just about Sun Signs .)

merlot, I'm terribly sorry to hear of your anguish. Love fortionately/unfortionately isn't something you can control. It's beyond us.
But it does come when you release, yet without anger and resentment... instead with loving acceptance.
If he is to find a way to you, it will be on his own time, in his own way.
Time is gentle in Love when the Love is True. It has its cycles it must move through...that each of you will have to move through on your own to gain understanding enough to join each other in Pure intent.
Without motive, calculation, constraints or conditions hindering the beauty of its expression.
Time seems very harsh to a lover so heartbroken and forsaken.
But...if it is meant to be, it will.
If may not be. But, there has to be a let go, in order to receive. That's the way of the Universe...especially the Aquarian and Sagittarian Universe. It's two unconventional souls coming together...it isn't meant to be conventional.
Look for stereotypes...look for guidelines rules or regulations, and each of you will defy them (and love will elude you).
Another shared trait; rebellion.

Perhaps seek Your Own Truth for now. Remember and return to yourself.
You cannot lose what cannot be lost~ You.
You can't lose that treasure. Remember how special you are...how beautiful and how loving. Either way, his choice doesn't reflect on you. He is journeying and learning...just as everyone. %ucking up or not, it's not of you. It's a helpless and frustrating feeling. But...you have to surrender, like you said. Like grasping frantically for a feather in the air, the mere force of your exertion pushes it away.

If it is Destiny...time will tell. But don't let that occupy your attention too much. Focus on Life Now for Living however you can.
Easier said then done, I know. He did you wrong. It isn't healthy as it is now, and glad you see that.
Time does heal. Whether we expect it to or not. Horizons open for you again when you least expect them to.

Much to you.

posted February 20, 2006 11:29 PM         

But if someone can't commit to you, then he can't commit to a lifelong partnership right? So I don't think he's ready to be caught at all, just testing himself, and leaning towards you. Deep down he is rebellious towards any commitment-and yes I know tons of Aquas and they are all divorced, getting divorced or thinking about divorce.

They just like to break things off and get back together, feels natural to Aquas.

If you love someone and have been through a sudden break for no reason, it's too painful to go back, you don't need a steady lover, just someone who sees the best in you, and believes in you. He doesn't have to be married to you to do that, but he isn't going to be a partial guy friend either.

There are guys out there who would love to spend time with you, just to be your friend, for years. Get some of those and then date.

It feels better,
I can understand you a bit because I have jupiter trine sun and sag rising and sag mars. I don't need to get married again either but I have come to realize honesty is just too good for me, and so someone who is not my true friend is not someone I want to hang out with-unless it's at work.

Even then I prefer to work with people I like and know.

I know a great Aqua who is involved with a married woman. The subject came up once and then I never wanted to talk about it again. I make sure I lead in discussions and that's fine with him, it's movies, work, people we know, art, theatre, but not romance, not his romances-friends don't need to know, they need to have fun with each other.

Dating is very much like shopping, you have to pick something fast.

My tip with male friends is don't flirt, keep it steady. Flirt with ones you really want.

It's more fun to be passionate than cool, but what you don't see is that your Aqua is pursuing what's easy and it's not your life. You were meant for more passion and that means the real thing. The real thing is not scary if you have male friends to hang out, there's no drama or fear.

The detached fly away lover isn't as interesting when you have more support.

Anyway that's how I see your situation from the outside, I could be wrong, but I do have a lot of fire in my chart too.

I broke it off with an Aqua last summer but recently had some health problems and I know he never would have supported me through it. I feel bad even talking to him about my health because he doesn't know what to say or do. How could I depend on someone like that, or push him? He can't be the kind of man I imagined him to be, or the one he wants to be. He wants to build a life and I couldn't perfect myself to stay in it. It was physically impossible for me to stay and so he had to detach.

But there are few women who could put up with his exacting standards-his daughter who is a very quiet Libra is devoted to him. Aqua men depend on a woman who looks up, and who needs him, plus he has a vision of himself as forever young.

There are some big conflicts in Aqua men about being committed because of how things stay the same, and that makes them feel old. Not saying anything bad about Aquas exactly because they are better for me than Libras, but they are conflicted and like to complicate things.