posted February 20, 2006 09:30 PM         

I just take that as it is, assure her that she is nothing like a possession to me. Funny thing is, she is jealous of women when they talk to me or approach me. Exactly the kind of woman I want.

posted March 04, 2006 12:38 PM         

I recently found out that this "affair" had gone on a lot longer than I thought and my good friend supposedly went on with it for almost a year, while in a relationship as well. They were both in relationships for a long time and during this little indescretion. Until now, I thought it was maybe a one or two time thing, but I found out, through means of which I cannot confront either of them about it.

I really do not want to confront my girlfriend about it again. I feel as if I am beating a dead horse, but I really feel like my friend needs to be eliminated from the picture. It wouldn't be very difficult to do because he's done a lot of things lately that neither I nor my girlfriend like very much.

I guess I'm just hurt and have to find a way to rationalize my feelings within myself. I really want all of this to work, and it is, but this hurt I have inside needs to go away. I guess I just fear it will happen again, even the slightest, and it bothers me to no end. I need to get over that.

posted March 04, 2006 06:04 PM         

*I don't know what to do*
well .. maybe avoid taking any drastic action for now (just a suggestion)

1 .. for ppl born between '85 and '87 aprox .. transiting Saturn has been and will be aspecting .. by square .. their natal Pluto .. ( so includes yourself )
2 .. I reckon your chart may be inaccurate .. in that natal Pluto could be pretty close to your Descendant (opposite your Ascendant ) and natal Sun be in your 1st house ..
the reason is that my software calculates the time difference between GMT/UT and the longitude latitude data given ( .. it shows Univ.Time at 10:10 am for those co-ordinates) ..

that Saturn transit will be in effect 'till at least June'06 .. .. .. shall post this version of your chart here in the next few days .. with transits .. .. then maybe a new post in the astro forum to see what feedback can be obtained ....

meanwhile .. maybe take a look thru these 2 sites for info regarding Saturn and Pluto ..
plus 'how to read a chart' via the symbols .. you may find that useful for the future ...
info about 'transits' in astrology can be found at these links .. http://www.cafeastrology.com/predictiveastrology.html http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/TOClessons.htm

i would suggest investigating/understanding these transits in your chart by whatever means ..

transits by close orb (under 1.5 degree)

short term .. ( 1 week aprox )
transiting Venus square natal N.Node
transiting Mars conjunct natal Lillith / opposite natal Saturn

long term .. most of 2006 aprox .. and lots going back over 2005
transiting Saturn square natal Pluto
transiting Neptune sextile natal Moon
transiting Uranus square natal Venus
transiting Chiron trine natal Lillith / square natal Pluto / sextile natal Saturn

transiting Chiron and Saturn will be effecting your peer group ( at least aspecting their natal Pluto )
be aware that transts effect ppls inner emotions ... and ppl react to same ..

posted March 06, 2006 10:23 PM         

some links that may help with your transit information above ..

about Lillith http://www.antonia-langsdorf.de/dateien/astrologie-antonia-langsdorf-essay.php
Outer Planets http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/008521.html
Neptune transits http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/008523.html
Uranus transits http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/008522.html
Pluto transits http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/008524.html

be some basic info about aspects / transits at http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk

posted March 09, 2006 09:00 PM         

I completely agree with what pixelpixie said:
"But if entering a new relationship, where all the needs are met... they shouldn't be thought of as a 'cheater', as it was situational and must be treated with understanding of the situation, not as a character affront.
We respond to the containers we are placed in. It doesn't mean we can never change shape when in a better container.
Work on making the container a good one."

All those wasted energies on jealousy... perhaps is better focused on creating a better relationship.

Most people cheat because the current relationship is lacking something that their psyche deem important; perhaps even unconciously. If you do love her, then instead of smoulthering her with jealousy and suspicions, perhaps try showering her with love and affection. Pisces respond to gentle probing and lots of affection; not confrontations.

I know a Pisces-Taurus couple, the Pisces (who happens to be a guy), is a very close friend of mine. He once confided in me that his wife, who is very very possessive, would pick fights if she wants something from him.

An example would be if she wants him to go to a party with her, and he had said no, would continually nag and throw jealous tantrums saying that maybe the reason he doesn't want to go is because he is having an affair and does not want to be with her. He secretly confided in me that if she had just change tactics and instead of picking fights and throwing jealous tantrums, do something like, seduce him into going with her to the party... he would have gladly gave up any prior committments he had and do what she wants.

If you love her, seduce your Pisces girl, join her in her beautiful dream world... make her happy and she will never leave or cheat on you. Do not give her a reason to lie, and cheat on you...

Best of luck to both of you and hope you find true happiness.

Miss Muffet

posted March 10, 2006 01:18 AM         

I think the situation has gotten to a very good point. We can both look at eachother's past and laugh at it. Take it in stride and I feel as if no offense is taken at all. This is definitely the point I wish to be at. I guess I just try to make sense of every little thing in this world as if I can grasp it in my hands. I can't, so I shall take everything as it comes.