posted March 27, 2006 10:20 PM         

I feel your pain --I know what it is like ---Just read over my thread. Just know I am being tested right now. Not to become a full blown Scorpion whose tail has been stepped on due to the pain I have so dear sister I am right with you crying those rivers of tears

posted March 28, 2006 12:11 AM         

I was also confused by a sag whose words said friendship and actions said love.
May be he is playing safe. have you read "emotional Vampaires" thread by HD here?

posted March 28, 2006 03:11 AM         

many (NOT ALL) men grow up in a society that feeds them subconscious ideas about who they should be and how they should feel (or not feel) and so sometimes regardless of a man's astrology he might have issues with expressing his feelings. So many men do (and I know many women do as well but I believe that is more inherent in men for many reasons) and so that could be the reason.

I am a Cancer and I was with a Cancer man for 7 years. In the beginning he was very emotionally repressed but after years of knowing it was okay to express himself he finally felt comfortable to do so. Not that I would suggest ever waiting around for years like I did (I was a lot younger and not as wise) but I think that there are many cases of men with a discomfort of feeling which is too bad.

Having said all that, I'm sorry you are so heartbroken. The amazing thing is that you can look back and have no regrets about not giving your love freely...b/c that's the thing most people will regret in the end.

posted March 28, 2006 04:44 AM         

Am so, so sorry.

Wishing you all the love and healing light on the planet

Sometimes I get so cynical about men/love/relationships...and I'm only 19.

It seems like so many males are afraid of feeling anything too powerful/intense. So they hide...only to later realize they lost an AMAZING woman. And often try to get her back after realizing their mistake. By then, many women have moved on and want nothing to do with this person. Both parties go through so much pain..but at different times, maybe? I think with men, sometimes they can push it away for a while, but eventually, it comes back and starts gnawing at them. Just a guess, though, from some of my own experiences. (I'm far from being an expert).

Take extra good care of yourself in the next few days, okay? Stop back in and let us know how you're doing. I'm so, so sorry to hear that your heart has been through so much. You seem like such a lovely, intelligent, ultra-caring person. I think you will definitely find the right person who loves and appreciates you.

posted March 28, 2006 10:41 PM         

This is a post I sent a couple of years ago that may help you understand the complexities of Cancer Males. I thought the exact same thing that you did, that he was not acting as lovable and cuddly and needy as the characteristics of his sign.

As a matter of fact he was downright cold and seemed to have forgotten me just as easily as he met me.

But I am over him and truly happy dating.

posted March 30, 2006 06:33 AM         

Love and light to you. (((((AppleLove)))))

Tis nothing I could say that would mend your broken heart, only time and reflection will help you move on. But please know we are here for you. For sometimes just expressing how you feel is a weight lifted off your shoulders.

You will go through a range of emotions working your way through your pain. Just try to remember that in order to grow we need to experience a variety of things, and love is but one of them.

You know, I was just thinking today that hearts can break at any age. That's the great thing about love, it can happen at any time, to anybody, at any age.

But love is a risk. It's about two people coming together, and taking a leap of faith. Sometimes, one person takes a bigger leap than the other. Sometimes, one person takes the leap while the other one stays on the safety of the cliff.

I know it's hard but you should celebrate the fact that you took that leap. To put yoursElf out there, and risk being hurt is a big, big thing. Wow, how much you will grow through this experience.

I think it's true what they say....it's better to have loved and lost than not loved at all. Ask yoursElf, would you have changed anything if you had your time again? Our love experiences (and life experiences for that matter) all play a part in making us the people that we are. I know it's cold comfort when you feel your heart has been ripped out and stomped on, but......you gave yoursElf permission to love, and to exhibit that love to another human being. That is the greatest gift that you can bestow on another person.

Hold your head up high, and be gentle to yoursElf. You are love. You are strong, and not afraid to express that love. How lovely to know such a person. One day, you will look back on this experience with no pain.

posted April 01, 2006 08:49 AM         

TAKE THIS TEST!
READ THE ENTIRE THREAD!
Very revealling!
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum7/HTML/006312.html

posted April 02, 2006 11:58 AM         

This advice is for ANYONE who thinks Cancerians are too moody or cold.
Many times the Cancerian is misunderstood because his extreme caution and slow going, makes many folks think he does not care.
Not true!
It usually has more to do with him and his readiness than whether he is interested or not in you.

He must be ready.

Do not rush a Cancerian.

Do not try to make him feel guilty for not being ready.

Do not assume he is cold.

Take a look back at your expectations.
If you want a man who will just jump right in without thinking....telling you all the lovely things you want to hear...
and expect that from Mr.Cancer.
You might as well give up....
unless you are willing to back up and slow down...
give him time.
If he cannot be your friend...and you his....

To wait and see what evolves...

then find someone more inclined to snap and quick descisions in Romance and love.
Because if that is what you need...

Then Mr.Cancerian is not or you.

If you must have it all now...and cannot be friends first, and have patience...he will think you too shallow and Too NEEDY....that you are selfishly thinkng only of what you want, desire and need...not giving him a chance to move at his own speed.

He waits until he KNOWS for sure.
And is ready in other aspects of his life too...like his job, etcetera.
"Good things come to those who wait"
He believes that...especially in matters as SERIOUS as love.

I personally feel it is/was worth the wait.

posted August 12, 2006 10:47 AM         

Plus there is a puritanical side to Cancer males that always makes me feel silly.

Okay anyone know a Cancer male that ever proposed marriage? Seems I had to practically beg my Cancer male to see me and when he did he was happy that i was "his".

They are very energetic and like children, very sweet that way. But the grudges. No kiss when expected and then no coffee in the morning. No hugs for days.