posted April 24, 2006 02:24 AM         

It is all a collective.

You might interact with her and she poos on your plans, and you'd think "That's her Saturn squaring my Sun" Rather than.. Geez, she really got up on the wrong side of the bed today."

All an assessment tool.

That being said... I try to resist, as it colours the way I see things.. but I mean, that's not even accurate, as I generally weasel their Sun sign , as Astrology comes up quite frequently in my interactions anyway.

So, basically... I don't know what I am talking about, so hopefully another will come on in and give their opinion.
My Libra Mercury is throwing too many factors in.

posted April 24, 2006 03:32 AM         

My husband and I had a composite 5th house - but I only found that out several years AFTER our marriage.

At the end of the day your own gut feelings are more important than being *told what to feel*, in whatever subliminal way, from extraneous sources.

posted April 24, 2006 09:36 AM         

But, I keep in mind that what I think something may mean, will mostly likely in the end mean something very different then what I originally thought and more often reveals stuff I hadn't considered at the time.
Looking at a past relationship chart when in a more objective frame of mind,with more distance is helpful in realizing this.
Life most often takes us by suprise, especially if we think we know anything.
Especially then.

posted April 24, 2006 12:05 PM         

as Pixelz said : ** You might interact with her and she poos on your plans, and you'd think "That's her Saturn squaring my Sun" Rather than.. Geez, she really got up on the wrong side of the bed today." **

I certainly wouldn't make any assumptions based on astrology ..
nor would i be put off if the other person as just about to have a run of difficult transits .. if one falls in love .. that's it .. for the good times and the bad times .. hand in hand ..

posted April 24, 2006 12:26 PM         

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first i check my head .. then my wallet .. then my heart to see that it ain't wearing rose tinted glasses

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Nice!

I welcome everyone to keep responding, but I will say that I have a hard time keeping my curiosity in check, so I did look at the charts, so I am tainted. Gemini Rising [is] ever-curious, and, unfortunately, always looking for an out when it comes to relationships. I think I'll still see if there's something there or not. It's not every day I get picked up on by a Pisces (I blame Jupiter conjuncting my Sun/Moon midpoint).

posted April 24, 2006 02:09 PM         

Good luck

HD: I try to remember those rules. I just always go temporarily stupid and throw caution to the wind. Eeeesshh

posted April 24, 2006 02:30 PM         

curiosity .. brought about by an upsurge in blood pressure .. ;;-)) .. she hardly speaks a word of english .. may have to adjust radar set accordingly .. .. it's silly .. but i feel it's a duty towards 'curiosity' to suss the synastry ..
must watch my step though .. keep my distance .. i think her relatives carry knives ..
If i were a cat .. i'd be dead by now ..
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*Why can't someone with perfect synastry come find me?*
ain't no such thing .. and if her synastry were to be perfect ..
you'd probably find trouble with the mother-in-law .. or her pet snake ..

i've got an odd feeling this current uranus transit on my merc. .. is going to backfire on me somehow .. just a niggly feeling .. ain't backfiring on the musical level .. that's for sure ..
which reminds me ag .. you fancy a percussion loop to mess with? .. about 12 meg in wav format .. some friends gave me a cd of their percussion group performance (all trad instruments) and i took bits out of it and got them to loop .. .. wasn't easy considering the nature of the rythmns .. .. came out a bit 'manic' in parts ..

1Scorp
* I just always go temporarily stupid and throw caution to the wind.*
.. yeah me to .. when all's said and done ..
probably a tad more cautious these days .. but just as 'choosy' as usual ..
i like the temporary stupidity bit .. we all need that once in a while .. as a reminder ..

posted April 24, 2006 02:35 PM         

Then as the relationship progresses I like to look at their individual chart. I will let them know I am doing it and share the information with them. If they balk at it, then I pretty much know they aren't someone that I can spend time with anyway and nothing progresses. Basically, if they can't accept that I like astrology or if they ridicule it, they will also ridicule my belief in American Indian metaphysics / shamanism. I need someone that is open minded.

That is not to say that I haven't met people that "pretend" they care about astrology (my ex did this and once we had comitted to each other, then he decided he thought it was a bunch of bullcrap).

In any case, after the initial stage of looking at his chart, then I move to synastry / composites - again, sharing with the person and only doing so to identify our potential problems and solutions.

I don't shove it on the person, and instead I try to use it as a tool to open other dialogues about our personal natures.

I do love how synastry works though and will observe it in action. The trick is to not let it rule. Happy Dragon is right, instead of attributing all things as absolutes, such as "Well, we are not agreeing on religion because he has Jupiter square Saturn". Instead look at where potential hang up may occur and LET THINGS PLAY OUT.

Oddly enough, the charts of my ex husband and fiance did indicate where we would have numerous problems. My ex-fiance and I had an extremely harsh aspect between my moon and his pluto and his moon and my pluto. That was just the beginning...LOL...

I like the motto 'all things in moderation'

posted April 24, 2006 06:24 PM         

We are supposed to get along famously ( was previously married to a Snake - the other compatible sign- but he was also a Virgo with a Gemini Moon)

The Ox just so happens to also be a Leo Sun / Pisces moon / Merc in Leo.

The common theme of our composite chart is gobs and gobs of fun communication (this is also dominant in our synastry charts). Most of our aspects are compatible, but we have a few stressful ones of course LOL...

Don't know what I'd do if my Pluto didn't clash with someone's personal planets LOL... My Pluto conjuncts his Venus I have pluto square venus in my own chart.

posted April 25, 2006 09:14 AM         

I don't really know much about it.

posted April 25, 2006 11:32 AM         

But then when I drop little lines in appropriate places that show I might be equating them to that they get a bit miffed.

I really try not to, but it always explains why all my relationships end so badly, or never actually begin properly in the first place and is usually accurate, or at least a bloody handy scapegoat. Bloody superficial Gemini Moons...etc

A connection between these facts? Nahhhhhh......

posted April 25, 2006 01:55 PM         

I think "horse" equates to "gemini" .. "snake" to "taurus" .. and i forget the rest ..

posted April 25, 2006 02:36 PM         

HD ~ Monsieur Snake must be shared

Here's a list of the years and elements and yin/yang.....

posted April 26, 2006 12:07 AM         

What, don't you all have key selection criteria for your prospective partners????

My top three criteria are:
1. must be compatible astrological sign
2. must have sideburns
3. must have sexual chemistry

Right, well that could explain why I'm currently single.

Okay, so that was partly a joke but I must confess that I do usually lexigram their name. And if my first name is in their name, they get bonus points.

Lalalala, is it getting warm in here?