posted April 27, 2006 07:20 PM         

I was together with a scorpio male (26th Oct.1973) That was 12 years ago!

I can't forget about him, I dream of him every night, it's unreal I think he was soulamte.
I am a cancer myself (25th June 1973)

I don't know what to do, I think about him 24/7, as time passes it just gets worse.
The dreams the thoughts, make want to contact him so badly.

What do you guys think?
I am new to this and haven't got a clue, how to figure this out.
I'm tyring to learn about astrology, but it's not as easy as I thought it would be.

posted April 28, 2006 02:22 PM         

The Scorpio male... very hard to forget, I know all too well... they leave a huge..for lack of a better word... "imprint" on your life... your heart.. and most assuredly your soul..

{{{Hugs}}} to you!

You can go to astro.com and there are a lot of free charts available... You will need the time and place of birth to get the most information...here as well

you said,
"The dreams the thoughts, make want to contact him so badly."

"What do you guys think?"

Why not call him?

posted May 31, 2006 02:54 PM         

Until recently, I would have TOTALLY agreed with you. I am a Cancer with my own Scorpio man issue that I'm still working through, funnily enough, and for once in my case I'm pretty sure that the bulk of the feelings rest on my side of the fence.

And this is disconcerting to say the least since I always believed that if there was that much energy between me and someone else, surely they felt it too.

This, of course, is not to say that Celly and her Scorpio are not different. After 12 years, maybe it's time to have another chat??? I think so. And I'd love to hear what happens if you do talk to him.

Ah, Scorpios.

posted May 31, 2006 07:35 PM         

Is this not the scorpio you want to get away from? Does he still want to be with you? Whats the situation?

posted June 01, 2006 02:36 AM         

The truth is that the only reason that I am trying to 'get away' from my Scorp is because he is almost 5 years younger than me and although I believe age is just a number, I think that in so many cases, until men hit their Saturn Return period, they may not completely know who they are. At least I believe that to be true for my particular Scorp for a variety of reasons.

I believe that a certain amount of life and relationship experience is usually necessary to appreciate what you have (when you've got a good thing, and I think I'm a pretty good thing). That is the really short version of it. To tell the whole story would be pages and pages even if I wrote in point form! Ha!

Basically, he was not ready to be with me the way I was (am?) ready to be with him. I know he loved (loves?) me but he was not 'in love'. I was. I am. Ugh.

Anyhow, I am moving forward after bugging IQ Hunk about Karma asteroid synastry positions for a week or two. I know that my Scorp and I have karma with one another but I suspect now that maybe our time together is meant to be over.

The problem that I have been having is that it doesn't feel over in the way that all my other relationships have felt over...and that includes the one I had with another Cancer that lasted for 5 years of friendship love and then another 7 years of romantic love. Maybe it's just the whole Scorpio/Cancer thing? Sooooo intense and passionate.

I was reading another thread in the Astro section and Swerve said "once you are at the stage where you are looking after him or "opening him up", the power dynamics are NOT in your favour. He'll be alright tomorrow, while you are smitten and have invested."

That's sort of what happened, even though I am generally savvy to that stuff, I still got pulled in my Mr. Scorp in that way. I had the two most blissful months of my life and then WHAM he got scared, reacted, got mean, I forgave him but nothing was ever the same after that even though we were together for a while. But at the beginning he was like my Dream Boy (boy perhaps being the operative word here).

So he's with someone else now and even though I love him, I am moving on so that he can experience whatever he needs to. He kept begging me to come back to him, but it got old after a few months of his promises with nothing to back them up.

The horrible truth is that I have never had a worse break up than this one and I cried for five months. It was especially hard since we work together 2 or 3 days a week and he is now dating one of my co-workers.

I am doing better now because I am surrendering myself to whatever path the universe offers up. I have always believed in trusting the universe, but my faith was severely tested in this case.

Anyhow, I suppose that's enough venting for now. In the end, it's always better to have experienced love, even if I am/was the one doing the bulk of the loving.

ironically signing off,

posted June 01, 2006 05:30 AM         

Are you still here, we are all eagerly waiting for your reply...

Love,

posted June 01, 2006 06:30 AM         

Love,

So it was basically "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

Those scorpios are so hard to get away from huh? I'm a cancer with a scorpio right now. I may be sounding naive but its starting to work. We've had problems, mostly on my part. I tend to have trust issues which did hurt him, but he understands. I feel like he's a really decent guy though. He's been patient with me. I don't know how things will end up in the future but whatever happens, happens, and it's always for a reason.

posted June 01, 2006 12:17 PM         

I’m struggling with the second one now. It’s almost over. I fought against an on-and-off kind of relationship for a year, while we were not officially together but we were, so drawn we were to each other…

It was exactly what you said:

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I had the two most blissful months of my life and then WHAM he got scared, reacted, got mean, I forgave him but nothing was ever the same after that even though we were together for a while.

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Only physical distance worked. And I still took a year to start thinking right and believe I would overcome it. We haven’t contacted each other for 6 months now. I sometimes miss him. In occasions, very badly. But I know it’s over. There is no space for it anymore. He wasn’t for me. He must be in a relationship, happily enjoying it; I know that is the reason for his silence. He was kind of compulsive and came back when he felt needy. He always came back. The truth is I don’t want to know. And I bet he doesn’t want to know about a possible new boyfriend of mine. That’s why I’m not knocking on his door. And I won’t, no matter how strong the temptation, when I’m back in his country next year for work.

Funnily enough, I was the one not passing my Saturn return (I’m going through it now) while he was older.

What I feel now is that kind of resignation very close to understanding. Why it didn’t worked. Why he is not for me. Why it was so beautiful and painful. Why I need to keep it just as it is and move on.

You can survive a broken heart by a Scorpio male. I did it once. That guy was the person I connected more closely in my whole life. I still remember him after 8 years. But I don’t yearn for him anymore. I will go over the second too.

Celly,

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I don't know what to do, I think about him 24/7, as time passes it just gets worse.
The dreams the thoughts, make want to contact him so badly.

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